I don't understand...

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I was too interested in football and drawing when I was 14. Not that I'd have wanted a boyfriend anyway.

I was expending all of my energy just trying to be "normal" (a waste of time that was; but...uh, it got me here...wherever that is) and hopefully not stand out too much encase I drew unwanted attention...it didn't really work.

I was too busy “surviving” to look at females…not that I’d understand them anyway by looking at them [and talking was out of the equation].

Girls confuse me. Actually everyone confuses me. But especially the girl ones.

Yes...when thinking, observing and trying to interact with those whom you're sexually attracted to adds a whole slew of confusion to our already confounded mind states.

I'm unsure if I should cry or laugh; I'd probably cry if I could.

'Normal' men confuse me. I have always gravitated towards those more like myself or who stand out as being more intellectual and quirky. I had one male at my landlords club try and chat me up,so I am assuming, yesterday and I had no desire to talk. Asked if I live locally...God, how cliched and yawnworthy can you get? With hindsight, I should have said, 'I shall be moving if you live anywhere nearby' I abhor all of that crap...flirting, chatting up...makes me think of a bloody cattle market.

Me too. I feel sick thinking about the prospect of communicating to a girl I like. I make a big enough mess of it talking to anyone else.

Me too, too...I've decided that I'm going to do it, but I'm unsure if I’ll even be comprehensible to myself let alone to her; hopefully I’ve interpreted her body language incorrectly and she’ll hate me on the spot, that sounds far easier to live with than trying to learn to know her.

I have till September to worry about seeing a girl I like. The one good chance I had to talk to her i just looked away, picked up a book about Hitler and walked off.

Which one am I supposed to say: poor you or lucky you? ‘cause I cannot see anything other than the lucky you at the moment. A few days at most is my day of reckoning, day of judgement; day of death. That last one is probably a bit too much, but it sure does feel like it....

I probably won't actually talk to her.
I can never tell with women whether they're being nice to me or not. How do I know if they're smiling at me because they're being friendly or if they're just really laughing at me because they think I'm a tosser?

I'd tell you if I knew. I suppose it'd be much harder for you, due to the majority of females being attracted to males [I think]; well an easy one is if you smile at them and they return it sheepishly, i.e., their face may become flushed and they may look down; I believe this means that there’s “something” there other than peer to peer friendship.

Laughing: I’m unsure…said individual laughed at something I said (I’ve been speaking a little for a little bit now, yay me!) when I didn’t really think it was funny…rather it was said as a statement. This might mean something….

I've noticed that when they use a “softer” voice to you than what they normally use around other people means something too….

It's confusing...when they touch you softly they definitely "like" you though.

Yeah, my life would be slightly easier if more girls were gay.
The only positive sign I've had is that she smiles at me sometimes and looks at me in lectures. But statistically, the chances aren't good. I'm terrible at smiling at people as well. I either panic and don't do it, or I grin like a maniac.

Yes…if they were all gay my life would be completely flawless.

Ah...I think smiling and looking at you is a "good" thing, I mean...I don't go around smiling at men; even if I wasn't socially ret*d I wouldn't do it...I've only smiled at like two females ever, each within the past year; one I'm quite positive who "likes" me, and I smiled at her because she was smiling at me...I thought then was a good time to start as any. Similar reason for the second time, though I'm unsure if she was just being friendly or not.

Do you smile at your family? I just did that....

I never smile at my family. I don't know why but I find it even harder to smile at people I'm close to. I have two little brothers who are 2 and 6 so I try and smile at them, but I'm not very good at it.
My main problem with girls is if I look at them and they look at me, I just look away as fast as possible. My eye contact is much worse when I like someone.

The only person I show overt emotion to is my mother...well, not now anyway?

It's a hard one...I've "improved" greatly since learning of my disorder, i.e., I'm sure people would think I'd be quite strange if I were to rub my noggin on them if I thought they liked me and I them…whether it’s friendship or romantic.

When I smiled..., I just…uh, did it.

I'm no help, sorry.

I'm sure I'll work it out eventually. Or at least, I hope I will.