I think a girl flirted with me today....

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Working on it.

But...but...I LIKE triangles.

you calling me an NT?

Uhm.....hypothetically I'm an NT, and technically I'm AS.

I'm getting more and more confused.

Waiting for the angle that imports to prononce.
Meanwhile this time I will be looking for a fighting hen avatar!

Hi NeoPlatonist,

I like reading your posts. They're always very introspective, and I see some of myself in you.

Why not try talking about your emotions on something? Not at length, but enough for her to see that there are things you care about.

I'm in second year university, and high school is one of the things that often come up in conversation. Usually I will tell people, "there were a lot of teachers that I really appreciated, but I never told any of them. That's one of the things I regret about school".

Make sure you hold eye contact while saying it, and look for that 2-3 second silence afterwards. That pause means it sunk in - or you screwed up and said something a little strange.

NeoPlatonist,

Although I'm a junior in HS, just hold the fact that there's someone out for you.
Keep that in mind.

Thanks, ooh_choc! I have noticed that I tend to hide my emotions most of the time as a defensive thing. I think it kinda creeps out the people around me when I'm always going around with a blank face. In highschool, people would use any apparent emotions as ammunition against people like me so I learned to hide them. Now I find it really hard to connect to people.

I'm having coffee with Claire tomorrow (I don't know if I've mentioned her name yet here). Today was the last class period for the class we have together and it was mostly people meeting with the teacher individually to talk about essay revisions so we got a chance to talk for a little while. She knows that I am having a lot of academic trouble right now. We had an essay due today that I, of course, have not been able to complete. Through somewhat complicated circumstances, I've gotten massively behind in most of my classes. A lot of it is the strong resurgence of my depression. I wouldn't mind if she knew this about me but I don't want her to think that - if things continued between us - she would have to take care of me all the time. I do have a lot of problems with depression and I don't mind sharing them if the person wants to know but I don't want to burden anyone. I am extremely independent and I've learned how to take care of myself.

If the topic of why I'm behind and depression in general comes up tomorrow, I won't lie about it but I won't make a big deal out of it either.

I think it will go well but I'm not expecting that she will swoon in my arms. We will be in different states over the summer so even if there is a spark, it will be confined to IM and facebook until fall. We will see.....

What are the top things to check for when you think you're being flirted with?

1. If your fly is down.

Neo or Michael,not sure what you prefer to be called.I can relate to you on many levels.If she is asking you out,then I would have to say she is more than comfortable with you as a person.If you are cold in thought like you said,maybe she was raised around or with people/family with similar personality traits and is comfortable with that.If you haven't gone out yet for the coffee,you need to do asap.Ok?Good luck!

Sorry,I missed a part of your entry about the coffee.I have the depression issues also.Although they come and go.It is very difficult sometimes to stay a float.I do find that when something positive happens it can lift me up for a while.I would advise against mentioning your depression at this point,especially on a first date.Do not be ashamed though.Save it for a later time unless you are suicidal and need immediate help.Otherwise try to keep it light and show as much interest in her as possible.If you can before the date,try to remember to smile and make eye contact.I am probably being a hypocrite right now but oh well.It is easy for me to say this than to actually be able to do it.I have to really concentrate and make a conscious effort to make eye contact and smile.If you can remember to do it,It might be enough to elevate your happiness level .Hope it helps.Good luck!

W00t! We had coffee today and talked for about 2 hours. We got along very well and it turns out that we share many of the same interests. We are both into theater and philosophy and we both love talking about it. The issue of depression did come up in the conversation and it turns out that she has also had problems with depression and anxiety in the past so she completely understands. She certainly doesn't seem to be the codependent type though and I am not either so I don't think it will be a big issue. I didn't mention Aspergers because I didn't think it was very relevant to the conversation. I'm not a very trusting person in general but I feel quite comfortable with her.

We will both be on campus for a while after finals so we will definitely hang out again before going home for the summer. We may watch a movie or something like that. I really wish I hadn't sent my giant bean bag home with my brother because now the only seating in my room is my desk chair so we can't really do anything in here.

Thank you all for your encouraging words!

2. If the person flirting with you has facial expressions matching voice tone
3. If your breath is bad

4. If your wallet is still there.

5. If the guy has bad facial hair or horrible BO