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22 Nov 2016, 6:24 pm

sounds like you just have a preference for bigger guys ;) completely normal in both aspies and NTs.

Maybe because you were attracted to him you were more willing to let things go.



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22 Nov 2016, 8:52 pm

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sounds like you just have a preference for bigger guys ;) completely normal in both aspies and NTs.

Maybe because you were attracted to him you were more willing to let things go.


I like being in control, so I was just kind of confused that I'd let my self get wibbly at the knees for someone I wouldn't enjoy past just messing around with.



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22 Nov 2016, 9:03 pm

Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?



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22 Nov 2016, 9:05 pm

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Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.



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22 Nov 2016, 9:13 pm

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Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?



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22 Nov 2016, 9:15 pm

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Mortemire wrote:
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Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.



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22 Nov 2016, 9:31 pm

Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?



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22 Nov 2016, 9:34 pm

Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?


Yes, it was a free for all really. The school disgusted me with their decision making (as they seemed to have no knowledge of how what they picked would upset the students and set off violent reactions the staff first-hand would have to contain)

For a while he received work from my teacher that he could do at home. I think he attends a popular college in the city with the help of actually qualified staff. I cried when he left because the school had failed him. And since then they've failed me.



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22 Nov 2016, 9:50 pm

Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?


Yes, it was a free for all really. The school disgusted me with their decision making (as they seemed to have no knowledge of how what they picked would upset the students and set off violent reactions the staff first-hand would have to contain)

For a while he received work from my teacher that he could do at home. I think he attends a popular college in the city with the help of actually qualified staff. I cried when he left because the school had failed him. And since then they've failed me.
Sounds sick. And whats striking is that your unit was meant to look after autistic people. How can the people looking after them not know how to deal with those situations. Its nice to see that the boy has now received extra support.

Its a tough life living with Low Functioning Autism. And I feel that we as people who are High Functioning cannot grasp how it is at all. Their was an autistic girl in my private school who was routinely called stupid and strange because she could hardly communicate. As result she couldn't join in and be a part of the girls of her year. Recently she even said she knows what it is like to be depressed.



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22 Nov 2016, 9:53 pm

Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?


Yes, it was a free for all really. The school disgusted me with their decision making (as they seemed to have no knowledge of how what they picked would upset the students and set off violent reactions the staff first-hand would have to contain)

For a while he received work from my teacher that he could do at home. I think he attends a popular college in the city with the help of actually qualified staff. I cried when he left because the school had failed him. And since then they've failed me.
Sounds sick. And whats striking is that your unit was meant to look after autistic people. How can the people looking after them not know how to deal with those situations. Its nice to see that the boy has now received extra support.

Its a tough life living with Low Functioning Autism. And I feel that we as people who are High Functioning cannot grasp how it is at all. Their was an autistic girl in my private school who was routinely called stupid and strange because she could hardly communicate. As result she couldn't join in and be a part of the girls of her year. Recently she even said she knows what it is like to be depressed.


It was. It swept me into a dark depression and because of my violent thoughts and emotional outbursts I'm out of school currently. Hoping to get into a private school that specializes in catering to high-functioning needs from autistic students. The head teacher is autistic herself!

But getting what you need for your child in Britain is a rough and wild fight.



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22 Nov 2016, 10:02 pm

Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?


Yes, it was a free for all really. The school disgusted me with their decision making (as they seemed to have no knowledge of how what they picked would upset the students and set off violent reactions the staff first-hand would have to contain)

For a while he received work from my teacher that he could do at home. I think he attends a popular college in the city with the help of actually qualified staff. I cried when he left because the school had failed him. And since then they've failed me.
Sounds sick. And whats striking is that your unit was meant to look after autistic people. How can the people looking after them not know how to deal with those situations. Its nice to see that the boy has now received extra support.

Its a tough life living with Low Functioning Autism. And I feel that we as people who are High Functioning cannot grasp how it is at all. Their was an autistic girl in my private school who was routinely called stupid and strange because she could hardly communicate. As result she couldn't join in and be a part of the girls of her year. Recently she even said she knows what it is like to be depressed.


It was. It swept me into a dark depression and because of my violent thoughts and emotional outbursts I'm out of school currently. Hoping to get into a private school that specializes in catering to high-functioning needs from autistic students. The head teacher is autistic herself!

But getting what you need for your child in Britain is a rough and wild fight.


That head teacher probably knows how hard it is to get what your child needs. After all she is running a school to cater for High Functioning Autistic people.

A new school environment might be just what you need. When I left my school I was depressed but since then days are allot better, their is allot less conflict in general. This has been the case for me and maybe it is for you but has your school kind of taught your to be more assertive and stick up for yourself?



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22 Nov 2016, 10:04 pm

Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?


Yes, it was a free for all really. The school disgusted me with their decision making (as they seemed to have no knowledge of how what they picked would upset the students and set off violent reactions the staff first-hand would have to contain)

For a while he received work from my teacher that he could do at home. I think he attends a popular college in the city with the help of actually qualified staff. I cried when he left because the school had failed him. And since then they've failed me.
Sounds sick. And whats striking is that your unit was meant to look after autistic people. How can the people looking after them not know how to deal with those situations. Its nice to see that the boy has now received extra support.

Its a tough life living with Low Functioning Autism. And I feel that we as people who are High Functioning cannot grasp how it is at all. Their was an autistic girl in my private school who was routinely called stupid and strange because she could hardly communicate. As result she couldn't join in and be a part of the girls of her year. Recently she even said she knows what it is like to be depressed.


It was. It swept me into a dark depression and because of my violent thoughts and emotional outbursts I'm out of school currently. Hoping to get into a private school that specializes in catering to high-functioning needs from autistic students. The head teacher is autistic herself!

But getting what you need for your child in Britain is a rough and wild fight.


That head teacher probably knows how hard it is to get what your child needs. After all she is running a school to cater for High Functioning Autistic people.

A new school environment might be just what you need. When I left my school I was depressed but since then days are allot better, their is allot less conflict in general. This has been the case for me and maybe it is for you but has your school kind of taught your to be more assertive and stick up for yourself?


I suppose, yes. The school was so crap I denied the possibility that they could help me whatsoever. If I don't get into this new special school me and my mother will be looking in to a special needs unit in a neurotypical college.



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22 Nov 2016, 10:17 pm

Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Shahunshah wrote:
Hey if you are okay answering what made you think he might have ASD?


Hello again my friend,

I assumed he had something like that because he was in the autism unit with me.
Then it seems quite probable. Were their many people in your class with more severe autism?


One had a refusal to being told what to do, there's a name for it, I don't know what it is.

Another screamed and cried every time he was asked to do work.

Another bullied the student that screamed and cried but had lower functioning autism then I. (this student left as he had severe paranoia and was being urged to move to sixth form as he was at that age) the paranoia made him extremely violent.

Another has ADHD and I suspect doesn't think highly of himself whatsoever. I saw him as a little brother.

Sounds like you have seen quite allot firsthand.

That school seems problematic. It sounds like they just pull in people of all different levels of functioning in Autism and expect them to get along in a school environment they are unfamiliar with.

I don't know the exact name for when someone refuses to do what they are told, but I have a friend who was like that for the longest time.

Have you heard from the person with Low Functioning Autism after he moved?


Yes, it was a free for all really. The school disgusted me with their decision making (as they seemed to have no knowledge of how what they picked would upset the students and set off violent reactions the staff first-hand would have to contain)

For a while he received work from my teacher that he could do at home. I think he attends a popular college in the city with the help of actually qualified staff. I cried when he left because the school had failed him. And since then they've failed me.
Sounds sick. And whats striking is that your unit was meant to look after autistic people. How can the people looking after them not know how to deal with those situations. Its nice to see that the boy has now received extra support.

Its a tough life living with Low Functioning Autism. And I feel that we as people who are High Functioning cannot grasp how it is at all. Their was an autistic girl in my private school who was routinely called stupid and strange because she could hardly communicate. As result she couldn't join in and be a part of the girls of her year. Recently she even said she knows what it is like to be depressed.


It was. It swept me into a dark depression and because of my violent thoughts and emotional outbursts I'm out of school currently. Hoping to get into a private school that specializes in catering to high-functioning needs from autistic students. The head teacher is autistic herself!

But getting what you need for your child in Britain is a rough and wild fight.


That head teacher probably knows how hard it is to get what your child needs. After all she is running a school to cater for High Functioning Autistic people.

A new school environment might be just what you need. When I left my school I was depressed but since then days are allot better, their is allot less conflict in general. This has been the case for me and maybe it is for you but has your school kind of taught your to be more assertive and stick up for yourself?


I suppose, yes. The school was so crap I denied the possibility that they could help me whatsoever. If I don't get into this new special school me and my mother will be looking in to a special needs unit in a neurotypical college.
Yeah, I can imagine, but I guess schools like that serve as a constant reminder that someone has it way worse than you.

But one of the good things about moving school is how the dynamic can completely change upon moving.



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23 Nov 2016, 2:35 am

Mortemire wrote:
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sounds like you just have a preference for bigger guys ;) completely normal in both aspies and NTs.

Maybe because you were attracted to him you were more willing to let things go.


I like being in control, so I was just kind of confused that I'd let my self get wibbly at the knees for someone I wouldn't enjoy past just messing around with.


I understand. I am very much the same being hot headed and always ending up in the role of leader.I have always had problems listening to others if I don't see the logic in the instructure. But despite that I actually enjoy when my partner takes control. Of course he is the only person where the is the case.

How old were you at the time? Maybe it was raging hormoes



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23 Nov 2016, 12:06 pm

Alliekit wrote:
Mortemire wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
sounds like you just have a preference for bigger guys ;) completely normal in both aspies and NTs.

Maybe because you were attracted to him you were more willing to let things go.


I like being in control, so I was just kind of confused that I'd let my self get wibbly at the knees for someone I wouldn't enjoy past just messing around with.


I understand. I am very much the same being hot headed and always ending up in the role of leader.I have always had problems listening to others if I don't see the logic in the instructure. But despite that I actually enjoy when my partner takes control. Of course he is the only person where the is the case.

How old were you at the time? Maybe it was raging hormoes


This was VERY recently. I was fifteen. I've left the school now, I wasn't happy leaving the ASD unit.



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29 Nov 2016, 1:43 am

Sounds like you may be a Type A personality who's sexually submissive. (prefers to be dominated sexually, by strength/power/size/decisive actions etc.) It's really not all that uncommon.


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