How to go about getting a boyfriend?

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Probably cause most of us haven't had a gf by 30

Getting a bf at 19 is still in the normal range for most people

Last edited by sly279 on 20 Dec 2016, 2:43 am, edited 1 time in total.

That's really offensive and people wonder why men start to dislike women.

I bet you think all the women who play them aren't like that

What if she's a woman baby who wants another person baby? Or are you saying that there are no women who are immature and mama babies?

I overexaggarated the picture as a joke but yeah. A females goal is to find a male who have more motivations than sex to stick with them and is why they associate sexual desires in men with negativity. Which is why I pointed out that you could meet the ppl on the dancefloor again (to learn about possible other intentions than sexual desires they may have with you, or even spending time with someone can also develop feelings), I didnt say sleep with them.

So you are basically saying that if your boyfriend had shown that one of his desires towards you were sexual you would overgeneralize in order to judge him based on your instincts.

Last edited by Snowcone on 20 Dec 2016, 7:26 am, edited 1 time in total.

Alliekit, I wouldn't say it's easy nor I am agreeing with Snowcone but.....

....first boyfriend at 19 and losing virginity at 18 is completely within the norm; like so many many NTs. It is not a proof nor an indication at all that you had significant difficulties in having relationships.

and you're 22 now and engaged.

You don't convince me at all that you represent a case of someone who had so above-the-normal difficulties in dating - sorry.

There are many guys here and some women in their 30s who haven't had sex yet or never had a long term relationship .

30s - 18 = you're at least 12 years ahead of them.

You make it sounds as if having sex at 18 and first bf at 19 are very delayed, at what age you really think it's not delayed for a girl to have sex and boyfriends? 13? 14?

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 20 Dec 2016, 8:48 am, edited 1 time in total.

That's ridiculous. There are people with serious arrested development that stay on these games and avoid all responsibilities yet are obsessed with relationships and get into relationships with women whom expect maturity and someone who is developed yet all that is hidden from the person - these are toxic from the get go, it's so ridiculously common and I see it so much and I'm always like "I told you not to bother with them" . Of COURSE there are plenty of woman babies but the topic was about dudes which is why I didn't go into it and I was directly responding to the OP. Women on these games can be just as bad - just as ridiculous. I frequently see a lot of "I have a vagina therefore attention me gib free stuff" while everyone else rolls their eyes. In fact to some extent I think the girls can be worse cause some of them acknowledge this and play the guys for free stuff and use them to get to positions of power.

Also not everyone is a raging man hating feminist (I'm not even a feminist lol) just cause they say the phrase man baby, it's actually a pretty common term for gamer women in general because we frequently come across these types that harass us for our gender or stalk us, it literally just means an immature guy.



If she's a woman baby and wants a man baby then go for it (but I doubt it as she hasn't got time for mmo's anyway cause responsibilities like she stated), have fun getting a toxic relationship off a game or in the rare instance that it actually ever works out for that long. I've been playing mmos on and off for 17 years and I hardly ever see them working out for more than a few years apart from very rare instances. xD

Most of the time the relationship will last like say a year online or something, then when they meet up they don't like each other for whatever reason, or they do but the relationship only lasts like another year because one of them is toxic/dramatic/unreasonable or just plain hard work to keep happy usually.

http://www.mmorpg.com/columns/love-gone ... 1000003798

Of course, I do know people who have gotten together through games who have gotten married and whatever but we're talking 10+ years of them knowing each other offline and online plus they all also knew each other through mutual friends anyway who were fairly local. Those are the only successful kind of online relationships I ever see that work but there's also some kind of familiarity anyway which is why I see it works for some but hardly as often as proper dating in the real world. It's not immature to date on mmo's but it's really not worth some of the sheer amount of drama and effort that comes with it imo as it's more dragged out online than it is offline. The flurry of immature people pretending to be mature responsible people who linger there isn't really worth it is what I'm actually saying.

Majority of the time there will be time wasters and people who are simply downright toxic hiding away on these games or people with serious mental health problems disguising themselves as fine - so you're better off going else where for easier/faster results if you're actively searching for a proper relationship rather than relying on a game for that, oh and the fact that you can physically have a conversation with them in person helps more too. Because then you know if they have any annoying things that they do that you cannot stand like for me a dude that has terrible manners or eats with their mouth wide open or generally just smells really bad that which all lead to other things you wouldn't be able to tell from by it being just online therefore you wasted your time with someone when they're like someone you just wouldn't get with anyway because of how they are in person.

There are so many reasons why mmo dating is bad but I can't really be bothered to explain my entire reasoning, the cons outweigh the pros in my opinion if you properly list them all out. Sure some of the pros are good like being able to text talk to someone helps understand them better but you could just do that with someone you've already met in person on facebook or whatever.

Please let's not turn this into an argument about semantics and maybe try not to use slang terms so that old people like me don't get confused. It just causes problems.

Can we get back to helping the op.

I think that developing conversational skills is key. Talk to a variety if people. Become comfortable conversing, that way, when you do meet someone you actually like, the conversation won't be so stressful. It'll just be another conversation.

That is advice I wish someone had given to the younger me.

You can meet potential partners virtually anywhere. The difficult thing is to find someone you can talk to easily and whom you are attracted to, someone you are comfortable with who also likes you back. Someone you want to spend more time with and who wants to spend more time with you.

Someone who you in time learn is trustworthy and whom you can depend on. And they trust you back. You grow closer through spending time together and shared experiences. Those people are rare things I've found.

Lunella, I completely don't believe in online relationships, just to let you know.

And I so hate MMO games, I am a casual offline gamer.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 20 Dec 2016, 8:28 am, edited 1 time in total.

This is the best advice so far.

I'm responsible I pay my bills and work my crappy job. I play games cause their fun. Been playing ark survival evolved daily.
A lot of the guys I've met have wife's, kids, work full time jobs . Most are current military, vets or law enforcement. The others work in the oil feileds, drive trucks shipping stuff, or are going to school. Never met one who lives in their moms basement.

So tired of the stereotype that of a guy plays video games he's a man baby or man child. But that guy who drinks a six pack watching a football game every day is a real man.

My video game hobby isn't any worse that that or people who watch a soap opera that's been in for 40+ years and is so freaking redicous. But I won't insult people who watch it or pretax each in other such interests. Books are so boring I don't get how people will read so many all the time, but I won't call them a nerd like others do.

And what if that common interest is video games?

Problem I face besides looking for video games on a woman's profile only way to meet people with this common interest is online gaming. Gamers don't hang out anywhere cause it's all online now. Lots don't even go to stores to get the games anymore and just buy them on the console direct.

Mean if she's into active athlete guys then there's tons of places to meet them. But aspie or inovert guys who aren't interested in books, it's pretty much online only. Since most meeting places are geared towards social outgoing or athletic people.

All the married men I know in workplace and class own either PS4 or Xbox.

And love Call of Duty online.

Are there not such things as video game conventions? There's a guy I follow on YouTube - the gaming historian - he gives talks at gaming events. There's a video game museum somewhere in America too.i saw it on YouTube.

^ I imagine they would be sausage fests, like 95% sausages with only 5 % eggs....too way more fat than protein, hmm.

Also to appear too much of a gamer is, in general,...... *taking deep breath* , let me dare to say is <stereotyping> not attractive to most women </stereotyping>.

Sure, even most of the social non-geeky guys play on consoles nowadays such as PS4/whatever ; but publicly attending gaming conventions and gaming lectures is something a hardcore gamer geek would do, it would make a geek to look even geekier, and not in a good way.

And as I said <stereotyping>it's not usually an attractive image </stereotyping>.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 20 Dec 2016, 6:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Unless your advice is aimed at amykitten, then it may be a good idea!

But I didn't see anywhere saying she's a gamer.