question about hygiene.

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its a great idea. and i have considered it for the sake of my relationship.
but then i ask myself-how much do i have to adjust.
how much can i control? i have to make his life easier, he cant.
and work on my own life and and with both of us it is hard to do. so trying to schedule sex in the shower with work, classes, etc. makes for a hectic way to live.
i just wish it could be a little more "normal."
whatever the hell that is.

and i wish he would not wait until he smelled a combination of burnt baked beans and rotting human flesh to shower.
i told him he smelt like this and he just frowned and lit a cigarette.
i love baths as well, but not when i share a bathroom with him. i can only bathe when i live alone. and i hope to again soon.
much to his dismay.

I rather enjoy sharing a good bath
with someone.

not this guy.

It could be a sensory issue your boyfriend has. Some aspies don't like water pouring on their head or they don't like the feel of the water beating on their skin when it hits it. I didn't like it simply because water would get in my ears and they would start hurting and it was also fear I had of water being poured on me. I also hated water getting in my eyes. My mother probably thinks I had a sensory issue with getting my hair washed.

I had the same problem too as a kid. I hated getting out of the shower or bath because then it be cold when I get out of the water and it felt like wind was blowing on me. But I knew I can't stay in there forever so I delt with the freezing. Now I hardly feel it simply because I had gotten used to it.

I understand the sensory thing, i feel the same way. i don't like water pouring on my head and i don't like the body brush i use to wash, it hurts but keeps my skin smooth. and i don't like getting the water in my face, etc.

but one must shower, correct?

if i get Brazilian waxes then this guy can take his dumb ass to the shower. think of putting hot wax on your privates and having it ripped off monthly.

i mean being aspie cannot be a reason to not shower.
my brother is diagnosed AS and has a very rigid routine that he follows. my mom told him the doctor said to so and he just does it.
AND the crazier thing is his mother ( my bf's mom) is a slightly famous forensic doctor and doesn't recognize his problems.

blow your body with a hair dryer, it feels good and warms you up. thats what i do.

I like baths much better.

HEY!! ! I beg your pardon. I groom regularly and don't smell, thank you very much!

Hi,

I don't like showers for sensory reasons either - and espeically struggle with washing my hair!

I do manage to shower every day though because I dislike smelling bad even more than showering!

What I find helps is to have some nice-smelling baby wipes for 'emergencies'. So if your bf really can't face a shower, he can perhaps use the babywipes all over his body instead. This works for me when I am in too much of a state to cope with showering and at least keeps me reasonable hygienic! (Sorry, probably spelt that wrong, dyslexic.)

Would he prefer baths? My bf prefers these to showers.
Also, getting a good antiperspirant deodourant helps - I know that some like Mitchum and Triple Dry are made to last for 2-3 days. I believe there is also one that claims to last for 7 days!

This statement, along with the 'moving out' one, makes
it pretty clear that you're not happy with him. No need
to worry about changing someone that you're not
planning on sticking with.

So long as a girl smells fine and takes care of her hygiene,...

My boyfriend goes through marathon lengths of time without showering all the time and I don't mind it a bit. He doesn't smell bad to me...I bathe only slightly more often than he does...I sometimes have a hard time knowing when I need to bathe. I have had this problem for most of my life...I tend to be sort of oblivious to it.

I don't know why but i don't like showering.
It's just this *thing* in my head that acts as a big, annoying object that demands to be postponed to an unspecified time.
I do wash my armpits, belly and face every morning though.

I get a shower everyday since I was very young.
After 24h without a shower I feel bad, I feel something is very wrong.
Probably the routine concerning showers is very important.

Personally I like showering and can't stand going more than 10 hours without one.