real vs. fantasy.

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We all do it...

I try to funnel my imagination into artwork. It doesn't help much but it allows for a satisfying end product that might help remind me that it IS, after all, just a fantasy....

Well reality is over-rated after all :-p

I think everybody does this. Fantasy is much better than reality. Your fantasies will never let you down, a real person will.

Lucky you. My fantasies are always cheating on me.

I dont think theres anything wrong with it. Hell, a fantasy Ive had has lead to a pretty good story line for a book I plan on writing.

But don't you guys feel sad and/or depressed when you stop dreaming?
I always have that feeling and i loathe it.
It makes me feel like a loser because i can't accomplish what my mind wants. (So instead; i dream about it.)

Why stop?

all the time-I cry sometimes because things are nothing like my dreams

I used to daydream during meetings, classes etc but I don't do that anymore cos its too distracting. So I leave it for when I'm relaxing on my own, or trying to go to sleep. Sometimes I feel very sad because my fantasies are better than my real life but then I think that real life will never be as good as fantasies cos in the fantasies everything is exactly as you want it to be. In my fantasies people are always nice and friendly and loving instead of the heartless dipshits they are in real life.

The whole line between reality and dreams completely
breaks down, when under great stress. When my wife
was ditching me, I felt like it was all some terrible nightmare.
Not just some cliche either - I really was trying to awaken
from it, it seemed so surreal and impossible. Then, for many
months, I kept having dreams including her (I almost never
remember dreams) as a part of my life. Waking up seemed
far less real.

I feel sad and depressed when I start dreaming, because I know my brain is just trying to fill in a blank. It's pointless and annoying, and I really don't enjoy it.

Just thinking about this, that is probably out of the thread...
Interpretation of dreams is very important, most to aspie people, as we tend to blind things close to us. We must remember our dreams and understant its meanings.

i like daydreaming... i try to make a study of it... much like i do with lucid dreams

i am trying to train myself to induce daydreaming... like you know, that point where you cross the line from thinking about something to actually kinda being there, like when you dream. it's kinda like metatation... i can do it, but am very slow and not always.

but i live a lot in my head and in my dreams... try to have as much control in them as i do here... which sadly, i have more power in at times (like i can't fly here)

I get what you mean
in my dreams I'm normal-I'm happy and having a great life

I've had a number of relationships like that, where you dream up a whole romance and then realise it was just in your head.

The last time was with someone I met online. We exchanged emails for several years. I carried her picture around with me and I thought of her as "my girlfriend". Meanwhile, she referred to me on her blog as her penpal.

Eventually she met someone and fell in love. It hit me really hard. I just couldn't take the reality of it. I kept beating myself up over it, thinking that if only I'd actually told her in the first place that I could've had it for real.

One good thing came out it. During this period I'd written a novel, but when it was finished I put it aside and didn't think it was very good. After all this went down, I came back to it, realised it was pretty close to what had happened to me, and started to look at getting it published. Hopefully will come out in July.

There always been this huge inequality with my relationships; the way I regard/care for someone is so vastly different to the way they feel about me.

just cause i havent mentioned it on the forums, cal...

but studies show that narcoleptics experience visions much like people with near death experiences...

i think our dream world is a glimpse at much bigger (and better!) things...

and i do think the line between real and fantasy is gossamer