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The_Face_of_Boo
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23 Dec 2016, 6:18 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

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The ability to communicate/be social helps significantly, but you're under no obligation to lead an active social life in order to get laid. There are plenty of websites and apps for that. If I were inclined to do so, I could get laid at least once a day for virtually as long as I wanted to without ever leaving the house. Zero social life required to email/message someone and arrange a hookup.

Being able to be social, and being able to communicate, and yes especially being charismatic... these things all help big time, but actually having an active social life is not necessary for one to get laid these days especially with the hookup technology that exists today.

You mean I can get laid by emailing someone?

I imagine the conversation would go something like that:

Subject: Jugs question.
From: RetroGamer87

Hi Lola!

I have noticed your big jugs bouncing the other day in the gym, I was wondering if you like me to motorboat them tonight.

Regards,

Subject: RE: Jugs question.
From: Lola69

Hi RoadGamer87!

Umm...not really, since I have a boyfriend! But I did order this for you for Christmas: https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/ ... 97551.html

xx
Gnight

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23 Dec 2016, 6:28 am

A couple of the girls I've spoken too on OKcupid start immediately talking about how much they love penis. They say they want to have sex with me yet we never end up meeting.

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23 Dec 2016, 7:13 am

goldfish21 wrote:

Feyokien wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Attractiveness, strong sex appeal and [b]active social life.[/b]

Most important detail right there.

Not a lifestyle I could do or want though.

Not required.

The ability to communicate/be social helps significantly, but you're under no obligation to lead an active social life in order to get laid. There are plenty of websites and apps for that. If I were inclined to do so, I could get laid at least once a day for virtually as long as I wanted to without ever leaving the house. Zero social life required to email/message someone and arrange a hookup.

Being able to be social, and being able to communicate, and yes especially being charismatic... these things all help big time, but actually having an active social life is not necessary for one to get laid these days especially with the hookup technology that exists today.

But you're gay. Sad thing is, its easier for a gay man to get sex with other men than it is for a straight man to get sex from a woman.

I'm bisexual, I know this. M4M is easy mode.

A straight guy once told me he's recieved more attention from gay men in one night than he has from women in his entire life. XD

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23 Dec 2016, 8:15 am

Personally, I would want nothing to do with anyone who would even imagine having a threesome. It's perverted and disgusting. People make such a big whoop about sex but never talk about respect, love, or a proper relationships.
Girls are simply making a fool of the original poster because they know he's seeking just sex but doesn't have swagger to get it. Women do this all the time, especially now that there's on-line sites where they could give a guy a good kick in the ass and get away with it. Women generally hate dorks who try to be players. I mean if a woman is going to be taken advantage of anyhow, don't you think that she'd rather it be a guy who looks like he stepped out of GQ magazine instead of some schmuck on a bar stool? Like female golddiggers for instance, do you actually think that some old rich geezer is going to hand over his total pension to some bucktoothed, cross-eyed, pimply-arsed cashier?! !! Swag gets sex. BUT IT IS THE KIND OF SWAG THAT MATCHES THE PLACE YOU ARE AT. Swag in New York City is quite different than what is seen as swag in a little Irish town. Swag in Japan isn't the same as swag in Canada. People go hunting for sex in pubs because they just don't want to pay for it elsewhere. EL CHEAPO thinking. Why don't you just try to find love and respect and maybe sex will follow and not lead. Oh! did I forget to mention "roofies". Watch out, you too can get roofied. It's NOT funny.

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23 Dec 2016, 8:53 am

Never heard the term "roofie."

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23 Dec 2016, 9:35 am

RightGalaxy wrote:

Girls are simply making a fool of the original poster because they know he's seeking just sex but doesn't have swagger to get it. Women do this all the time, especially now that there's on-line sites where they could give a guy a good kick in the ass and get away with it. Women generally hate dorks who try to be players.

Girls will make fools of me with no repercussions? What's a dork like me to do?

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23 Dec 2016, 10:46 am

Just laugh...that's all you can do LOL

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23 Dec 2016, 4:31 pm

If I try to be myself people tell me to "act confident, girls love confident guys" so then I act confident and I get called a "player". Catch-22.

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23 Dec 2016, 6:15 pm

You don't have to appear overly confident; that's ridiculous.

It's pretty bad to seem under-confident enough, though.

I learned that lesson in my early 20s--in addition to the one about having other interests other than picking up a girl.

Lack of confidence, and narrow interests, are really not a good combination to bring to the "dating world."

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23 Dec 2016, 6:34 pm

Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.

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23 Dec 2016, 6:41 pm

I'm really not better than too many people.

I don't even think I'm "average."

Big Deal!

I do the best I can.

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23 Dec 2016, 6:51 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I'm really not better than too many people.

I don't even think I'm "average."

Big Deal!

I do the best I can.

You're better than Retrogamer, and me for that matter.

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23 Dec 2016, 6:52 pm

Ecomatt91 wrote:

whatamievendoing wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Attractiveness, strong sex appeal and active social life.

Add possible lack of self-worth.

Certainly lack of self worth. These days young people learn off their parents divorce. It not really learning curve. So they make a divorce as a replacement in no string attached relationship. Its apathetic choice to maturity of lifestyle.

The question of this topic that OP mentioned it is true that attractiveness and sex appeal make people find their partners easily. At the same time, its alcohol influence. It changes the person's thoughts and decisions of what they want to do.

My parents got a divorce, and I've been more inclined to desire a genuine lasing relationship, not a fan of the whole hooking up thing.

Also alcohol doesn't necessarily change thoughts and decisions, it lowers inhibition which can effect thoughts and decisions. The level of impairment also varies depending on how much you drink, for instance a beer or a drink doesn't render one incapable of consent unless they are like an extreme light weight vs someone who's slammed a few shots and is visibly very drunk and can't even walk steady would be considered incapable of proper consent.

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23 Dec 2016, 6:53 pm

If you seem like you're doing the best you can, people above a certain age usually admire you for that.

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23 Dec 2016, 7:06 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I find people who seem confident all the time to seem kind of fake, I mean surely they're human and have concerns and can't be totally confident in every situation. I feel like someone like that would be very apprehensive about accepting any help, which in a relationship would probably play out with me trying to be helpful or comforting and being brushed away cause they have to keep up their 'confident' appearance. I do not really find that attractive...

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23 Dec 2016, 7:11 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:

Because some people are just better than others. If you were worthwhile, you'd have a partner. But you don't, proving that you are not worthwhile. Same with all the forever-alone people.

So people aren't worthwhile until they get into relationships? How does that work? If you have to be worthwhile to get into a relationship but the only way to be worthwhile is to already have a partner, how does anyone get a relationship?

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