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02 Jan 2017, 10:30 am

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Hmm... Do you think a sexual approach is guaranteed to work next time I get a number?

DON'T DO THAT.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:33 am

Most women don't think men are rapists. The reality is that women have to be wary in certain situations. Experience has shown that. Millions of years of experience.

So do men.

I find the "thinking people are people" approach works with most people. Establishing a rapport. Being friends as well as lovers (later).



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02 Jan 2017, 10:35 am

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Your attitude is horrible and you'll get nowhere thinking that women are subhumans here to just make you miserable.

Great rule of thumb: if all of your interactions with all women are bad, it's not them - the common denominator is you. And blaming everyone else for the bad outcome is not the least bit attractive.

How many outside activities are you involved with? Are you in school? Do you work? It's pretty obvious that you need to work on those social skills because you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?

You are like a lot of guys who want to blame everyone else for your issue. You need to check that attitude because it's unattractive. Take responsibility for yourself. You are on Wrong Planet, so you obviously know you're autistic, so surely you must be also aware that your social skills are not up to par.

If what you've been doing is not working, do something else. Change it. But lose the blame game, seriously.


LOL... I see I hit a nerve with that "sub-human" comment.

"you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way." Why not? Why can't people do that? Oh let me guess, it's because he might be a rapist or some bs. I'm telling you, society is just plain SAD. A lot less people would be single if they all asked out strangers.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:38 am

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Most women don't think men are rapists. The reality is that women have to be wary in certain situations. Experience has shown that. Millions of years of experience.

So do men.

I find the "thinking people are people" approach works with most people. Establishing a rapport. Being friends as well as lovers (later).


"Most women don't think men are rapists. The reality is that women have to be wary in certain situations. Experience has shown that. Millions of years of experience." Same thing. It's not fair that we are all guilty until proven innocent.

"I find the "thinking people are people" approach works with most people" Women are not men. They are women. Therefore, they are not equal, and I will treat them like the females they are, unless they have a problem with being female...



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02 Jan 2017, 10:38 am

Luhluhluh wrote:
...you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?


Probably from all the dumbass men on this sub-forum who keep insisting people should just ask out total strangers in public places.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:39 am

AspieGuy96 wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
Your attitude is horrible and you'll get nowhere thinking that women are subhumans here to just make you miserable.

Great rule of thumb: if all of your interactions with all women are bad, it's not them - the common denominator is you. And blaming everyone else for the bad outcome is not the least bit attractive.

How many outside activities are you involved with? Are you in school? Do you work? It's pretty obvious that you need to work on those social skills because you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?

You are like a lot of guys who want to blame everyone else for your issue. You need to check that attitude because it's unattractive. Take responsibility for yourself. You are on Wrong Planet, so you obviously know you're autistic, so surely you must be also aware that your social skills are not up to par.

If what you've been doing is not working, do something else. Change it. But lose the blame game, seriously.


LOL... I see I hit a nerve with that "sub-human" comment.

"you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way." Why not? Why can't people do that? Oh let me guess, it's because he might be a rapist or some bs. I'm telling you, society is just plain SAD. A lot less people would be single if they all asked out strangers.


You didn't answer the question. Where did you get that idea that asking a stranger is the way to meet women?

If you choose to not improve your behavior - you have only yourself to blame. You're getting great feedback, now it's up to you what you do with it.

You can cry and whine about how the world is unfair. That will get you nowhere. Newsflash - life isn't fair. Grow up.

You also didn't answer if you're in school/work. Do you?


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02 Jan 2017, 10:41 am

This mode of thought will get you nowhere.

I used to think similarly. Only when I realized the truth did I attain any success socially.

You have to take the time to know people.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:42 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
...you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?


Probably from all the dumbass men on this sub-forum who keep insisting people should just ask out total strangers in public places.


Why the hell not? Society loves to judge guilty until proven innocent. But if we lived in a perfect world, then asking out "strangers" would be normal and 'stranger danger' wouldn't freaking exist.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:42 am

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kraftiekortie wrote:
Most women don't think men are rapists. The reality is that women have to be wary in certain situations. Experience has shown that. Millions of years of experience.

So do men.

I find the "thinking people are people" approach works with most people. Establishing a rapport. Being friends as well as lovers (later).


"Most women don't think men are rapists. The reality is that women have to be wary in certain situations. Experience has shown that. Millions of years of experience." Same thing. It's not fair that we are all guilty until proven innocent.

"I find the "thinking people are people" approach works with most people" Women are not men. They are women. Therefore, they are not equal, and I will treat like the females they are, unless they have a problem with being female...


Oh my God... you're so bitter you make me look like a charming and kind lad, lol. Women don't like you because you're a complete git with absolute contempt for them. Making them your enemy is not going to work out for you.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:44 am

AspieGuy96 wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
...you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?


Probably from all the dumbass men on this sub-forum who keep insisting people should just ask out total strangers in public places.


Why the hell not? Society loves to judge guilty until proven innocent. But if we lived in a perfect world, then asking out "strangers" would be normal and 'stranger danger' wouldn't freaking exist.


It's not about "stranger danger", it's about people not wanting to be sexually harassed by some ugly stranger when they're just trying to mind their own business.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:46 am

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Luhluhluh wrote:
Your attitude is horrible and you'll get nowhere thinking that women are subhumans here to just make you miserable.

Great rule of thumb: if all of your interactions with all women are bad, it's not them - the common denominator is you. And blaming everyone else for the bad outcome is not the least bit attractive.

How many outside activities are you involved with? Are you in school? Do you work? It's pretty obvious that you need to work on those social skills because you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?

You are like a lot of guys who want to blame everyone else for your issue. You need to check that attitude because it's unattractive. Take responsibility for yourself. You are on Wrong Planet, so you obviously know you're autistic, so surely you must be also aware that your social skills are not up to par.

If what you've been doing is not working, do something else. Change it. But lose the blame game, seriously.


LOL... I see I hit a nerve with that "sub-human" comment.

"you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way." Why not? Why can't people do that? Oh let me guess, it's because he might be a rapist or some bs. I'm telling you, society is just plain SAD. A lot less people would be single if they all asked out strangers.


You didn't answer the question. Where did you get that idea that asking a stranger is the way to meet women?

If you choose to not improve your behavior - you have only yourself to blame. You're getting great feedback, now it's up to you what you do with it.

You can cry and whine about how the world is unfair. That will get you nowhere. Newsflash - life isn't fair. Grow up.

You also didn't answer if you're in school/work. Do you?


"Where did you get that idea that asking a stranger is the way to meet women?" I've seen other guys doing it on YouTube, and it works.

"You also didn't answer if you're in school/work." No, I'm unemployed at the moment.



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02 Jan 2017, 10:47 am

Wow, I have tried to be supportive and encouraging to see a more balanced view of social interaction/relationships but damn. I'm out. But as a last thing: I wouldn't take what you see on Youtube as being anyway reflective of what happens in reality.

Many of the attitudes towards women and dating expressed on this forum are really gross.

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02 Jan 2017, 10:48 am

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LOL... I see I hit a nerve with that "sub-human" comment.



LOL... not really, I'm in a relationship with a guy who isn't bitter and angry at the entire world.


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02 Jan 2017, 10:51 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
AspieGuy96 wrote:
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Luhluhluh wrote:
...you won't get a date by just asking some stranger out on a date. It doesn't work that way. And where did you get the idea that it did?


Probably from all the dumbass men on this sub-forum who keep insisting people should just ask out total strangers in public places.


Why the hell not? Society loves to judge guilty until proven innocent. But if we lived in a perfect world, then asking out "strangers" would be normal and 'stranger danger' wouldn't freaking exist.


It's not about "stranger danger", it's about people not wanting to be sexually harassed by some ugly stranger when they're just trying to mind their own business.
Here's what I do and it is not harassment: "Hi, I think you're cute, and I was wondering if you're single?" Answer: "Yes." "Wanna exchange numbers?" Answer: "Ok." (Gives number) (I text later later and 1/10 this leads to a date through planning a meeting and specific time)



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02 Jan 2017, 10:58 am

Women don't give out their numbers to strange guys - not necessarily because we're AFRAID of them, but because it's obvious you're OFF, and by "off" I mean we can't tell what it is but it's obvious there's something wrong with you.

Because by asking for a stranger's number, you've just skipped over all of the social graces, the unwritten social rules, etc. You may not like them, but that's just too bad because that's the way it is. And when you don't play by the social rules, you will not win.

All those videos and posts on You Tube, all those movies you see where the guy wins the beautiful girl at the end - that's all they are - entertainment. They're not real.

You're getting good feedback here. If you want success you have to change what you've been doing. IT. DOESN'T. WORK.


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02 Jan 2017, 11:02 am

Luhluhluh wrote:
Women don't give out their numbers to strange guys - not necessarily because we're AFRAID of them, but because it's obvious you're OFF, and by "off" I mean we can't tell what it is but it's obvious there's something wrong with you.

Because by asking for a stranger's number, you've just skipped over all of the social graces, the unwritten social rules, etc. You may not like them, but that's just too bad because that's the way it is. And when you don't play by the social rules, you will not win.

All those videos and posts on You Tube, all those movies you see where the guy wins the beautiful girl at the end - that's all they are - entertainment. They're not real.

You're getting good feedback here. If you want success you have to change what you've been doing. IT. DOESN'T. WORK.
Thank you.