Your ideal partner...?

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Mine.

Between 5-4 5-9

pretty smile

pretty face

nice legs.

nice body. Like the girl Iposted in this thread. http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php? ... opic&t=804

Alright my standards are too high.

Jay, I hope you don't mind me borrowing some things that you were looking for in a female, they are similar/same to mine for a male with some exceptions.

Physical Traits:

Male.
Age difference of no greater than 10 years older or 5 years younger.
No blatant physical deformities.
Normal weight.
Straight teeth.
No sexually transmitted diseases.
Physically fit (not overly muscular, that's just not attractive to me)
Not under 5' 1" or over 6' 2" in general.

Personality Traits:

Intelligent.
Loyal.
Socially withdrawn or indifferent.
Realistic.
Honest.
Prudent.
Genuine.
Conscientious.
Exhibits strong feelings for me.
Exhibits desire to develop a relationship with my 2 sons and be a good role model for them (oldest has high functioning autism and youngest we won't know if he is NT or autistic/aspergers for a while, he's definitely advanced though for his age).
Respect that my sons are my utmost priority but will share with a prospective partner but he can't expect to come over my sons.
Respectful of women.
Emotionally supportive if possible.
Average sex drive.
Like me for who I am, not just my physical being.
Doesn't mind that I have a need to be asked before being touched.
Doesn't mind that I'm not a perfect housewife.
Doesn't mind that I can't have anymore children (due to problems with reproductive system).
Friendship comes first.
Must be trust-worthy.

Chamoisee is about right for me

Last edited by aspergian_mutant on 22 Feb 2005, 6:14 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I have a thing about nice teeth and arms.

Straight, nice teeth, strong arms.

I don't go skinny, at all.

Personality, reasonably deep, and understanding with a sense of humour.

For me a girl that I would like would be

Between 17-19
Shoulder length Blonde hair
Between 5'1ft - 5'3ft
Blue or brown eyes
a perfect figure (not too skinny, not too fat)

Honest
Reliable
Trustworthy
Good sense of humour
Down to earth
Always there when things are bothering me
Respects me for who I am and for my flaws

Last edited by calculon on 16 Jul 2005, 4:06 pm, edited 2 times in total.

Physical Traits:

Female
Around my age
Not super overweight, but not a stick either
Not too tall or too short, as I would like to be able to talk to said person
At least attractive (to me, so that could be many things)
Skin tone so that doesn't look like a fish belly... I like my time outside.

Personality Traits:

Intelligent
Loyal
Realistic
Honest
Prudent, but not overly cautious
Genuine
Conscientious
Respectful of everyone, regardless of Race, Colour, Creed etc.
Like me for who I am, but willing to tell me my flaws

Basically someone who has the capacity to tolerate me, and someone whom I can tolerate.

I need someone interesting and open-minded. And not someone who asks me "Don't you have medication you should be taking instead of wasting your time talking to me?"



I suppose physically is someone who isn't assugly. Also, hands are very important to me. If you don't have nice hands, I can't even touch you

Physical Traits
I should first point out that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No list of specific traits could ever be developed such that I would think every girl who met the profile was gorgeous, and there will always be women who don't meet any sort of "what I'm looking for" criteria who are beautiful as well. But in the most general sense, I'd say my ideal significant other would be:

-Age 18-25 (within 3-4 years of me)
-110-180 lbs--weight isn't the biggest issue for me, the big factor here would be just that the girl is healthy. There are some thin girls who just look disgusting because one can tell they're starving themselves, and yet there are some girls with a bit of meat on them who are absolutely gorgeous.
-Not too short hair...like at least down to the ears...women with crew cuts just turn me off. Any color is fine with me as long as it's natural. Redhead, brunette, blonde, cool...just no hot pink or blue.
-Not too worried about height.

Personality Traits
I know there's a big debate stirring out there about "Would you date an AS?" or "Would you date an NT," as someone who checked off the "Not Sure If I Have It" box when registering, I guess I could go either way. I am a very nerdy and quirky person, and I know there are traits that AS people often have that would make an AS girl very compatible with me. But at the same time, I think that an NT would be really good for me because she would likely have a greater ability to see the social situations I can't, and ideally, offer some constructive guidance/feedback to what I don't get. So I don't really have a 100% firm decision either way, though I'm leaning towards NT.

Other than that, some things I'd want are:
-Agressive, but not manipulative--someone who would be willing to make a first move, and not expect me to have to reach in for the first kiss, etc., at every stage of the relationship...ESPECIALLY important early on, as my lack of experience in relationships renders me clueless as to when the right time would be for this or that...I could prolly figure it out soon enough, but I'd likely need a significant other who can set the wheels in motion.
-Positive/Constructive--I actually kinda realized this when I noticed it in my best friend. While my best friend is female, we're just friends and are happy at that. But I noticed it, and realized that it would be a trait I'd want in a significant other. Basically, what I've noticed is if I do something socially awkward while we're hanging out, she'll point it out to me, but in a positive, almost joking way--not angry humor, she's laughing with, not at me.
-Not afraid to be touchy-feely, but not all over me from minute one. I guess it kinda goes with the agressive part above. Someone who isn't afraid to hug, kiss, cuddle, etc. I don't mean someone who wants to go all the way right away, but I'd want smeone who is not a block of ice.
-Brutal Honesty. I think everyone on this forum, AS or not, holds a disdain for the stereotypical scene of male walking into room, female sobbing, male asking what's wrong, female saying "nothing," when obviously something IS wrong. Brutal honesty is a million times better than games like that, as long as it doesn't get to the point of one screaming embarrassing stuff out in public for all to overhear.
-No Games--I said it under "Brutal Honesty" but this is so important it warrants its own bullet point. If she feels some way about something, don't be afraid to say it! Dodging the answer, withholding information, that kind of stuff is disgusting, even when done to make oneself feel better...ESPECIALLY when done to make oneself feel better.

For me, I do not care unless I find them enjoyable to be with and kind of appealing to me. And they will have to accept me for who I am.

the one i've got, simple as that.
I don't have an ideal, its the person inside that has to appeal, i don't care what they look like as long as they have a good personality and a sense of humour.

baby

I wish I were that open-minded, but I guess I'm pretty shallow; if I don't find a person physically attractive, then no relationship with that person would ever go beyond friendship.

I'm going to stop clicking on the 'Romantic Relationships' forum.

be healthy and clean less hairy then others for a guyish friend person nice like occasionaly buys me a gift or takes me out to eat Somewhere!!

Why?

I said I was going to...oh rats, done it again!

I suppose the honest answer is something like 'If I'm doomed to a lifetime of loneliness and frustration I don't see why you lot shouldn't be as well!'

Ahhhhh, poor boy, I feel your pain. Instead of being happy for people whose love lives/lives in general are going well, I resent them for it. I feel like a real toad for it, but I can't help it - I'm not an altruistic person, sorry.