Physical Attraction in Relationships

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17 May 2007, 7:35 pm

When you listen to women express themselves about their ideal mates they tend to mainly go for two types. The stereotypical male with big muscles and rugged good looks, or the strange social outcast. Those that lie somewhere in the middle get very little admiration.

Strangely on the flip side there are many men who like the 'Plain Jane' type.



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17 May 2007, 7:49 pm

I don't like the macho rugged type at all. I like guys who are either thin or overweight, but I'm not a fan of big muscles.



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20 May 2007, 2:45 pm

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When you listen to women express themselves about their ideal mates they tend to mainly go for two types. The stereotypical male with big muscles and rugged good looks, or the strange social outcast. Those that lie somewhere in the middle get very little admiration.


But women tend to go more for personality and social status than for looks, unlike men. A man with good social skills and high social status will get as many women as he wants even if he's average looking.

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Strangely on the flip side there are many men who like the 'Plain Jane' type.


Well, to be honest, i don't know any males like this - all the ones i know either care more about personality (like myself), or are picky regarding appearance (they might settle for women they find plain, but that's another story). What is true, however, is that different men have different tastes - thus a woman that is little better than plain for one man might be very attractive for another, or something that is a turn-off for someone might be attractive for someone else (I would find straight champagne-blonde hair a turn-off, but many men would find it attractive, for example). Women who don't look like Barbie would do well to remember this - as well as remembering that looks don't last, so a relationship will only survive the test of time if it's based on something else. The same thing, of course, goes for men.


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20 May 2007, 4:11 pm

Looks are the very last thing I consider in a girl. Why? Because I have no right to date a good-looking girl, with my ugly face and all. So I date girls whom most guys wouldn't even give the time of day, and this worked out fairly well for the most part. In the end, it's a win-win situation: I get to be with a girl, and she gets to be with a guy. Sure, it's a "let's fill a void in each other's lives" kind of thing, but I have to be thankful for what I can get, or have no chance with girls whatsoever.

Ideally, however, I have a weakness for these characteristics.
* Straight black hair that hangs down to shoulders or longer. Wavy is good too.
* Slender but not too thin body.
* "Girl next door" looks.



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20 May 2007, 7:11 pm

I definitely had a physical type of man I was attracted to and that is the type of man I married. I never deviated from it at all. I like tall, lanky or medium build men with dark hair, dark eyes and aquiline noses. I also never dated a man who didn't have a moustache for whatever reason. My dh has blue eyes and he's the only man I ever dated who did. All of them were over six foot and you could have lined them all up and they would have looked alike.

I also have a personality type that I go for though and I didn't deviate from that either. I always dated men who were at least A/R and bordered on controlling. It's probably because I'm very strong willed and I also hate taking care of every day life. They weren't intimidated by me and they took care of all the daily stuff in life so they could control it.

To this day those are the only men I find at all attractive in a physical sense. I was never the type who could like a man first and then become attracted to him. In fact, when I tried to go down that path I was always physically repelled by them and ultimately dumped them.

I have absolutely no idea why that is.


On the other hand, I look nothing like my dh's former girlfriends. They all looked alike. They were tall, had basically rail thin, angular bodies, dark wavy hair and dark eyes. I'm much shorter, curvy even when I'm thin, blonde hair (unless I've dyed it red), freckles and green eyes. So I don't know what that was all about. My personality is also nothing like theirs.


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21 May 2007, 2:20 am

It's very hard for me to say, what kind of people I consider good-looking. Personality comes first. Intelligence and way of talking are the things I find attractive.



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25 May 2007, 10:26 am

yeah, i fall for the unsual looking guy/social outcast/goth. i do deviate alittle. what's most important is that they in their appearance has that little something extra that's just special. That make them stand out. It can be intense eyes, or really pronounced cheekbones..



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25 May 2007, 11:08 am

For me, the girl must have a personality that clicks with mine or we can’t be ANYTHING (because I’d just be wooden and indifferent). Beyond that, I must find her physically appealing to be more than friends.

What I find appealing is broad. She certainly doesn’t need to be Hollywood perfect.

I think generally what attracts me most is hair (I tend to like long) and eyes. I am very attracted to punk or goth looking girls (love tats and piercing) but they don’t have to be. My longest relationship (several years) was with a girl who had a very natural/conservative style. As far as body types go, I like petite but I also like ‘rubenesque’ as long as she’s still shaped like a woman...

On the downside, I tend to be attracted to extroverted women mostly because, being an introvert, they’re just easier to connect with. This is great in the short term, but long term it causes problems because most of them cannot accept the idea that I need time away from them without taking it personally.


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A sort of famous woman I find really hot is Scottie Chapman formerly from MythBusters... Man she's sexy when she's burning metal and getting dirty! :twisted:



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25 May 2007, 3:01 pm

Honestly, I'm really not too big on physical attractiveness. I find very few women to be hot, and very few women to be ugly. All I ask for in a girl (aesthetically speaking) is that she doesn't have any major health problems (being morbidly obese, I'll date a fat girl, but not a huge one) or obvious deformities (even then its a case by case basis. But I've never met any girls with anything like that so...).


I don't care about looks too much. Only when they are really bad. I guess I'm a bit shallow like that. I also like blue eyes....


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25 May 2007, 3:37 pm

For me, I have to be attracted to their personality or have some kind of emotional connection first. The physical attraction then follows. The love at first sight thing just doesn't make any sense to me because of how I am. I don't start liking someone until I've known them a bit.

There are a few physical things though that usually guarantee I won't like someone: being a lot shorter than me, being obese (pudgy I can handle), or having a physical feature that is really distracting like a really lazy eye (I mean really bad, not just sort of).

It's not that something like that makes them unattractive to me, it's that I'm so focused on not paying attention to it that I can't concentrate on anything else (like getting to know them). There's a guy in my office with a glass eye who I make an effort to avoid. I worry that me trying to ignore it would make it obvious to him that I was trying to ignore it.



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25 May 2007, 8:33 pm

I think physical attractiveness is a pointless standard for dating someone.



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25 May 2007, 9:28 pm

Santa_Claus wrote:
I think physical attractiveness is a pointless standard for dating someone.


It's nice to be attracted to someone that you're intimate with.
It's even nicer to be seen as such, by your partner.



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25 May 2007, 9:40 pm

calandale wrote:
Santa_Claus wrote:
I think physical attractiveness is a pointless standard for dating someone.


It's nice to be attracted to someone that you're intimate with.
It's even nicer to be seen as such, by your partner.

I guess it might be nice but I wouldnt turn down someone because of how physically "unattractive" they might be.



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25 May 2007, 9:50 pm

Santa_Claus wrote:
calandale wrote:
Santa_Claus wrote:
I think physical attractiveness is a pointless standard for dating someone.


It's nice to be attracted to someone that you're intimate with.
It's even nicer to be seen as such, by your partner.

I guess it might be nice but I wouldnt turn down someone because of how physically "unattractive" they might be.


Everyone has their limits.
I've seen some people who
are really really so disgusting
to look at, that it is difficult to
even speak with them, much less
think of being intimate with them.



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25 May 2007, 9:57 pm

calandale wrote:
Santa_Claus wrote:
calandale wrote:
Santa_Claus wrote:
I think physical attractiveness is a pointless standard for dating someone.


It's nice to be attracted to someone that you're intimate with.
It's even nicer to be seen as such, by your partner.

I guess it might be nice but I wouldnt turn down someone because of how physically "unattractive" they might be.


Everyone has their limits.
I've seen some people who
are really really so disgusting
to look at, that it is difficult to
even speak with them, much less
think of being intimate with them.

I can be intimate with anyone I like as long as they smell like they have taken a shower and I can look at anyone when I talk to them with ease, maybe I just dont get discusted like a lot of other people do, or maybe im really really desparate either way if I like the person and they like me then I would be very thrilled to date them.



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26 May 2007, 8:44 am

I don't think a lot of "hot" guys are hot tbh.