nurseangela wrote:
OK. I'm sitting here watching Fox news. No, this thread is not about Fox news. As I was watching, all of the women looked quite attractive. Thinking about it, with all the makeup and haircare, it doesn't take a lot to make women look attractive. I thought about the men on Fox and the men I have been around this week and I have to say hardly any are attractive. My thought is, I believe in dating guys for a while to get to know them before any hanky panky and in doing this, I get to know their personality. Now if men wouldn't sleep with the women they went out with so quick and actually got to know their personality, would men end up still sleeping with them? My thought is "no". It takes a really good personality in a guy for me to be attracted to them, and it is usually something in their personality that makes me uninterested in them which means there is no hope for any relationship. Guys can do a lot of one night stands because they go by looks and sex requires no personality and most women can look pretty with makeup. I believe if men would not have sex with every woman who came along and waited for a time to really know the woman, I think men would have a lot less sex and a better chance to find a more fulfilling relationship.
I was thinking about this because I keep wondering how men can have sex with a bunch of women even if they are not attracted to them for a long term relationship. I really don't understand how a person can have sex like that and not be repulsed. If someone isn't attractive, the last thing I want is them touching me. Yuck.
Does this make sense or am I just rambling?
I'm tired of seeing both men and women complaining about their relationship problems that stem because of their personalities clashing and I think it is because a lot of people just go for looks.
Examples of this are my Ma: she married Pa for his looks. I've seen pictures and he was very good looking. He's got the personality of a rock and this is why their marriage has been on the rocks.
Second example : my brother used to go out with just blondes that treated him like sh!t. He married someone normal looking, a brunette and their personalities go great together.
I guess what I'm saying is people should date for awhile before sex and they may not have all the drama of unplanned pregnancies with people they don't get along with, or feel like they have to marry a person because (imo) sex pretty much seals the deal and changes a relationship. Does anyone understand what I'm saying?
Example recently happened to me - there's a new coworker who been working with me for like few months, all the guys thought she's plain-looking when she first came (secret shallow guys talk, duh).
Her looks didn't turn my head at first too and she's married anyway with a baby girl.
But after knowing her for a while..... damn - I do envy her husband - and if she was single I would certainly would have wanted to pursue a serious relationship with this one.
But yeah I guess it's true what they say after all; the best ones get taken first.
17 Feb 2017, 10:49 pm
to think that way, but I am what I am.
