What makes someone unattractive?

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He was the King of Jerks. Imagine if this guy wanted you to marry him.

I feel like a lot of people feel this way.

Here's something you should understand. What makes us who we are and how others perceive us is comprised of two things. The things we can't change and the things we can change. I can't change the fact that i'm 5 ft 3 or that i'm autistic, and will this make dating harder? Yeah it will. But as iv'e gotten older, iv'e learned to not give a f*k as much because I don't want to waste my time beating myself up over things I can't change.

But you know what you can change? Your attitude, your work ethic, your self-motivation to get out there and do what necessarily isn't easy but will benefit you in the long run, and also how you dress. If you want a boyfriend, sure you may have to work harder than other girls but if that's what you want, don't be afraid to take a couple of hits.

So focus on the things you CAN change, not the things you can't. Because no matter how much I wish I was a 6 ft tall neurotypical hunk who had sex with all the beautiful redheads as a teen, I can't do anything about it.


But I want a girlfriend and i'm going to do whatever it takes, nobody deprives me of love.

Lol "the lady" That's the Prime Minister of Britain.

I find that quite sad. Not in a patronising way, in a, that makes my heart hurt kinda way. We all need warmth and love.

I find it quite odd tbh. I can't think of anything less attractive than a girl who tries to looks threatening.
Each to his/her own I guess.

Now I can see why you ruled the world.

(i get the appeal, but it's not for me)



knowledge of sex liked traits and inheritance in his time probably would have served him well, not to mention those ladies he had executed.

people with hangups about their physical appearance.

Those of us from Britain do know so don't worry too much. Interestingly we take the mick out of the way they stand but they were/are in high positions of power

Nevertheless, a lady she be.




Many thanks. In my own meager defense, these are people I read and hear about a lot more than I see or watch.

I don't take think this serious and I don't think it's real love if you need to change yourself to get it, so I'm better alone

I actually just commented because the thing about being sleep deprived sounded funny, I have deep eyes and dark eye circles so I look very sleep deprived even if I had slept for hours and it's funny that people care about it. I obviously could do as many people do and just wear make up but I don't care that much

Honestly, I doubt very much some universal standard of attractiveness so it was a bit of a joke

Ok, lets move on from the British politicians and the Ministry of Silly Stances.

Reading that article, the thing that stood out to me is maybe I come over as arrogant/proud. I am quite strong willed and will argue a point to the death. I bet that's not something men find attractive. Although, I can be very shy and quiet too. Maybe I'm a confusing juxtaposition of attitudes and that makes me seem dangerous and unpredictable.

ltcvnzl, sometimes we do need to change.

I think many people will judge us by the way we communicate it is how things are. I've seen it in many cases, people know we are different and don't know what to think of us because of it. Many people just aren't used to aspies.

The least we can do at least in my opinion is to give the illusion of being normal until people are prepared to accept us.

I didn't understand the part about being mean. It sounded like it describing neutral expressions as being mean and nothing else. Someone can have a neutral expression and still be nice and there's also mean people who smile a lot.

I'm going to be honest. If I'm enthusiastic about something, I want another person whom I discussing my enthusiasm with to be at least a little enthusiastic. Neutral facial expressions tend to bother me when I'm discussing something good that happened to me.

If somebody found a cure for cancer of all types, I would be quite enthusiastic--and I would want others to be enthusiastic, too. If I'm discussing how millions of lives can be saved in total, I probably wouldn't want there to be a neutral expression in the person next to me. It would depress me.

The first one looks like Pee Wee Herman.