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26 Apr 2017, 10:08 pm

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Hello. Yes I realize the baggage that he has now but that is not my concern that information was just for detail(yes it is a lot to handle but we've been through a lot over the years some way worse than that) . I'm more concerned because he refuses to get diagnosed at this time as he does not believe he has anything. I've been researching and not a lot of neurotypical spouses seem happy at all. I would like to be able to understand him more burn how can I do that if he refuses anything I say about it.


I'm skeptical a guy who does so much hooking up so fast would be on the spectrum, to be honest. And getting a diagnosis will not help someone who disagrees with it.



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27 Apr 2017, 9:12 am

I appreciate all the help. No my SO does not take away from my son at all, I would never allow that. I'm not concerned about him getting a diagnosis or anything for no reason. I more so would like him to realize that he is different than myself and that we made need therapy to ep our situation. He has denied that he believes he has an it (even though a long ago when we looked into it together he agreed ). He's an old school type guy who believes in hard work and that men don't have emotions and that's all men now are "weak" in his eyes for being romantic or openly affectionate. Does anyone have advice on how I can go about getting him to just take on his responsibilities. Compared to me he has like non. And the ones he does have (doing dishes) get left for days. Currently we have a kitchen full of mouldy dishes from 5 days worth of dishes. I can't even cook anything. I refuse to be his mother. I just want common ground where I stop nagging and he acts like an equal partner. We possibly may be even ending our relationship as we are "talking" tonight. So we shall see.... any advice for the talk would be appreciated ! I am an emotional wreck and tend to say the wrong thing in his mind.



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29 Apr 2017, 12:50 am

nurseangela wrote:
I understand that they were apart when all of this took place, but now he has a kid and I wouldn't want any part of that situation.
But she has a kid thou so it would be kind of hypocritical for someone not to want to get invulvoed with someone who has a kid cuz of baggage when that person also has a kid. Just saying


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