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03 Jun 2017, 5:02 am

The only people who have relationships where one is 25 and one 52 is when the 25 year old is a female model and the 52 year old a billionaire with a terminal illness.

He has already said the age gap is too much so you should respect that. Your crush is probably being driven by some psychological or emotional need that you have. People have crushes, there's nothing particularly wrong with them, but don't get too carried away and don't get too involved in this as it's not going to happen. At most you might become a notch on his bedpost but nothing beyond that.



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05 Jun 2017, 8:46 pm

When I was 25, I used to look at women in their 50's with admiration.

Now that I am in my 50's, I look at women in their 50's with the same admiration......



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07 Jun 2017, 10:33 pm

I saw "Adam," and thought it was quite moving. It gave me some insight into my situation. The actor resembles my handsome friend. Lol :heart:


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07 Jun 2017, 10:36 pm

Is your friend into astronomy, too?



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09 Jun 2017, 7:32 am

I don't think he's into astronomy, but the actor facially resembled him.


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09 Jun 2017, 7:37 am

Chichikov wrote:
The only people who have relationships where one is 25 and one 52 is when the 25 year old is a female model and the 52 year old a billionaire with a terminal illness.

He has already said the age gap is too much so you should respect that. Your crush is probably being driven by some psychological or emotional need that you have. People have crushes, there's nothing particularly wrong with them, but don't get too carried away and don't get too involved in this as it's not going to happen. At most you might become a notch on his bedpost but nothing beyond that.


I never expected him to want to date me, and you are correct, it's an emotional need that I have at this time. I also did not want to date him. He's sweet, but too young. I'm just feeling lonely, so I got carried away. Like most women, I guess I was looking for some validation of some kind from someone I thought was amazing.



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09 Jun 2017, 12:53 pm

You just might be amazing......



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09 Jun 2017, 5:40 pm

I'm definitely more kooky than amazing. :D



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09 Jun 2017, 5:44 pm

All my life, I've liked a certain type of kooky.

The type that is slightly awkward....yet is witty about it. And doesn't care what others think.

And goes on living life, and always trying and striving, but able to see the "forest for the trees."

Who is beyond trying to "keep up with the Joneses." Yet will not force me to go to flea markets/thrift stores/yard sales with them LOL

Somebody who could be kooky in their amazing-ness, or (positively) amazing in their kookiness.



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09 Jun 2017, 7:09 pm

angela8 wrote:
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The only people who have relationships where one is 25 and one 52 is when the 25 year old is a female model and the 52 year old a billionaire with a terminal illness.

He has already said the age gap is too much so you should respect that. Your crush is probably being driven by some psychological or emotional need that you have. People have crushes, there's nothing particularly wrong with them, but don't get too carried away and don't get too involved in this as it's not going to happen. At most you might become a notch on his bedpost but nothing beyond that.


I never expected him to want to date me, and you are correct, it's an emotional need that I have at this time. I also did not want to date him. He's sweet, but too young. I'm just feeling lonely, so I got carried away. Like most women, I guess I was looking for some validation of some kind from someone I thought was amazing.

Everyone feels like that at some point, including men. The trick is to notice when it's happening which is easier said than done.



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11 Jun 2017, 7:23 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
All my life, I've liked a certain type of kooky.

The type that is slightly awkward....yet is witty about it. And doesn't care what others think.

And goes on living life, and always trying and striving, but able to see the "forest for the trees."

Who is beyond trying to "keep up with the Joneses." Yet will not force me to go to flea markets/thrift stores/yard sales with them LOL

Somebody who could be kooky in their amazing-ness, or (positively) amazing in their kookiness.


I hate having this crush. Also people think I'm weird because of it. I'm unconventional so I'm naturally attracted to unconventional men. I hate flea markets as well. Lol I never have kept up with Joneses. I'm so fond of this guy. Hope it goes away soon. Thanks for writing.


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