how to ask someone out?

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How about this, go up to her and have long conversations whilst staring deeply into her eyes and smiling, and occasionally looking at her mouth like you are about to kiss her, and see what she does.

You could be like me. Just burn out (not referring to drugs. I hate drugs) in front of your computer. Then a year later, she has a boyfriend and you become a close friend of hers, both aware of your feelings for each other but forever apart. Then some stuff happens and she ends up almost dying by overdosing and you spend 2 weeks in a haze of guilt and despair as she is in a loony bin.
I shall speak no more of this...

Long conversation with someone you don't know?
Not all of us can manage. Trust me, if I could get
through talking, it would be easy now.

I've always found that asking a girl out with the simple, "Hey, mind if I ask you out on a date?" works... to a point. However, I have also had girls go so far as to fake knee injuries to get out of said dates, because they thought I was crazy for trying to do the romantic "lend them your jacket" thing, or "walk them to the door" thing.

One bit of advice my father once gave me came from "Surely You're Joking, Dr. Feynman!" Basically, girls like to be chased, and are desperate for attention. So, if you shrug them off, or act somewhat interested, but simply wait, they will start coming to you.

Of course, these are the typical games played by NT's, as everyone seems to refer to them here. I would much rather prefer the direct approach.

Yes, and NOT buying them drinks. But you have to have good social skills, which Feynman did.
I do NOT recommend that you did what I did for my ex-gf. We were alone together, I didn't know how to say it, so instead I French-kissed her (first time I'd done it). Now, it worked, but I was in love, knew she loved me back, knew she desired me, etc (yes, it still went sour in the end). In any other circumstances, probably light and casual is better (though I have no further experience of dating, so take my advice with a pinch of salt).
As an aside, the annoying thing about light and casual is that it's a problem with opposite-sex friends - one female sort of friend I had, I asked her out to see a film, she refused because she thought I was asking her on a date (instead of friends going out somewhere).

Kissing someone works fine
before love. So does sex.
Good way to get where
you're going.