10 year age gap. Can a 29 old date a 19 year old?

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I once read that the general rule is to divide your age by two and add seven to see the youngest age you can date without society looking at you funny. I took it mostly as a joke, but on occasion it might still be a good reference.

My concern with hypothetically dating someone younger would be difficulty finding things in common. However, I have known several couples with similar age gaps who ended up together for the long term and seemed happy. As long as there is mutual attraction and interest (and both people are of legal age), I don't see why there'd be a problem. Even if some people were to look down upon the relationship, it's really no one else's business.

Why not try to get to know her better and see what happens?

It's not like you are old enough to be her dad.It would mostly depend on her maturity level.
BUT,I married a man twelve years older than me and it was not a good thing in the long run.I started dating him when I just turned eighteen and he was thirty.We grew apart over the years and by my mid thirties realized I had made a terrible mistake.We had nothing in common and it was miserable for both of us.Nothing to do but get a divorce and realize I wasted most of my young life on someone I didn't love.
So be careful,she is young and may not want to commit to a long term relationship.
Everyone's situation is different,it may work out great for you.You'll never know unless you try.
Good luck!

Any relationship would be nice I've never made it past talking for 2-4 weeks. Never to relationship stage or 2nd date. I'd like to be together forever but even if it only last few months or years it'd be nice.
But i dont know had bad day at work and lucky she was there.

Was going ask to coffee maybe or lunch. So can talk and see if anything in common. She'll probably say no though:(

Don't think she has anything to do with common interests though. I'm 29 and play video games and watch tv. Not what my moms generation consider an adult interest but my generation has a lot of gamers. Heck I know a lot who are 40/50 who seriously game. Their kids game too now. Generational gamers lol

For some reason, Sly, I bet you would do fine with a 19-year-old.

There's no shame in dating a person of that age if you're 29. It's perfectly legal.

You can both teach other things.

Now....if I were to date a 19-year-old, that would be a different story.

Because the lower end of that age gap will be of legal age so no crime against law and nature will be committed

18+ is legal and technical it's only illegal to have sex with minors not date. It's just creepy. But this lady is 19 and depending on when born could be 20.
My question is why
19 old girl dating a 29 old is creepy but
Same girl at 25 dating a 35 old is ok.
Seems to me if the first is bad then any ten year gap should be bad.

Not that I would do it personally because I prefer them older (not old, just older than moi), or better still the single life, but whatever the legal age of consent currently is (16), in my view once someone reaches 18 then they're old enough for any age, even 60+. I wouldn't say it's right (unless it's the real thing, love), but I wouldn't say it's a no no either. Call it a bit immoral and pervy (again, unless it's true love), but it isn't a crime against law OR nature for well older people to like and go with anyone as young as 18 (16 and 17 is currently legal but too close to no no territory for my liking, the legal age should be 18 in every country if you ask me)

So I see no issue whatsoever for a 29 year old to go with a 19 year old, especially if it's the person and not the age

Cause I'm naive, and playful?

I always tended to have more in common with younger people. All my friends are 5+ years younger then me except 3
2 being in their late 30/early 40 and the other being 2 years younger then me.
Most the women who messaged or dated me were 18/19 or 23. Only tw of whom showed interest were 27/28 mins you the 28 one was when I was 24/25

Honestly most 19/20 old women seem to be further in life then me.
20 old at work already has a 4 year degree
23 old is just finishing a accounting degree.
I have a worthless degree and work at a retail store for however long they'll let me.

It's subject to opinion that one bud. I don't believe it is, I wouldn't believe a 49 year old going with an 18 or 19 year old would be at all creepy, unless only that age group will do it for them as opposed to it being love or just liking people who are younger in a general sense ie anyone aged 18-25, I'd say that's maybe a bit creepy but not much. As for you, if you like or love her and she feels the same, then that's the only thing that matters. f**k what people think or say about the age gap, most people turn out to be hypocrites anyway, ignorant twats!

The us is 18 my state has exceptions for 2 years so 19 with 17 would be ok but not a 20 old with a 16 old.

I thought she looked 25/27 she's pretty and cute . She has a cute smile. I dont know yet if we have anything in common besides both being shy. I don't do stuff for sex mean I'd eventually want sex I have a high sex drive sadly, but I want love and romance. A companion/ best friend

On horrible side not some country in South American the age is like 8

Some country in aisan is 11 and they have sex huts for the kids to have sex in then go back to their houses I saw it on a sex culture documentary

I meant 49+ year olds only interested in 18-19 year olds and no older, that's what I'd say is maybe a bit creepy but not much. Well more a bit pervy than creepy, but not enough to be deemed sinister in my view (I wouldn't myself but that's because I prefer people my age or older, not old just older, and that's if I even stop wanting to be single, which isn't very likely

Wow I'm glad I haven't just ate. The less that kinda monstrosity is mentioned, the better, although it's worth mentioning that history shows us the legal age was much younger the world over so that monstrosity has not always been exclusive to Islamic nations and states

By "that monstrosity", I mean the age of consent being way too low, bad enough that sickos who would do that at all even exist, making it legal for them is unbridled and sickening evil

Let's start from the beginning I guess. You know it's "bad" otherwise you wouldn't have made a thread about it and subsequently tried to rationalise and justify it. Secondly surely you know the "why isn't any 10 year age gap bad" logic is just silly....gee, let me take two seconds to come up with an example....is a 20 year old dating a 10 year old the same thing as a 40 year old dating a 30 year old? No? And why not? That's why it's bad....

At nearly 30 you're supposed to be mature and rounded, have ambitions and goals, want to have meaningful conversations with an equal. She's a teenager, what meaningful connection can a 30 year old have with a teenager when they're in such different stages in life? Most people would consider that an exploitative relationship where the older person is taking advantage of the younger person, taking advantage of their naivety, leading them into something they wouldn't do if they had the wisdom, courage and experience that age brings. Further more when society looks on these relationships they consider my first point (what can a 30 year old see in a teenager) and then come to the conclusion that they are using the girl for sex. These assumptions people are making may or may not be true, but you're not going to stop them being made.

Moving on from the age gap, you've spoken to this girl a few times and you want to be with her forever? Do see how things like that make you look? Girls don't like guys who are desperate or who put too much pressure on everything, it's a turn-off. Of course that's something that most girls grow into, get to realise over time with age and experience....something this girl doesn't yet have. Do you see what I'm getting at here?

Moving on even from that, you (and others) are talking like this girl is a commodity that you're thinking of buying, as if the relationship is a done deal, all you have to do is take it if you want it. For all you know the girl won't want to go out with you at all? I'm not saying she won't, but she might not, she is a person with her own mind and opinions that will make her own choices. I know you get that deep down inside, this comment is more of a general one aimed at this forum in general, I see this kind of talk a fair bit on various threads.

Lastly, the woman telling you to "go for it". Who knows what her motives are? They could be genuine, she might think this girl will go out with you if you ask (maybe they've talked?). She might not know but wants to encourage you, wants you to show confidence and practice asking girls out. Or maybe she's a horrible person and wants to spur you on just to see you fail? I don't know her so can't say which scenario is true, but if you're not sure yourself then I wouldn't pay much attention to her.

disregard age*.
disregard what you think you know about social f**k, disregard everything.
i hope you find happiness.

I said I want a relationship that last forever didn't say that's with her but that's my idea end go with any girl I'd want to date. I'd hope most people want that besides those who just want short 2 month relationship which quite frankly I'd be more suspicious of short term relationships being more about sex the long term ones. I don't get why one would go into a relationship with a time limit.
She's not 10 she's 19 maybe even 20. My closest to a friend at work met her husband at 20 and he was 32. They're still together and have kids.
I'm quite naive maybe more so then her. Would not a 30 old woman take advantage of that( some women have already) I'm too trusting of people and wrongfully asunednin pass people were good natured like myself.

Seems you think I'd mislead her for sex. Something that's been done to me a few times I wouldn't do that.

I dont know if it's bad. I don't feel it would be but I get anxiety over what others might think. Others might be talking like that but I'm not I pointed out to the person who suggested I bonk her brains out that it's not what I'm after. I don't treat women as sex object. I'd never refer to a woman in that way except possible in dirty talk later in the relationship and certainly never to others. I don't get why people share their relationship sexual experiences seems rather private personal to me.

I think she meant it as encouraging. She's one of the few women at work who's nice to me (for unknown reasons to me) she works in the cashier area with the girl both are reasons I asked her advice. I actually only asked if the girl was single. In order to get to know id have to ask her out to coffee so we can chat. Give our work there's no time for chat. She works across the store and we only see each other in passing as we head to our departments. So i dont know she might say no, we might go out and have nothing in common given we both shy it'll be bit awkward at first, it might work out. I dont know
I should probably ask and let her have a say rather then deciding for her though. I just have to get the courage to and figure out how to phrase it. I think ultimately it should be her decision whether she is ok with the age difference or not.