AngelRho wrote:
Enough with the hate already. I’m not about justifying bad behavior. At all. But it’s worth giving anyone, and I mean EVERYONE an honest chance. People make mistakes. People do all sorts of things for reasons we don’t always know. We don’t know her problems, how things got here, but we do know he relationship is over. I think we can do a bit better than running someone down.
I’ve been in relationships too long, also. My most egregious sin was trying desperately to hang on to her in spite of us being bad for each other, and then instead of breaking up with her early on when things went bad, I proceeded to cheat on her off/on until we got engaged. And then I didn’t even break up with her until 6 weeks before our wedding.
Nothing can make what I did right.
But neither can anything erase the horrible experiences I had with an abusive partner that had a small part in messing me up to the point I’d be a jerk to someone. Doesn’t matter if she deserved what I did or if I deserved what she did. It’s a complicated issue and it’s STILL unpleasant.
So instead of tearing someone down, let’s rather be sad that someone is hurt, happy that she’s out of a long, relationship that never had a future, and encouraging so she can heal from this quickly and move on. Her experience has been punishment enough. Let’s move on, please.
Hey look no one is trying to downplay the situation but you don't come here and paint a picture that the guy is in the wrong till someone actually asks her the backstory to it. That's all I care about.
19 Oct 2017, 11:00 am
