Men should advertise lack of social skill in dating profiles

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Your pictures reveal more about your social skills.

Looking timid, tired, not optimal bodyfat levels, and not great in pictures = women think poor social skills.

Looking muscular & hot with myspace angles/ chiselled jaw = women think good social skills.

Just for the record, there are female predators out there. Signalling weakness in social media is not a great idea.

Meeting someone in person, it might be ok to talk about the fact that you prefer quiet places and sedentary hobbies, for example.

I think rather than confidence it's charm that people like. Any creep can be confident in themselves and come across as a total loser, but charming folk can overcome appearance barriers quite effectively.

Yeah, the same way how "chemistry" means sexual attraction.

Same meaning, but one is more PC sounding than the other.

While sexual attraction is undeniably a big element of chemistry, I think it's more than that. The hottest person in the world may be poor company, so not really ideal long-term relationship material. I see chemistry is a mix of both attraction and compatibility.

The first part of your response seems largely hypocritical.
I understand your need to protect yourself as a vulnerable person.
I think limiting it to gender is wrong, though. While men statistically speaking are more likely to prey, security should be afforded to everyone and generally everybody should remain vigilant in what they share on the internet, let alone a dating profile. I don't think policing profiles to cater to a subset is the way to go. We can agree to disagree on that.

Saying “I have bad social skills” on a dating site is social suicide. You are in the minority if that’s what you are looking for.

You can word it better, like saying you’re introverted etc. that isn’t bad.

There’s just as many manipulative controlling women who seek weak submissive men to control and abuse.

Also don’t like how you use window shop. But sadly that’s how most women see dating. Men are objects in a store. Many of us are in that dark dusty back corner for times no one wants that set on clearance for years.

Last edited by sly279 on 01 Nov 2017, 2:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

This is true. It’s not the best idea to dangle yourself as prey.

From experience being honest isn’t confident. I’ve had a few women be surprised. As friends I’d share my problems with them to which they said I lack confidence, then when I was trying to date them I stopped sharing and suddenly they like wow yiur confident I didn’t think you could be. So seems to women confidence means the man doesn’t have emotions or issues.
But to men confident means you have ability and believe you can accomplish tasks with that ability.
If I ever get a gf I won’t be sharing my emotions with her, if when I get sad I’ll just ignore her until I’m happy again, I won’t tell her about my day or stuff at work. Gotta keep unemotional to appear confident.

Most women here seem go clubbing, dancing, hang out at bars, or hiking on some mountain somewhere, in and vacations to Europe or Asia. Not a lot of inoverts women it seems who just wanna stay inided on their couch watching s movie. My generation always has to be moving and doing something exciting it seems. I have adhd and that’s undesirable for me lol. I have to be doing something all the time, but to me those people seem to have super super hardcore adhd lol. Whys every woman have to be super outgoing social. Why is staying inside seen as horrible?

I’m not macho, I don’t olay macho, a lot of guys are though. And that’s what most women want. They want a macho outdoors manly man. A real man, you know that man depicted in the 1800s mountainier rugged looks, muscular body, defeating the elements.
I’m sadly not that man. I’m not a real man. I dont know what I am. I’m not strong, and while I do enjoy the outdoors I’m also germphobic. Have you been outdoors, it’s not very clean. It’s got a lot of disgusting stuff in it. Take ticks. I’ve bpneber had a tick I have no desire to either, I don’t want The disease they spread either.

Many women might say they like underdogs, it makes a good movie or show, but reality they wouldn’t date such losers. A lot of people say one thing and do another. Lot of people say they want to help the poor but they won’t and then call for cutting programs that help the poor.

Showing no emotions is how you show confidence.

I don’t think there’s any way to express my weaknesses on a dating site that won’t be a big red flag to all women to run away.

You sound like my kinda lady! Too bad I don't live anywhere near Michigan. lol. Lets stay in and watch a movie or something, eh? Haha.

A lot of men see dating that way as well... or at least that is the impression that I get from listening to men, both in the internet and in the real world. I'd say it's not about gender, it's about personality.



I wouldn't recommend taking that kind of attitude from the start. Sure, after you know your girlfriend well then it's okay to do that if she seems like the kind of person who would be best approached that way, but what if she isn't? She might end up thinking you're heartless for never showing emotion or that you don't trust her at all for never sharing your problems... not saying that something like this will happen, but it is a possibility that you should consider.

For example, "I prefer kissing to talking" or perhaps "my intense stare will tell you more than a thousand words would". Ok, perhaps I'm not very good at this.

I do agree that men can be victims too. I don't agree that it happens as much or as severely. You are right though, everyone should be careful.
The window shopping comment is offensive and I apologize. It is similar I am looking at and comparing attributes of something that I want and cannot have, just not due to money cost. Sorry if my comparison was insensitive.