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Its because he perceives EVERY woman as.not liking him, which makes him feel inadequete for their standards, undesirable and worsens his already low self esteem.

Unfortunately it may be correct that the majority of women would percieve him as unattractive.

Many here have agreed this is likely the case.

You yourself say most women want a man with a decent job, car and ambition.

Sly considers his job inadequate for.most women, does not own a car and considers himself unambitious.

"Then self improve!"

Yeah yeah yeah.

But, he should only do things for.himself correct?

Well he has said already the job he has now is the best he could get after years of searching, and owning a car was too much money for him.

He complains because he needs to vent/let off some steam.

He also, due to.his low self esteem feels unable to improve his situation.

Depression does.that to a person.

Complaining is natural and human. Everyone does it..If a person doesn't complain about something online then theybdp it to family/friends or themselves.

A lot of people complain on the internet nowadays because their family and friends wouldn't want to hear it.

It's.not against the rules so its perfectly allowed on this website.

I’m only telling him to self improve because he’s constantly complaining about how much better off he would be if he had these things. (He wouldn’t be ).

If he doesn’t want to change, that’s cool. Just accept it’s going to be harder, and stop shifting the blame.

Men and women aren’t the same. Women might like ambition in general, men like looks in general.

You don’t see me moaning about how men don’t want to date me because I am chubby and ugly and moaning that I shouldn’t have to change. I can either try to do something about it, or accept reality.

Gold diggers typically don't want to work and intend to live off their partner's finances, regardless of their level of attraction to the partner. I think that's the distinction.

There's a big difference between wanting a man with a job, ambition, a car, etc. when the woman herself offers all of those things, too. And at the end of the day, there's nothing wrong with people being honest about what they're looking for. If you don't like the criteria or fulfil it, you're not a match for them anyway so it becomes irrelevant. If you find their criteria distasteful, even more so.

That said, I don't get that s**t at all. Your attraction should be to the person, tying it to changeable factors like jobs/looks/finance/whatever seems backwards.

Is it really ambition people like though, or ambition so.long as it leads to success?

I wonder if Connor McGregor's girlfriend who supported him financially while he trained to be a good boxer in the gym daily would have continued to support him financially forever even if he failed at his dream...

Those aren't the only options though. I'm sure there are plenty of people who start out with ambitions, retire those ambitions or modify them as time goes on, and still keep their partner. Ambition wouldn't be the sole attractive trait, in those cases, and besides, people adapt to change.

Just look at how many people have normal boring lives with wives and kids and things. They must have dreamed bigger than that at one time. Still it's an archetype of happiness.
(I would rather die lol)
But it is.

I'll take that as a "yes".

You have already argued in this thread that women care far more about an ambitious man who has dreams and desires he works toward more than materialistic items or the success in itself.

Now it seems you're.moving the goalposts.

A car is a materialistic item.

Will a man with a high paying job who works hard, saves up and buys a car be more desirable than a man with a low paying job who works even harder, saves even better but can't afford the car anyway still?

Why/why not.