Do you think my views are sexist in this case?

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I guess the majority of experiences, is causing the generalization. When most of a gender treats you one way, I start to develop a biased opinion towards the gender as a majority I guess.

Do these relationships begin via online hookups? I ask because most normal people do not seem to treat them seriously. There seems to be a preconceived idea that it's all casual. In which case the women you are interacting with are those who are not looking for a relationship. They may have put something ambiguous on their profile expecting men 'to read between the lines' which you may be missing.

I do not do online dating for this reason. The profiles are in code that everyone else gets.

Well I would say that I go after women who are looking for a relationship but often strike out, where as the ones looking to hook up, I do good with.

For example one women who was serious about a relationship, I went out with, and I had a really good time with her and thought she was really cool. I was making her laugh a lot which is a good thing, but then about half an hour before the date ended, something happened, and her demeanor changed and she started to lose interest.

Not sure what it was but there was a change in her mood for sure. Things like that, I keep screwing up on.

That sounds as if it was probably something that you said. There are a lot of things that sound perfectly nice to me, and that I mean to be nice when I say them, that get taken badly by other people, particularly other women. They seem to read a lot more into what I say than just the words This might sound dramatic but a hidden recorder might help. You could play it back until you can pick out where you went wrong. I wouldn't tell anyone about the recorder though because I don't think most normal people would understand.

Actually in my job, I wire people for sound, so I have all the equipment to do that with and could. However, if normal people will not understand, how can I ask friends or people for their opinions on what is going wrong?

Wow, that's lucky. The best thing would be to listen to it over again until you can see the problem, this is much more likely when you're not in a date situation and are able to concentrate. If you still have no idea, it's only one NT female that you need to hear it. Someone who understands that your problem is a communication one (like your Mum?).

I meant normal people wouldn't understand unless they really understood why you needed to do it. I don't think just explaining your difficulty would be enough, it would need to be someone familiar with you and definitely someone trustworthy.

If a relationship worked out you could tell her further down the line when she knows you much better. It's not that what you would be doing is wrong, it's that I think some people would misunderstand why you would be doing it.