Why do women think this is a good look for men?

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My veins "pop" when I lift weights too. It happens because the muscle hardens, and then pushes the veins "out into the open". And because I don't have much fat on me, the veins are much more visible, otherwise they would be "covered". But there's really not anything unnatural about, I have never, and will never ever touch any drugs, ever. The only thing unnatural about those bodybuilders is their size.

I think it's a stupid look for men.

I don't. I like men who are average in body type. Preferably with long dark hair.
But then again I've been told I'm weird because I think Robert Smith in the mid '80s was hot. I like to imagine he still looks like that now.

This is why I try and talk to non-white women, or women who are in their 30s. Being feminine may be attractive to a lot of white women, but that isn't the case with other women I've noticed. I'm bald, so I have to have muscles and a beard to be attractive, plus I hate being weak.

That's kind of unusual. I see so many girls who are with these really underweight guys and I don't get why they find them attractive.

Funny, I'm fairly slim and never gotten any positive attention from women before.

It could be an age thing. The 20 year old girls want really skinny boys. The older girls want average guys.

I never said it's unnatural, but it's yucky!
I don't know, maybe I have a sort of phobia about the veins, I hate to see them, I hate if someone touches them on my wrists.
He used to be a bit chubby and very strong and I loved the combination. Unfortunately, after he decided to burn some fat, he didn't know when to stop and he ended up with an eating disorder

I'm 21, the women I'm around most are within the 20-24 range.

Maybe the girls don't like you for reasons other than your body type. It could just be standard aspie problems like lack of charisma.

How do young, VERY attractive girls, react to photographing him after he's flirted with them? They giggle and want to take photos to put on their own social media accounts.

The telling part was they all stopped what they were doing to do as he asked them before he took his shirt off. This is partly he's good looking, partly his confidence and partly the fact that he had very good social interaction skills. If this had been a serious attempt to get a girlfriend he was in a much better position with his shirt on. When he took it off he got more attention but they were not taking him seriously. The same reaction could be got (with a lot less hard work) by borrowing a giraffe and walking it on a lead.

Well, yes and no. Obviously they're attracted to him and yes while this wouldn't be the best approach to get a girl friend, the topic of the thread is about girls being attracted to muscular men. Obviously if they're grinding on him and feeling him up and giving him there number, whether they take him serious or not I guarantee a good portion of those girls had sex with him .

Plus, that type of attention is better than no attention. Lifting weights and being fit, especially in todays society and especially for a man that has aspergers is a tremendous benefit. It makes you look better, it makes you build confidence and it makes you more assertive. Even with poor social skills, it can somewhat make up for it, or at the very least make you more social since you have increased confidence. A lot of women will say that a man doesn't need to be in shape and all this, well sure that's true. A man doesn't need his own place, or car either, but it certainly helps, especially in todays society. It's better to be a realist, than an optimist or pessimist.

I 100% agree with this. Lifting weights in itself is healthy for anyone, but for the aspie man especially, it will benefit him even more. One of the reasons is simply getting out of your head and into your body, us aspie guys think, ALOT. Second is like you said, it's a huge confidence boost, not only in how you feel, but people, especially women respond to you differently. It's easier for them to respect you, even if I haven't got top shelf social skills. Third, it will make you feel more safe. No group in society gets picked on, or bullied more than the aspie male, even if you can't fight, if you look strong, people won't mess with you as much.

And something I have thought about alot: Being overweight increases estrogen, and lowers testosterone. Low testosterone can lead to depression, low esteem, bad concentration, hair loss, bad skin, weaker bone structure, ect. Testosterone is vital to good health for males. I can't help but speculate that all these men who have no self respect, would benefit massively by lifting weights, not just because they'll "look shredded", but because it will lead to a much better hormonal profile.

It's been a rough journey for me. From overweight to anorexic and extremely thin and weak, I suspect my overexercise and undereating gave me low testosterone or some other hidden health issue I will soon visit the doctor to check up on as I'm still recovering from the consequences of the past today.

I am proud to have finally reached decent size and strength levels but despite calculating macros, consistently progressing with my hypertrophy routine and constantly researching the Bodybuilding forums, I probably should have made better progress for how long I've been at it. Oh well. Some progress is better than no progress.

I still completely and totally agree but I just want to point out when you have depression, anxiety, pursuing fitness is a whole lot more difficult for you than a healthy minded N.T.

I don't mean to discourage anyone, I fully encourage pursuing a healthy and active lifestyle.

But don't be too hard on yourself guys.

Don't feel guilty all day because you ate a little too much for that one day, you'll get back on track tomorrow.

Oh, your form was SLIIIGHTLY off on the bench press? Oh no. Poor me. I've failed. It's the end of the world.

You need to get yourself in a decent place mentally before you pursue fitness or you might fall into extremes.

You might feel starvation is the only way to lose weight or you might over-exercise without realizing it.

If you are to become a healthier, fitter, happier aspie, make sure you take the time to do the research, change your diet and exercise habits and lifestyle SLOW, STEADILY and GRADUALLY, have PATIENCE, treat yourself well, and you'll be well on your way to changing your life.