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20 Dec 2017, 2:47 pm

I don't think Maria meant any harm. I don't think she meant to assume anything.



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20 Dec 2017, 7:18 pm

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I would always like to meet the kid of my date.

Just don't try to be a "dad" to the kid right away.


^^ this right here.
I'd consider it an honor to get to hang out with her and her kid. And it's a fact of life you'll eventually have to deal with if you end up dating her. Although I would think 10 is old enough to stay home alone for a little while, or hang out with a friend, or something.
Kids are pretty amazing.



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20 Dec 2017, 8:51 pm

Well at first she said he (her son) might like to go get dinner with us. Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up. So if she can't find a babysitter (and it's not looking good) then the date is off... again.



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21 Dec 2017, 5:30 am

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He's ten. In certain countries it is illegal to leave a child that age alone.


It’s illegal here, but everyone does it. 10 year olds aren’t stupid.

Anyway some kids might be badly behaved or have other problems. If that’s the case, then sure. Some parents are also over protective.



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21 Dec 2017, 5:32 am

FunkyPunky wrote:
Well at first she said he (her son) might like to go get dinner with us. Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up. So if she can't find a babysitter (and it's not looking good) then the date is off... again.


I’d forget her. Who needs to be stuffed around like that?



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21 Dec 2017, 7:14 am

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Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up.

Yikes! If that isn't a giant red flag I don't know what is. Hope you are smart enough to run the other way on this one: I briefly dated a woman like this and I was too naïve to read between the lines.



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21 Dec 2017, 9:53 am

FunkyPunky wrote:
Well at first she said he (her son) might like to go get dinner with us. Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up. So if she can't find a babysitter (and it's not looking good) then the date is off... again.

Like some others said, it doesn't seem like this is going to work.
She either can't make up her mind, has some issues, or has a very problematic child and no friends or family that could help her out for a short while.

If you absolutely want to give it another try do what Boo suggested in the other tread, if you haven't yet. But it doesn't loom like anything is going to work with her.
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Stop immediatey initiating plans with her; the ball is in her court now, she would initiate if she is interested.

If you don’t feel to give her the impression that you lost impression, tell her something along the lines: “Ok, It seems I am picking the wrong times for you; I will leave it to you to suggest the time and place, that if you are really interested.


The ball is in her court now. Plenty of balls are in her court. Her court is full of balls.



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21 Dec 2017, 10:01 am

My first impression is to think that she's the stereotypical crazy single mom who can't keep a boyfriend because she and her son are both super toxic leeching people but... a few days ago she told me she was suing her ex boyfriend because she bought him a motorcycle and then he quit making his share of the payments for it a few months after they broke up. So I don't know what to make of that. She lives in some of the most expensive apartments in town and works a really high paying job and apparently has the money to buy motorcycles for guys she barely knows so... what the hell kind of woman is this?



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21 Dec 2017, 10:12 am

NorthWind wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
Well at first she said he (her son) might like to go get dinner with us. Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up. So if she can't find a babysitter (and it's not looking good) then the date is off... again.

Like some others said, it doesn't seem like this is going to work.
She either can't make up her mind, has some issues, or has a very problematic child and no friends or family that could help her out for a short while.

If you absolutely want to give it another try do what Boo suggested in the other tread, if you haven't yet. But it doesn't loom like anything is going to work with her.
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Stop immediatey initiating plans with her; the ball is in her court now, she would initiate if she is interested.

If you don’t feel to give her the impression that you lost impression, tell her something along the lines: “Ok, It seems I am picking the wrong times for you; I will leave it to you to suggest the time and place, that if you are really interested.


The ball is in her court now. Plenty of balls are in her court. Her court is full of balls.


True, very true.

See guys? Even the logical women themselves admit that they, as women, have it easier, much easier. :twisted:



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21 Dec 2017, 10:19 am

FunkyPunky wrote:
My first impression is to think that she's the stereotypical crazy single mom who can't keep a boyfriend because she and her son are both super toxic leeching people but... a few days ago she told me she was suing her ex boyfriend because she bought him a motorcycle and then he quit making his share of the payments for it a few months after they broke up. So I don't know what to make of that. She lives in some of the most expensive apartments in town and works a really high paying job and apparently has the money to buy motorcycles for guys she barely knows so... what the hell kind of woman is this?


She's a Biker lover.

Don't allow her to buy you anything of this sort, a rich girl once offered me an apartment, I refused (partly because her father is apparently a drug lord).



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21 Dec 2017, 11:31 am

FunkyPunky wrote:
Well at first she said he (her son) might like to go get dinner with us. Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up. So if she can't find a babysitter (and it's not looking good) then the date is off... again.


Abort!

She's a flake, and I suspect she's one of those women who just enjoys being pursued.

You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.


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21 Dec 2017, 11:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
NorthWind wrote:
FunkyPunky wrote:
Well at first she said he (her son) might like to go get dinner with us. Then she turned around and said she never introduces her boyfriends to him until they're "serious" because he gets really torn up whenever she breaks up. So if she can't find a babysitter (and it's not looking good) then the date is off... again.

Like some others said, it doesn't seem like this is going to work.
She either can't make up her mind, has some issues, or has a very problematic child and no friends or family that could help her out for a short while.

If you absolutely want to give it another try do what Boo suggested in the other tread, if you haven't yet. But it doesn't loom like anything is going to work with her.
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Stop immediatey initiating plans with her; the ball is in her court now, she would initiate if she is interested.

If you don’t feel to give her the impression that you lost impression, tell her something along the lines: “Ok, It seems I am picking the wrong times for you; I will leave it to you to suggest the time and place, that if you are really interested.


The ball is in her court now. Plenty of balls are in her court. Her court is full of balls.


True, very true.

See guys? Even the logical women themselves admit that they, as women, have it easier, much easier. :twisted:


Crazy, manipulative people of either sex generally have it easier than sane, honest folks of either sex.


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21 Dec 2017, 11:36 am

XFilesGeek wrote:
You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?



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21 Dec 2017, 11:40 am

Kortz wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

As long as she doesn't tell me she wants to date other men while also dating me I don't think that'll be a problem.



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21 Dec 2017, 11:45 am

Kortz wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?


Polygamy is a subject that offends a lot of people, the majority of people can’t digest the idea, and while I am not against polygamy I agree with him that it’s silly to assume her to be poly just because she’s a single mother - childless people are as likely to be poly too; how does this assumption even make sense?

Btw Maria is in love with a fictional serial killer, so she is not “another poor girl”; she can handle him. *gulp*



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21 Dec 2017, 11:55 am

FunkyPunky wrote:
Kortz wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
You deserve better than some nut and her crotch fruit.

Does he really, though? Look at how he treated Maria earlier. What if he ends up treating whatever poor girl he dates the same way?

As long as she doesn't tell me she wants to date other men while also dating me I don't think that'll be a problem.


I was talking about your ugly attitude in general. God forbid she suggest anything you don't wholeheartedly agree with, for fear of you treating her like some skank for it. But you're obviously going to do whatever you want regardless of what anyone says, so... *shrugs*