Would it be harder for an ugly guy on the spectrum?

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Please say something logical.

I think if someone calls you ugly you should really consider if that's the kind of person whose opinion you should respect, to me ugliness and attractiveness are nothing to do with physical appearance, and I certainly don't believe that my beliefs are exceptional.

I think the bigger issue for most people who are struggling to find someone is one of self-confidence, it's a case of someone listening to degrading comments from shallow and ugly-minded people, and then closing themselves off from opportunities to meet genuinely kind and caring people through feelings of self-doubt and unworthiness.

Most guys I've dated on spectrum have had crushing self-confidence issues and it can really take a long time for them to open up and be themselves, to be able to get to know them, I think these guys would meet allot more kind and caring people if they could learn whose opinion they should respect and whose opinion they should disregard.

Kind, caring and considerate people want to be with kind, caring and considerate people, we simply struggle to find them because they hide away, because they are paying far too much attention to the opinions of shallow, inconsiderate and ugly-minded people.

I've gone out on dates with allot of guys, it rarely goes beyond that because you need to find someone who you are compatible with, someone you'd want to build a life with, to spend the rest of your lives together. The few guys I've had a serious relationship with have been very variable in physical appearance because that's not what attracted me to them.

If you want to meet the right person for you I'd recommend putting some deep thought into what really matters to you in a relationship, if you want to find someone kind, caring and considerate, someone who will love you for who you are, someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you really should stop listening to the people you wouldn't want to be with anyway.

As difficult as it is learn to ignore cruel, nasty and degrading comments, learn to be more open with other people, don't be afraid to open up and tell people how you feel, learn to be vulnerable, and if someone says something hurtful or cruel it's not something you should respect or pay any attention to.

Open your eyes and look around you, plenty of people who the unpleasant side of society would consider ugly or unworthy are in loving and happy relationships, just because certain groups of people are more vocal, it doesn't make them correct, anyone can find love.

Lectures....lectures...

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Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 15 Jan 2018, 9:11 am, edited 1 time in total.

well I'm sorry you didn't like my post.. maybe it's because the whole point of the post was that it was aimed at kind, caring and considerate individuals who would like to find someone with the same qualities.

I am in a relationship with someone with such qualities.

But your idealism is unbelievable and unrealistic, you live in an utopia, the world doesn't function like that.

as shocking as it may be to you, not everybody in the world shares the same opinion as you, this is how my life functions, I meet many wonderful people, and I can choose not to take heed of cynical asshats who take pleasure in dragging other people down to their own pessimistic level.

and thanks for proving my point that anyone can find love

I simply don't believe what you say, I don't believe that you are totally looks-blind who would date a guy you found very ugly just because you liked his personality. I believe you are mortal like the rest of us, and not a some saint figure.

Humans are hardwired to not find crooked noses attractive (The OP broke it due to boxing injury), the best and the most responsible advice for the OP: Repair the nose. And not to hide the head in the sand hoping that some girl will overlook his facial damage.

and yet again you're totally wrong, not everybody shares the same views as you, I know it may be a big concept for you, but people have different personalities and different views of the world, because thankfully not everyone is alike.

the only thing you are right on is that I wouldn't want to date someone who is ugly.. but for me as for many others, that has nothing to do with physical appearance.

people are not hard-wired to find anything ugly, it's a learned behaviour from whatever the most vocal among us believes to be true, but what you fail to take into account is that not all people are sheep that feel they need to follow the latest trend set by loud-mouthed small-minded idiots.

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No, you are a human being, a visual creature, like the rest of us, stop claiming that you are some superior being.

Let's say he has an amazing personality, would you date him?




Will he arouse you if he has an amazing personality?

Wrong....wrong! Scientifically so wrong!

Even human babies can determine what's ugly and what's pretty, not just for faces but for objects too.

are you really that blind to reality that you don't see that many people who you consider to be hideous and ugly are in total happy and loving relationships, not everyone thinks like you, the only thing I find hideous and ugly about your post is that you think everyone should feel the same repugnant way you do. sorry but some of us have a mind of our own.

Refrain from the indirect insults and personal attacks, and answer the two above questions instead. Look at them and tell me: Would you date these guys if they have amazing personality, YES or NO?




People usually pair up with others of same looks level, league. And you would be too blind to reality if you don't even see that.

I’m seen guys who look like the first guy with women. The second guy doesn’t exist.

Nobody here, I’m sure, is as “ugly” as those pictures. Sly could have a bit of a case if he looked like those guys....but he’s not nearly as ugly as those guys.

We don't know how Jamesy looks like, but all what we know that he got his nose damaged, we don't know how badly damaged it got. He claims that women lost interest in him after damaging his nose, wouldn't make sense then to advice him to surgically repair it?

Yes I would, I don't judge people on physical appearance, I have dated plenty of guys who I'm sure you would love to try to put down on their physical appearance alone, but thankfully I'm not obliged to think or feel the same way you do.

I know you're struggling with this concept.. but not everyone feels the same way you do, stop trying to pretend to know how I think or feel about anything, your attempts to discourage and put down people through your own blinkered view of the world only reflects badly upon yourself.