18 Year Old Autistic Daughter Obsessed with 15 Year Old

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Have patience and let them just be friends as in a platonic manner.
Just think of it this way; if they were to fall in love and marry at a legal age then; when the boy is 90 your daughter and him would be married for 75 years.
Just a thought.

I think it should also be noted that the AOC in D.C. is 16, so they're aren't too far off. I don't know if or what the R and J law is, but being completely real here, I doubt there would be any legal issues. The police aren't going to arrest a girl for being with a boy 3 years younger than her. It's just not very likely at all.

That said it is still his parents', and to some extent your decision to allow them to date. I would say a talk or two with him and his parents would be in order.

She seems, to me, like she has sort of the "mind" of a 15-year-old, so she feels an affinity for people of that age, rather than people of her own age. I was rather like that when I was a child/adolescent. Most of my friends were two years younger than me in those days.

A problem: she makes impulsive decisions based upon the presence of the boy. She refuses to get on the bus because of the presence of the boy.

Yep. I would have a counselor or somebody of that ilk talk to the girl. Try to offer her some "perspective." Be an "objective party" to this.

I would monitor them, closely.....but don't let them know that you are monitoring them.

Yes, sex is a possibility. But I don't sense that it is a probability in this instance. I sense that the boy is "young for his age, too," and might not be "ready" for sex. I wasn't "ready" for sex until I was 15, even though I pretended to be.

Still, one never knows. So keeping an eye on them is essential.

As for the legal ramifications in DC: It's legal for a 15-year-old to have sex with an 18-year-old. It's illegal for a 14-year-old ("under the age of 15") to have sex with an 18-year-old. It's the same thing in New York State, by the way.

Still, I would very strongly advise against those two having a sexual relationship.

Tell her to wait. When he's 18 and she's 21 no one will bat an eye.

Well the best way that you can handle it in my opinion is to try and divert her attention does she have any other interests or hobbies things she likes to do her infatuation well most likely pass in time.

If she doesn't realize that dating a younger guy is considered statutory rape she's more than likely not high functionining.

So nobody has heard of the Romeo and Juliet law? If there is three years or less difference in age, it's not illegal even if one's a minor and the other is not. Not sure if this applies in all states, so you should check the law in yours. That said, I really don't see 3 years as a big age gap in this case. Both kids are basically in the same age group. Lord knows how many 18 year old boys are dating 15 year old girls. Having the reverse shouldn't make a difference.

There I go, throwin' out the controversial opinion in opposition of others in the forums. Take it for what it's worth.

^ Wait, so it's legal for 15 year olds to have sex with each other but it's illegal for 15 year olds to look at porn?

Do they really think the consequences of a teenager looking at a Penthouse magazine will be worse than consequences of sex, such as unintended pregnancy?