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sly279
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19 Mar 2018, 4:14 pm

MaxE wrote:
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No. I won’t date women I didn’t have feelings for.
To be in a serious relationship with somebody you must like them and be phyiscally attracted to them. The question is whether you have also to be in love with that person, and they with you. For some people on the spectrum, that is a serious problem if you have been told that a LTR is not valid without love, because often we are never sure whether we are truly "in love" what just what "love" really is.

It may be best to simply ask whether you think a relationship can work without worrying about whether you and the other person are in love.
Also you can reject a suitor because you're not certain you love them, and live to regret the decision. If you would long for that person in their absence, then don't leave them. OTOH you should be faithful to that person unless it has been mutually agreed to be an open relationship.


I can be in love. I don’t feel most nts can though.



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24 Mar 2018, 3:30 am

No.

I think I'd rather spend my time and energy on my own interests. Academic, professional, sports, leisure etc. I could still have an active sex life with people I don't love, and I could have a fulfilling social/family life with people I both like and love.

Basically, I'd carry on with more of the same that I'm doing now rather than settle down with someone I don't love. I'm not the type of person that wants to be in a relationship for being in a relationship's sake.. which explains why I've been single my entire life despite offers from others to date them. It's never been mutual, so, I carry on as I am and life's still okay. 8)


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