Lady stopped talking to me because I asked about her interes

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21 Mar 2018, 6:15 am

To me it seems she confused apps and you weren't the person she intended to send the message to.

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21 Mar 2018, 7:29 am

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I thought women said they had headaches to avoid having sex

Yeah some (many?) do, which makes no sense, cos sex can be really good for a headache!

*shrug* it's one of those weird female mysteries, to me. I have a couple of theories as to the real reason they say it but it's too disappointing to think about much.

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21 Mar 2018, 7:44 am

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Her profile is empty. She messaged first saying hi then talked about having a headache. I said that sucks I hope it gets butter then I asked what her interests were to try to find talking points. She went silent and now blocked me . 0.o

This is called "ghosting". It is what people do now.

I don't understand it either, but even my best friends do it now.

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21 Mar 2018, 9:04 am

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If I recall right, you're very Tall and probably have an attractive career.

Yes, but that's besides the point. I still got almost zero interest on any of the 'free' sites and women who were clearly 'below my league' (hate that term) ignored me constantly. To my knowledge I never once got a date with anyone more successful than me on any site. My point is that Sly and everyone else needs to stop beating themselves up for 'failing' because ultimately the only way to succeed is to stop playing.

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I've never tried ehamony because it looks so US/Christian-focused demographically, also from what I read Height there seems to be one of the main matching criteria in their algorithm, so it's a lost battle for me before even to start- but I do believe sly on how there are the same people on all dating sites.

My wife is about 5'6" and is the third tallest woman I dated on the site. The average height was probably 5'3" at best. The matches seemed slightly more religious but usually on the 'lighter' denominations I can deal with like United Church, Anglican and Catholic.

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She probably rejected you for other reasons and not for your message. If a person is into you then any message from you will seem interesting and funny.

This times a hundred! I didn't exactly light the world on fire with the first few dates with my wife, in fact they were a little on the awkward side. She seemed like a genuine person so I stuck with it, made a very bold move and the rest is history. I wish I could tell my younger self if it's meant to be it's meant to be and just to relax and live in the moment.

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21 Mar 2018, 9:24 am

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Just out of sheer curiosity - what are the denominations you can't deal with?

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21 Mar 2018, 11:36 am

Or perhaps it was as simple as she messaged several guys and one of them that she was more interested in replied and she ghosted sly to chat with him. That happens, too.

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21 Mar 2018, 12:42 pm

magz wrote:

Just out of sheer curiosity - what are the denominations you can't deal with?

That's a good question and I want to be sensitive as I do respect anyone's religion.

As a general rule I would say the more conservative or dogmatic Christian churches (such as Baptist or Pentecostal), Jehovah's Witness (for the whole anti-blood transfusion thing) or basically any religion that can't accept a non-believer. My wife's church is very much aware of my non-belief and had no major issue with it provided I don't try to stop her from practicing and that's never going to be an issue.

Having said that I know people are more than their religious label. I play in a neighborhood church sports night that is very fundamentalist and they are some of the nicest, most welcoming people I have met: I just could never be married to someone who felt I was going "in the opposite direction" after I died.

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21 Mar 2018, 12:50 pm

GiantHockeyFan wrote:

magz wrote:

Just out of sheer curiosity - what are the denominations you can't deal with?

Well, I was curious because Catholics or Eastern Orthodox are fairly conservative and dogmatic... but they don't believe to be the only ones salvable, so this is probably the point that matters here

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21 Mar 2018, 1:00 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I think all of you are being too serious, "Oh she stopped replying because the guy must have failed to read her amazing puzzle mind" .

Seriously guys, most girls on okc just chill and tease and don't really intend to do any dating, some even use it once in a while then they drop it because they really don't need it to get dates. It's so unlikely that it was sly's fault.

This thread reminds me of this crazy one last december (note: that was with my real profile, not a fake one):

As you see, she stopped replying, but checking her profile now, she didn't visit okc since last 24 december. She probably simply teased some guys and got bored of it.

Why do you even talk to girls on these websites who type like that? One way to avoid disappointing conversations like that is not respond to messages that say things like 'ud like my muffins?' or other terrible grammar...to me that would be a red flag of either a bot or a complete waste of time.

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21 Mar 2018, 1:04 pm

SabbraCadabra wrote:

sly279 wrote:

This is called "ghosting". It is what people do now.

I don't understand it either, but even my best friends do it now.

I don't think its ghosting if you don't even know the person at all, a couple messages back and fourth doesn't mean you know them. I think you have to have at least met the person and then suddenly stop communicating for it to be ghosting.

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21 Mar 2018, 3:49 pm

314pe wrote:

sly279 wrote:

She probably rejected you for other reasons and not for your message. If a person is into you then any message from you will seem interesting and funny.

Don't feel bad about not getting replies.

She liked me then messaged me, what other reason?

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21 Mar 2018, 4:03 pm

Maybe no reason at all, sly.

Some people are just rude.

Some people initiate chats with people just to cut them off and get their kicks out of it. Strange but true. Others go as far as arranging fake dates they never intend to show up for. etc.

Who knows? Maybe she's someone who's been rejected countless times and decided she'd be the one doing the rejecting just to try to feel whole and balanced. It's sort of like the abused kid who becomes a bully stuff.

Regardless, she blocked ya, so, forget about her and move on.

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21 Mar 2018, 5:27 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

Ironically, I’ve seen the opposite: proper spelling and punctuation taken as a sure sign that you’re a bot, ’cause no real person ever types like that, amirite?

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21 Mar 2018, 6:18 pm

Spiderpig wrote:

Sweetleaf wrote:

Ironically, I’ve seen the opposite: proper spelling and punctuation taken as a sure sign that you’re a bot, ’cause no real person ever types like that, amirite?

I'm curious as to where you've seen this - have people told you they are going to stop talking to you because your writing style indicates you're a bot? Or have people told you they've done this?

A bot, from what little experience I've had, just wouldn't be able to hold down a sensible conversation. So regardless of the correctness of their grammar, I just wouldn't enjoy talking to them so it wouldn't last long. Unless I'm up for a useless, silly chat for its own sake!

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21 Mar 2018, 10:43 pm

You should go and look for someone else. She's not worth it.

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22 Mar 2018, 3:14 am

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You should go and look for someone else. She's not worth it.

Online dating all requires women to message first now after matching,etc pof.

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