Is it too soon to move in with each other?

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Do you currently live in the CBD? I was wandering around there today and got a bit bored, should have gone for a beer with you and your gf! IMO Adelaide city seems more boring than a quarter acre block on the outskirts would be.

I don't currently live in the CBD. So you live in Adelaide? Somehow I thought you lived in Queensland.

Adelaide CBD might be boring compared to other cities lol

Probably one of those CBD’s (what we call “downtowns) that are virtually deserted during weekends.

Oh no, I find Hindley Street to be a bit overcrowded on Saturday nights.

Nah I was just visiting. Checking out the tamarins at the zoo I live in country Vic but about to move back to Melbourne, unfortunately. Nature is interesting to me, not buildings. But anyway, from the looks of how tiny rAdelaide is, you could be in the "outer burbs" and still only be a few mins from the CBD, for whenever you need it.

Not for some. I know people who live in the far south and the distant north who take more than an hour to reach the CBD (longer if there's heavy traffic). I'm fortunate that I live only 12 KM from the city.

North Adelaide could be an option. When they complete the new tram line from North Adelaide to the real Adelaide (not so new, really a replacement for the one they tore up 60 years ago) it will take only 5 minutes to get into town and real estate prices will skyrocket in that area. If we could buy there before the tramline is completed it could be an excellent investment.

GF wants to live in an apartment for a few years, then move out, rent it out and use to rent from the apartment to pay the mortgage on our house.

North Adelaide is a pleasant area. I might have to give up my notion on living in the huge black monolithic building that GF's best friend lives in. Too bad. I liked having access to the swimming pool on the 19th floor but I don't really need a pool.

I tend to take relationships pretty fast myself & I might would of moved in with a girl that fast if the opportunity was there & she was interested. I actually would of taken in a girl I knew online for abit but hadn't chatted with too much except for the last couple weeks cuz she needed a place to stay(she was sort of couch surfing) & I HATED the idea of sleeping alone & she was interested but I didn't have my own place I knew her from an asexual friendship/dating forum thing. She had been a member a while but we hadn't chatted much till the last couple weeks. Anyways... I'd make sure there's an exit plan, like you'd be able to kick her out fast if things go south. The week long trial sounds like a good idea.

I think you took it further than me. I would do anything for love but I won't move interstate.

Anyway. On Easter Monday I'm going to take an even bigger step. Introducing her to my family. This is difficult for me. It's embarrassing for me to say I'm single but it's also embarrassing for me to say I'm not single.

I moved interstate with my current girlfriend & would of with my two exes if things had gotten to that point but I never met that other girl I just mentioned offline(I forget what state she lived in) but if your wondering, all my exes live in Texas. I HATED living in Louisiana cuz I felt trapped & I think moving to Vermont to be with Cass was the rite decision for both of us.

Anyways... I get why it's embarrassing & difficult & wish you the best of luck with it

How do you know she has a large sum of money in the bank? Because she said so? If you pool your money, will you be the only one pooling?

Maybe I'm wrong, but the haste is weird.

If we attempt to buy something and she doesn't have the dough, then I'll know she doesn't have a large sum of money.

Where is she from? Is she a foreigner or 2nd generation of some Arab/Eastern/Asian culture? (they do move fast into marriage).

I would be suspicious about this. She might just want to use you as a provider.

... so you invite her in your already full flat and you are the one planning to buy the furniture, is it fair?

Beware that if she pays half of the rent, she will probably gain rights to stay in your flat (check the law in your country).

Do you really want she comes and live with you or do you want to invite her because it would please her? You may spend more time with her without her living in your flat.

Also, you do NOT need to find a "valid objection". "No, thank you" is valid, and polite.

....after you've signed the contract? Ah, why do I even bother?

Why am I the most cynical person in this thread? What happened to Boo?