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09 Apr 2018, 11:11 pm

Finding people with the same interests.

Conveying the need for sexual compatibility without it being creepy.


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10 Apr 2018, 2:23 am

The hardest thing for me is couples financial planning. I find that it becomes exponentially more complex when you introduce a second person.


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10 Apr 2018, 2:27 am

Internet etiquette.


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10 Apr 2018, 4:44 pm

Knowing that it isn't likely to happen for me. Nobody has ever been interested in me in a romantic sort of way.



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10 Apr 2018, 5:20 pm

How to "get my sh*t together" to be more viable to women. I'm just lacking any direction for that now.

Not sure what I really want ie relationship vs. more emphasized on physical aspects. I also find myself leaning to want to be with women towards the physically attractive end of the spectrum.



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10 Apr 2018, 5:43 pm

Hollywood_Guy wrote:
I also find myself leaning to want to be with women towards the physically attractive end of the spectrum.

Nothing wrong with that. If you make yourself desirable enough you can be with a woman from the more physically attractive end of the spectrum.


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10 Apr 2018, 5:47 pm

Hollywood_Guy wrote:
I also find myself leaning to want to be with women towards the physically attractive end of the spectrum.

Well they generally don't have a hard time getting with someone who's got their 'sh*t together'



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10 Apr 2018, 6:18 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Hollywood_Guy wrote:
I also find myself leaning to want to be with women towards the physically attractive end of the spectrum.

Nothing wrong with that. If you make yourself desirable enough you can be with a woman from the more physically attractive end of the spectrum.


Exactly, but as for the other stuff I wish I had more direction, you know? I have kind of fell down and don't know where I'm going as much.



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11 Apr 2018, 12:18 am

intimacy



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11 Apr 2018, 12:57 am

Hollywood_Guy wrote:
How to "get my sh*t together" to be more viable to women.

Yep that's my problem. But there is no way for me. If you can handle full time work, go to college for something that pays good and get a job in it or go work construction it pays good.



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11 Apr 2018, 5:03 pm

The fear that if somebody knew how little life experience I had, that he would either reject me or try to overprotect me. The first would hurt, while the second would steal the independence I worked so hard to build.



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15 Apr 2018, 12:46 am

-insert overly emotional stuff here-



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15 Apr 2018, 12:56 am

^ Try to find East Asian women, are there any East Asian communities where you live?



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15 Apr 2018, 1:28 am

good idea



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15 Apr 2018, 4:21 am

well really there are heaps of things.

1. if i am not interested in what a girl is talking about i just switch off. i could not be bothered to accommodate myself to what they want to say.
i think "yeah whatever" and i then see them as an intrusion.

2. i don't know how to make love.
i feel sometimes like it is a dirty perverse thing to do.
just to lay on a girl and hump them is a very basal thing that i find disgusting.

so you got to to the dance. the foreplay dance. i don't dance. i do not have the connection necessary to predict what they will do next.

so you have to be adventurous and have intercourse from many angles and stuff, and it's all too much of a hassle for me to work out.

then, when you get to intercourse, i have a major problem with rhythm. i like slow and they like fast.
no good.
our pelvises do not move in unison, and it really degrades the experience.

i have never been longing for intimacy anyway.



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15 Apr 2018, 8:31 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ Try to find East Asian women, are there any East Asian communities where you live?

I second that! East Asian women have been a godsend for me.


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