Talking to stranger women in the streets...

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Asking a woman out in this context is very similar to catcalling, and it is pretty common. Just striking up a conversation with the intention of asking somebody out is less creepy than catcalling, but the difference lies more in the method & sophistication than in type.

I prefer the eye contact method, which sometimes is a bit successful. It would work best in a cafe or restaurant or other location where people stay for a while. And it is certainly possible to go from this to meeting regularly, without speaking a word. Done that.

Maybe that's it, but I have never seen a conventionally attractive friend asking out some random girl on the street.

I don't know how common it is, but I do know that the women who experiences it very often find it creepy, icky and unwelcome. Women out and about usually just want to get from a to b to accomplish c, or if in a coffee shop, just relax with her coffee.
They are not on the street/coffee shop to get hit on, and it takes very little for it to go from an unwanted attention to straight creep.

I'm not gonna say it will never work, but chances are far greater that she will see it as something unwanted.

And if a guy can't handle being ignored or rejected, the creep factor is gonna multiply. Anger or pushiness isn't gonna make you more likely to get with her!
Anyone who wants to try that approach needs to be very aware of when to back off and the very high probability of rejection.

Oh and whatever you guys do, don't go up to a 14 year old girl on the street and tell her you love her and want to marry her! Yes, that happened to me when I was 14, and was approached by a guy in his 40's at least, maybe 50's. Gad, that creepy and scary!

^ It’s not creepy, just annoying. Most people don’t like being “picked up” unless they’re in a night life setting or party.

Wolf whistles or a hello or nice comment can be endearing, nice or funny. Having red pill tactics thrust upon you reeks of desperation and it’s annoying.

Actually, the whole thread's point was to verify goldfish' claims (and the other few members) whether it's really a norm or not - because I was shocked when he claimed that it happens all the time and it works - he also treated me as if I am socially inept for not knowing that! :/

As I said, I really don't buy their claims that it's common and socially acceptable. It's very odd, rare and I have never seen it working.

Central Europe, nope, it's not common.

they do try to strike a conversation at times, but other than that nothing of the sort happens.

Been briefly in Czech republic, France and Turkey , I am sure I have never seen it in those places, not even in their night life (friends may introduce other friends tho, like everywhere).

Yes, exactly, I can speak for Croatia (even if I rarely if ever go out, and that's in the puppet theatre with my daughter which can hardly qualify as nightlife) but even before that, I've never had any such experiences (nor did I hear of such experiences), in high school or in later years.

She was 14. At 14 that kind of behavior can be experienced as very creepy, especially coming from a much older man. Once you're in your 20s or older that guys behavior would be more annoying than creepy.

The only men i've been approached by has been foreign. I guess it varies greatly from culture to culture wether that is acceptable behavior or not. I don't like it much, makes me feel uncomfortable.
If a guy wanted to do this i'd suggest maybe do it indoors in a library for example, ask for help with something and then strike up a conversation. Make it feel natural. But out on the street... No thanks.

Well that’s creepy, I was more talking of people who do it to me.