Online Love - Is it real?

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So your parents want you to be alone forever? What will they do when they retiree and go to a home, or when they die what’s they’re plan then?
I’m glad I do t live in England where aspies can be treated legally like kids and forbidden relationships and sex.

I asked them " if i met someone local to me and nearer to my age, would you be accepting" my mum was like, yes but they'll be restrictions on when i can see them for and how long, they'll drop me off and pick me up. i can't handle that.

I asked them if they want me to be lonely and not happy and , reminded them that someday they won't be around.

I need a life and why can't i experience love and romance like everyone else. As an aspie, it's harder for me to socialise so if i have an opportunity to date, all the more reason i should just go for it.

The way they act and talk to me, you would think i'm a kid, not a women of 28!
I wasn't groomed online and plus everytime they see a under age girl or a girl of 16 in a programme being groomed in a story, they look at me in a condescending way and tut (facepalm)


you're lucky, i wish i lived in America. lol.

That is indeed a tough spot to be in. Although, even if this fellow proves he is sincere it sounds like you would prefer someone closer in age.
If he had been completely honest from the start, it would have given the relationship a better chance for long term survival.

Thank you. I do realistically and ideally prefer someone closer in age but then i grew attached to him. If he genuinely feels something for me like he say he does, he'll prove himself. You're right! he should've been completely honest from the start, i was with him, it got to the stage where he knew more about me then i did him. When my online friend died, he not bothered to message me to see how i was, i ended up doing more pursuing. He says he loves me and will prove that he's genuine, he has too, otherwise it's on record that i was a vulnerable lady pursued by a potential predator or catfish. He wasn't completely honest and basically because of this, messed up our chance of meeting anyway, unless he resolves it and we meet, it'll just come to an end otherwise and it'll be on record that he wasn't genuine and everything my parents have stated. Unless he proves he's genuine and explain the reason to them as to why he said he was 13yrs older and not 19 yrs older and then stated , he always said he was in his 40s but never his exact age , i told him, when we met , my exact age of 27, he never told me his exact age, when he said his sister had a partner but not actually married and the fact he's an uncle. Why not say that? he could said he has a sister and brother in law and he's an uncle. He says his sister doesn't want her business to be known, yet my mum can easily see her family plastered publicly on facebook? why should she know all about me then if i don't her, if my siblings was married or i was an auntie, i would say, not lie , not give out personal details until we know each other well and have met but not lie and not make out i'm not an auntie when i am or not say i'm so many years younger, then exact age ect. He promised me back at the end of April that he let me know how his appointment goes in regards to his health check up on something but then didn't and he got narky with me, despite promising me that he say how he got on. Yet he says i'm his "lover" Unless he proves himself and fix his mistakes and clear this up, seeing as he wasn't completely entirely honest, if he doesn't make an effort and put it right and it's got to come from him, otherwise it'll remain on record, Plus he flirts and compliments other ladies and did on there videos i found out, all the while he says, he was into me and talks about them in a flirty way, When i mention this, he doesn't validate my feelings nor apologises, he just says " i don't want to argue with you" and disregards me and ignores how i feel. Yet he used to text or message me quick enough for what he calls flirting (cyber sex) which i won't reciprocate it with anymore. Being berated and given such a hard time over it, my brother accusing me of wanting to be raped by some weirdo and the way this chaps been, it's turning me off now tbh. It got me so down and depressed that i had to email and speak to the Samaritans for some emotional support, as no one has helped nor supported me at all. It's diminished now, unless he tries to win me over and put wrongs to right, seeing as he gave everyone a reason to doubt him and not trust him in the first place, due to his behaviour and actions.I felt like he took me for granted, i've spent countless hours throughout the months of knowing him too, listening about his hobbies and interests, showing a genuine interest ect too ect. All those months and feelings involved and him approaching me, it was all for probably nothing.

Thank you all for the replies.

Update

The chap i mentioned, not only disappeared from wrong planet but disappeared from YouTube and plus the social advised me to move on from him.

He never validated himself nor fought for me, went quiet and disappeared wen confronted and found out.

Sorry.
Hugs. You’ll meet other guys though

Shame on him.
Sorry for you.

You can find all that was good in that relationship and more in someone new who is truly worth knowing.

Thank you.

This chap, funnily enough, disappeared from all sites now, he was investigated and he disappeared so it says it all really.

I've created a new email address, started afresh and seeing a gp and getting help. The signs indicated and pointed to online grooming and because i'm vulnerable, i was at risk.

Thanks for replying.