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27 Jun 2018, 6:23 pm

I'm sort of dimisexual & am NOT interested in sex outside of a serious romantic realtionship. Thankfully my girlfriend wasn't really interested in having sex outside of a romantic realtionship either. Me & my girlfriend are horrible at sex & we'd of broken up shortly after we started having sex if either of us based a relationship on that.


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27 Jun 2018, 6:32 pm

Not the centrepiece, but compatibility is important. In a FWB set-up, the friendship is the centrepiece. Sex is the "with benefits". I don't consider that a relationship though; it's a friendship.



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27 Jun 2018, 8:49 pm

Each fwb duo writes their own rules....but generally from what I have seen, sex is the primary purpose. It's not a bf gf relationship and there is zero commitment.

Nick007, you and your girl have a beautiful relationship and no such thing as bad at sex if you love each other. You can learn and discover together. You're on the right track. Just don't stop talking to each other. Sex between two committed people is something more.

Not trying to put down people who prefer a casual encounter. Just not my cup of tea.



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27 Jun 2018, 9:30 pm

HistoryGal wrote:
Each fwb duo writes their own rules....but generally from what I have seen, sex is the primary purpose. It's not a bf gf relationship and there is zero commitment.

Personally I would call that a f*** buddy (FB), and distinguish it from a FWB. Yes, sex would be the primary purpose in a FB situation, but friendship would be the primary purpose in a FWB situation. For me FWB is when I have a friend and we decide to also bring sex into the mix. Or we tried a relationship and that didn't work out, but we've maintained the friendship because we like each other, and sometimes we have sex. That sort of thing. Do you know a different term for this if not FWB?



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27 Jun 2018, 9:33 pm

In a word, no.


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28 Jun 2018, 1:11 am

Fnord wrote:
HistoryGal wrote:
Do you base relationships on sex?
Oh, no!

I am much more shallow than that!
What do you base your relationships on?


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28 Jun 2018, 1:34 am

ShadowProphet wrote:
Why would you even want to wait until marriage? That's dumb af

So lets just say you and your partner decide to wait for marriage. You two are together for two years, and you finally decide to get married, and then on your wedding night when you finally have sex for the first time only to find out your newlywed husband has got a 1 inch penis. And not only that, he doesn't even like having sex, he'd rather go jack off to some Mia Khalifa bukake sht. But you want to have sex everyday; you want to do all of this crazy and kinky sht that would make 50 shades of grey look tame. He doesn't wanna do any of that.

If you would have had sex earlier, you would have figured this stuff out, potentially realize you two are incompatible, and not have to waste your money getting married and maybe even divorced.


Not really a valid argument. You could discuss your sexual preferences without acting on them. Something you definitely would need to do if they differ from what is typical.



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28 Jun 2018, 2:27 am

rdos wrote:
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Why would you even want to wait until marriage? That's dumb af

So lets just say you and your partner decide to wait for marriage. You two are together for two years, and you finally decide to get married, and then on your wedding night when you finally have sex for the first time only to find out your newlywed husband has got a 1 inch penis. And not only that, he doesn't even like having sex, he'd rather go jack off to some Mia Khalifa bukake sht. But you want to have sex everyday; you want to do all of this crazy and kinky sht that would make 50 shades of grey look tame. He doesn't wanna do any of that.

If you would have had sex earlier, you would have figured this stuff out, potentially realize you two are incompatible, and not have to waste your money getting married and maybe even divorced.


Not really a valid argument. You could discuss your sexual preferences without acting on them. Something you definitely would need to do if they differ from what is typical.


What if she's so tight you can't enter her? Not something that can be discussed because if she's virgin she won't know she's too tight for sex until she tries.


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28 Jun 2018, 2:50 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
What if she's so tight you can't enter her? Not something that can be discussed because if she's virgin she won't know she's too tight for sex until she tries.


These things are often caused by being to tense, and not because of physiological reasons.



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28 Jun 2018, 7:47 am

rdos wrote:
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What if she's so tight you can't enter her? Not something that can be discussed because if she's virgin she won't know she's too tight for sex until she tries.


These things are often caused by being to tense, and not because of physiological reasons.


That's also something I'd want to know about before marriage.


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28 Jun 2018, 7:50 am

Sometimes, a virgin woman has something called a hymen, which covers/blocks the vaginal regions. Upon first intercourse, the hymen frequently breaks, usually causing pain and bleeding.



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28 Jun 2018, 8:53 am

The hymen can be surgically opened if needed.



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28 Jun 2018, 8:55 am

Fwb right is not automatically FB....but if you're compatible than why not be a relationship?



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28 Jun 2018, 10:38 am

ShadowProphet is right here.

The only way to figure sexual compatibility is by having sex for real with the person.

I heard so many stories here of women being disappointed for finding out that their newlywed husbands having erectile dysfucyion problems and they would rather marrying someone healthier.
And before you say the men should have revealed that, if they were virgins before marriage they would have never figured out that.
An info that most of you women don’t know: Most ED cases don’t manifest during masturbation but only during real sex.

And historyGal, if men over 20 don’t acquire real sexual experience enough and stay dry for long years (porn and masturbation do not count at all), they WILL develop ED and they WILL have low T.



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28 Jun 2018, 10:43 am

Fnord wrote:
ShadowProphet wrote:
... he doesn't even like having sex, he'd rather go jack off to some Mia Khalifa bukake sht...
If that's the case, then he would not likely be interested in a real woman anyway.



Ahh Mia Khalifa, my country’s pride. :lol:

Frankly, her boobs are among the fakest I have ever seen.



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28 Jun 2018, 1:49 pm

I've had relationships without sex. I didn't feel like I was missing something. It's not what I base a relationship on at all, just kissing and cuddling is nice and in my personal opinion people make too big a deal out of sex. It causes so much pressure and complicates things.