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The_Face_of_Boo
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25 Sep 2018, 4:56 am

^ it’s why i put white/caucasian.
I said you are white, not caucasian.

Btw women from Asian cultures are by far more open to diversity of religions/faiths than your local people (according to your description).

You just need to befriend one of them, and they will introduce you to the whole community.



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25 Sep 2018, 5:06 am

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Your best shot is foreigner women; especially East Asians; believe me.

I know you are White, so seriously forget the White/Caucasians; you have failed to attract one in 20 years, and one doesn’t get more attractive with age.

I have totally accepted the fact that I am very unattractive to the vast majority of Caucasian populace; first hand life experience, geographical tinder experiments (100s of matches vs zeroes), dating sites, all prove it to me again and again that there’s an enormous difference in the way how caucasian women perceive me vs women of other colors, notably Asians . Among the latter I have been constantly told that I am very handsome by most of them, - a comment that I never heard from white/caucasian women - this makes the whole thing easier, at least they get interested to talk to me, this alone triggers things to move forward.

There were maybe only 2 caucasians who were sexually attracted to me in my whole life but both saw me naked before even dating (oops, not goona give up more details).

Is there no East Asian or
some other non-caucasian foreigner community at all where you live?


What if Marknis only finds Caucasians attractive though? Then he'll be in a fix.



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25 Sep 2018, 9:24 am

Just hit the weights hard and get jacked son and you won't care about your wasted 20's. I'm 38 and have been lifting the past 3 years and I'm in better shape than I was in my 20's and all kinds of girls in their 20's check me out at the gym that probably wouldn't have looked my way back then.



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25 Sep 2018, 9:50 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Your best shot is foreigner women; especially East Asians; believe me.

I know you are White, so seriously forget the White/Caucasians; you have failed to attract one in 20 years, and one doesn’t get more attractive with age.

I have totally accepted the fact that I am very unattractive to the vast majority of Caucasian populace; first hand life experience, geographical tinder experiments (100s of matches vs zeroes), dating sites, all prove it to me again and again that there’s an enormous difference in the way how caucasian women perceive me vs women of other colors, notably Asians . Among the latter I have been constantly told that I am very handsome by most of them, - a comment that I never heard from white/caucasian women - this makes the whole thing easier, at least they get interested to talk to me, this alone triggers things to move forward.

There were maybe only 2 caucasians who were sexually attracted to me in my whole life but both saw me naked before even dating (oops, not goona give up more details).

Is there no East Asian or
some other non-caucasian foreigner community at all where you live?


What if Marknis only finds Caucasians attractive though? Then he'll be in a fix.



I don’t believe in that fixed-race attraction (ie. I only like X women), I don’t believe that he never seen beautiful women in other ethinicites
I call it BS; if he is open to date outside of his ethinicity then he will certainly find beauty out there too.

If there’s a such fixation then it is a subtle racism.

Another reason why I am encouraging him to go for Asian women: they are by far more likely to be tolerant to his solitary lifestyle and his life arrangement(living with parents, because they are often living with parents too), it’s a stereotype I know... but it it’s an extremly common stereotype, take it from me.



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25 Sep 2018, 9:56 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Your best shot is foreigner women; especially East Asians; believe me.

I know you are White, so seriously forget the White/Caucasians; you have failed to attract one in 20 years, and one doesn’t get more attractive with age.

I have totally accepted the fact that I am very unattractive to the vast majority of Caucasian populace; first hand life experience, geographical tinder experiments (100s of matches vs zeroes), dating sites, all prove it to me again and again that there’s an enormous difference in the way how caucasian women perceive me vs women of other colors, notably Asians . Among the latter I have been constantly told that I am very handsome by most of them, - a comment that I never heard from white/caucasian women - this makes the whole thing easier, at least they get interested to talk to me, this alone triggers things to move forward.

There were maybe only 2 caucasians who were sexually attracted to me in my whole life but both saw me naked before even dating (oops, not goona give up more details).

Is there no East Asian or
some other non-caucasian foreigner community at all where you live?


What if Marknis only finds Caucasians attractive though? Then he'll be in a fix.


I don't only find "Caucasians" attractive. My struggles are not from being picky about race but being locked out of the social world. My older brother refused to date non-white women and probably turned down dates from them in favor of general white Bible Belt women. What did that lead up to for him? 4 kids, a divorce, a cancelled marriage (Technically two but he's now married to the second woman), and he's extremely miserable since he settled for less.

I would much rather date a nerdy East Asian, South Asian, or Middle Eastern girl over what my brother settled for.



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25 Sep 2018, 10:10 am

More and more "nonwhite" people are moving into areas previously seen as being exclusively "white."



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25 Sep 2018, 10:15 am

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More and more "nonwhite" people are moving into areas previously seen as being exclusively "white."


Not to mention, certain ethnic groups that are sometimes considered "nonwhite" actually are "white". I am not a fan of the rapper Pitbull but my older brother called him a "Mexican" just because he raps in Spanish when he's actually a white Cuban.



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25 Sep 2018, 2:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Your best shot is foreigner women; especially East Asians; believe me.

I know you are White, so seriously forget the White/Caucasians; you have failed to attract one in 20 years, and one doesn’t get more attractive with age.

I have totally accepted the fact that I am very unattractive to the vast majority of Caucasian populace; first hand life experience, geographical tinder experiments (100s of matches vs zeroes), dating sites, all prove it to me again and again that there’s an enormous difference in the way how caucasian women perceive me vs women of other colors, notably Asians . Among the latter I have been constantly told that I am very handsome by most of them, - a comment that I never heard from white/caucasian women - this makes the whole thing easier, at least they get interested to talk to me, this alone triggers things to move forward.

There were maybe only 2 caucasians who were sexually attracted to me in my whole life but both saw me naked before even dating (oops, not goona give up more details).

Is there no East Asian or
some other non-caucasian foreigner community at all where you live?


What if Marknis only finds Caucasians attractive though? Then he'll be in a fix.



I don’t believe in that fixed-race attraction (ie. I only like X women), I don’t believe that he never seen beautiful women in other ethinicites
I call it BS; if he is open to date outside of his ethinicity then he will certainly find beauty out there too.

If there’s a such fixation then it is a subtle racism.

Another reason why I am encouraging him to go for Asian women: they are by far more likely to be tolerant to his solitary lifestyle and his life arrangement(living with parents, because they are often living with parents too), it’s a stereotype I know... but it it’s an extremly common stereotype, take it from me.


The problem for me is that I was made to go to a redneck school instead of the public school in the city I live in so I couldn't make any social connections with people from the Asian and Middle Eastern communities.



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25 Sep 2018, 2:40 pm

Better than looking for a "different" girl in your small town would be to get out and go to a place where "different" people are more numerous (and differences like yours are more tolerated).


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25 Sep 2018, 6:41 pm

Marknis wrote:

I don't only find "Caucasians" attractive. My struggles are not from being picky about race but being locked out of the social world. My older brother refused to date non-white women and probably turned down dates from them in favor of general white Bible Belt women. What did that lead up to for him? 4 kids, a divorce, a cancelled marriage (Technically two but he's now married to the second woman), and he's extremely miserable since he settled for less.


So your brother got what you want so badly, yet he's extremely miserable. I wonder if he wishes he could trade places with you.



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25 Sep 2018, 10:45 pm

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So your brother got what you want so badly, yet he's extremely miserable. I wonder if he wishes he could trade places with you.

Sounds like the whole family is pretty miserable.


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26 Sep 2018, 2:00 am

I'm thinking of the, be careful of what you wish for aspect.

There's a lot of divorced guys living a nightmare of having to pay out huge amounts of alimony and or child support who wish they had stayed single.



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26 Sep 2018, 6:29 am

EzraS wrote:
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I don't only find "Caucasians" attractive. My struggles are not from being picky about race but being locked out of the social world. My older brother refused to date non-white women and probably turned down dates from them in favor of general white Bible Belt women. What did that lead up to for him? 4 kids, a divorce, a cancelled marriage (Technically two but he's now married to the second woman), and he's extremely miserable since he settled for less.


So your brother got what you want so badly, yet he's extremely miserable. I wonder if he wishes he could trade places with you.


I had a reply for this but the forum crashed and I was burned out.

He actually has told me he wishes he could trade places with me. But he doesn't seem to get that the reason why he landed into his predicament is because he viewed women as only sex toys. He never had any common interests with his girlfriends (Something he himself told me), he just wanted them for when they were in the "mood". Part of the reason why his marriage is so miserable is because he and his wife have clashing world views. He considers himself a hardcore conservative and thinks America was founded as a Christian nation while his wife is very liberal in her outlook. How did they end up together at all? Well, a lot of it was due to what was initially a one night stand at a club that resulted in her getting pregnant and the rest is a sickeningly long story. Unlike my older brother, I want a partner who I share common interests with.



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26 Sep 2018, 6:51 am

So you see...there are nonidiots out there where you live.

Too bad these nonidiotics feel compelled to go to clubs.

I wish there was a decent solution....but giving up would absolutely be the worst!



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26 Sep 2018, 12:37 pm

BeaArthur wrote:
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So your brother got what you want so badly, yet he's extremely miserable. I wonder if he wishes he could trade places with you.

Sounds like the whole family is pretty miserable.


My family is indeed miserable but they tend to think it's all a part of "God's plan". Unfortunately, there was a time I thought God was punishing me for not being more "faithful" but I no longer suffer from any sort of religious brainwashing.



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26 Sep 2018, 2:29 pm

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I didn't have the life I wanted in my 20s but I do not feel I wasted them as I spent my time doing things conducive to my life goals or doing things I enjoyed doing.

Marknis you spend a lot of time making posts here about things in the past you are ruminating on or things in your life that you are discontent with and many of them are repetitive. Do you get something positive out of spending your time doing this?

If so, continue if you wish but if not then making these posts is not a healthy past time for you and you are setting yourself up for feeling that you have wasted your 30s. I frequent another website with a rants forum and the rule is that people are only allowed to post on a subject that bothers them once because actively indulging in distressing subjects you are ruminating on is toxic when doing so is not conducive to fixing them,healing or moving past them.

The subject might pop in to your mind and upset you but you don't have to entertain it and let it stay.


I have to be honest and say it really hurts me more than helps me. I just feel so lonely and frustrated with my struggles that I have to get my stress out in some way so I suppose it helps in that way but it doesn't change the fact I still feel depressed. It also causes me to have a warm and uncomfortable feeling in my head and chest. I wish I could hit back at those who talk down on me but I have nothing to show for it.

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Let me ask YOU a question:

How is it going getting your mom taken off as your designated payee and getting yourself independent?


I've been feeling both physically and mentally drained from my daily struggles that I haven't thought about that at all lately. I feel tired and worn out especially when I get off my job. I hate that so many people I know are married or are in long-term relationships while I can't even get a coffee date. It's not for lack of trying, I HAVE tried to get out of my rut but I always get dead ends no matter what I do. Relationships are everywhere I go and I still get asked sometimes if I am dating anyone or if I want children but I can only say no to the first question and that I can't even think about children since I can't even get a date.


Why do you think you hit dead ends?


I feel like I give my best or atleast try to give my best at things but I never get the results I want while when someone else does the same they succeed. I also feel like when I fail at something I have failed at it forever.


I think you have pretty thoroughly established that you need to get out of your town and I think moving to the city is one way out of your rut. I have laid out to you how I would go about this if I were in the same situation. Have you attempted any of that?