Women, what attracts you to a man?

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Thank you dear . I hope so too.

What attracts me nowadays is men who are understanding, caring, sweet. Ones I can really vibe with and who understands what it's like to be me because they also feel or are different in the same way as I am. Mostly somewhat nerdy guys, genuienly nerdy guys not hipsters who pretend to be nerds as a quirky thing. When it comes to looks I am weak for beards, blue eyes, tallness, attractive hands and 90s inspired clothing like the scruffy stuff that the members of the 90s grunge bands would wear but it's nothing I prioritise just preferences and in the end looks aren't what matters.

In the past i've always been attracted to the wrong type of men, usually somewhat popular ones or loners who care very little about others and i've gotten hurt a lot because of it. Now I try to prioritise the right qualities when dating and I reject someone right away if I feel he isn't genuine even if he's attractive. I just can't stand drama and stuff, in the end I just wanna be with a man who is my best friend and who understands me and I him.

What’s independence?

It means you don't totally rely on somebody else.

Example
When I couldn't drive I was dependent on my father driving me about, but now that I have my license I now have independence because I can get myself anywhere .

What attracts me is a man who is sooo nice, funny, his eyes & a nice butt.

So taking the bus isn’t independence?
Everyone’s dependent on someone even if they don’t realize it.
This world is sad for people like me

Not at all. Taking the bus means you're not dependent on having to walk everywhere. That's a good thing .

Once I was dependent on others so much that I only went on bus's with my mother, now I'm independent enough that I can travel by bus alone when I need to .

I use to drive but I can’t sfford a car on disability and part time min wage

For me, the polarized political climate is affecting my social life. I am a political centrist, maybe slightly right of center. Half the country thinks I'm fascist, the other half thinks I'm socialist or communist.

I am primarily looking for people who like to travel and who like animated sitcoms.

I struggle to run my car as well. When I'm working it should make running my Volvo a lot easier. Its fuel consumption is pretty bad, it does about 37 to the gallon. My father's Vauxhall Senator is a car I couldn't run ever its fuel consumption was only 21 to the gallon, not cheap to run at all. If I can't get a job I'll have to give up driving as well.

Oh well I meant independence as in being single haha. That’s what I thought the poster above me meant. I think that’s what she means. Being in a relationship wears me out but that’s not the point of the thread anyway.

Haha well I got that totally wrong then . Darn it, maybe that's another reason why my relationships don't work. My inability to understand certain things .

I’m similar though half thinks I’m fascist and other half says a thief, cause wanting welfare makes us thieves since any taxes are theft, they support the military though, how’d the military be funded without taxes I wonder.

How can you be in a relationship while being single?

See that’s the thing I’ve mostly seen independent described as having your life together ie good job, car and own place, things a lot of aspire males struggle with. That or meaning being distant emotionally from your partner. So that’s why I asked

See after bills I have about 180-200 for food and other stuff, including soap, shampoo, toothpaste etc, for a month, most people spend $200 on food a week. So if I owned a car that’s $50 insurance a month, $50-100 for gas , and I need to save money for it’s inavo repairs(breaks run 200-400, tires350-400, oil change 20, transmission service 200, god forbid steering and struts need replaced$200-600, if engine or transmission needs work or replaced $500-2000, all this of course on top of the cars price of 1500-2,000. I’ve owned multiple cars and my family has too. My sister was able to afford a new car so she has years and years before any costly repairs. So people judge me and are like why’d you buy that you should bought a car, well the thing u bought doesn’t cost me anything after buying it. I can’t afford the upkeep for a car. Bus cost me $25 a month. So saves me $175 or so a month va car in just gas/ insurance alone. So I could buy a car and starve and sinks my life’s savings into it, last car I had I used all my savings keeping it going and it still died and got sold for $150.

On plus side I don’t have to deal with the anxiety of driving nor the road rage of other drivers anymore. Yeah it’s be nice to drive to work but it’s be nicer if I lived near work and could walk, it’s sad not owning a car means I’ll never have a relationship and be loved though.

Dark hair (and a full head of hair, not bald) and dark eyes, and not obese. They also have to be taller than me, as I'm 5"11. Around the same height is ok though. I find myself most attracted to Latino and Italian men. I'm least attracted to Asian men. They also have to have a job and be independent.