Afraid of ending up old and alone

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I would probably end up at home with maggots getting out my skull.

They probably moved on with their life. That makes this quite a successful thread, though.

I´m 34 now and guess I will stay alone.
Telling a partner that I need my space (for writing my Sci-Fi stories) is always a big problem. Miscommunication ... I don´t know where to start or to end...
Isn´t there a nice Aspi with interest in philosophy, sci-fi or books in general? Maybe near ireland or germany?

Hi Athika and welcome.
I see you are a gurl, Now wanting a lot of time on your own to write Science Fiction books sounds like every Aspie Males dream partner, so if you stick around here, who knows?

Ireland or Germany?, do you live in two countries?

WELCOME TO THE CLUB!

I try and make provision for later life by making more friends when I can and trying to keep in contact with people

If a person hasn't spoken to me in a year or more and then contacts me I'm always pleased about it as it means they're still
there in the background, as I have a paranoia about being on my own

I have people sort of 'in reserve' in case my current living situation fall through

Of course these people might not even be available to or want to play a stronger role in my life in the future but I always feel it's good to keep an open door policy where people you get on with are concerned as at the very least, if you are left on your own, you might have someone who can come over for a chat as friends or go out somewhere with

Saying that though, the people have to be ones I can really get on with; there's been people I've broken off contact with as I've got fed up of them as they don't give as much as they get off me

I'm always very aware that life can change very quickly and that to rely on it staying the same is foolish

I feel the same way... so I just try and associate with people I feel comfortable around, hoping I can meet someone in their circles.

Have had a boyfriend before, didn't last for long, but at least I know I can do it!

Nambo: Who is that in your avatar photo? Kind of looks like Theon from Game of Thrones.

I hope I don't have to drag loved ones along for the ending of this show of mine. I have no desire to have someone whom I love, watch me die a pitiful death of old age and/or disease. Most likely cancer, organ failure or worse. I'd rather die with cold steel in my hands and a bullet in my head.

That would be quite a shock and mess for them to find though, wouldn't it?

Going out with a bang.

Whilst it might look so exactly like me in my twenties that I think it probably is a picture of me, it is in fact Tzar Nicholas.

Possibly due to Prussian ancestry.

Theon? No way, Tzar Nicholas was very handsome. He would be the most handsome man if he was on Game of Thrones.

You should have seen me when I had long hair.

1) Statistically wives outlive their husbands. So even if you got married chances still lean in favor of you dying before your husband, therefore "alone"
2) In this generation many overworked adults put their aging parents in assisted living facilities because they are working to pay their own bills and cannot stay home to care for the elderly. Unless your kids turn out to be adults who are selfless martyrs. LOL Good luck on that!
3) You could be one of those odd grannies who outlive their husband AND their own children (who may or may NOT have kids of their own)

So, there is no guarantee that getting married and/or having kids will guarantee you a non-lonely old age.

I know a guy who is blind who is in almost 80 years old and has more of a social network than most people in their 40s. He mentors artists, writers and musicians. Despite his handicap/disability, he has managed to stay relevant in the lives of many people and he has no wife nor children of his own.

My advice is simple. Get involved in projects and hobby groups. Be amongst people. You don't have to become best friends with everyone, just don't stay holed up in your house/room. You are the captain of your ship. Steer it toward what you want in life!

That would be very Viking

I'm very fond of a Prussian actor called Felix Bressart.