Fnord wrote:
BeaArthur wrote:
Fnord, are you thinking of someone in particular? Such as a psycho ex of yours?
Not this time. I was at a Thai restaurant where someone at the next table was streaming Wendy William's talk show. The segment was on some celebrity woman who wanted to sabotage her ex's marriage. From what I could hear, the woman was angry that her ex-husband's new family was happy while she was still miserable years after the divorce.
Weird.
That’s a case of a woman thinking divorce will solve all of her problems. Truth is she’s incapable of loving herself, hence she can’t love someone else. She can’t love someone else, therefore nobody loves her. Nobody loves her, therefore she’s miserable. And because of all the above, she wants everyone to be just as miserable as she is. So when her ex is happy with someone else and has a new family to replace his old family, she’s beside herself because of her desire to have something she never truly earned.
She was GIVEN all the things she wanted, IOW, and people tend to think of gifts as disposable: they cost nothing, so why take any pride in ownership of them? The only response is to demand more or, in the event of loss, to demand everyone else experience the same loss. She threw away her desires because she was unhappy; where is the humanity, the compassion in her ex not being as unhappy as she is?
There’s your lesson for the day from Dr. AngelRho, resident relationship advisor and family therapist. Your value comes from yourself, not other people.
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28 Oct 2018, 1:50 am
