Aspie virgins

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It is NT men that are regarded as weird for being older virgins because of the Hollywood sex obsessed Western culture that places too much pressure on men to be aggressive pursuers of women. Autistic men are in the disabled crowd and are not regarded as being sexual because of various issues that exist with Autism like social anxiety, schizoid personality, depression, etc. Disabled people get a free pass and do not have the same pressures of normal society.

The op doesn’t mention gender
I explained why most aspie men are virgins.
I don’t think anyone here thinks or said women are evil.
I myself beleive most women are misguided due to what society says to do and what they need on a man. Same as most men are also due to what society says. I wish both genders could tell societ to go screw itself

What? No we don’t , we get more pressured
People call us losers or think we are psychopaths.

We are expected to live up to society standards featuring having a handicap so it’s worse.

The OP is a woman and she asked soecifically about aspie men on something she probably noticed by observation, as simple as that, I think she didn’t imply a hidden sexist message like how you’re over-interpreting.

OK, leave WP. You never say anything here but whining how bad WP is.

It's pretty simple really. Asperger's/autism results in social deficits, difficulty maintaining eye-contact, difficulty reading body language and establishing friendships, etc. The same way that being obese makes it more likely that someone will develop diabetes, but not all obese people have diabetes, having social deficits makes it more likely that you will have difficulties with relationships, but it doesnt mean it's impossible.

He was only 26 when he died, but nobody even seems to know for sure what his sexuality was. He compartmentalized most of his acquaintances, so nobody really knew what he was up to a lot of the time.

Hi Angela,

There are Aspies who stay virgins until late. And there are "normal" people who stay virgins until late.

For many reasons.

I wouldn't harp on the subject too much. If he likes you, and you're his first, that would be great for both of you.

I’d wager there’s a higher percentage of aspies who do then normal people.

Maybe that's true.....but I don't believe that matters all that much.

It matters a lot when the question is why are aspies remaining virgins more then nts.


Mean say 2/10 nts remain virgins while 6/10 aspies do
The fact that nts do too doesn’t change that more aspies are and she asked why that is.

Just like whites not going graduating high school has not revevancy to a question about why so many Africans don’t. Reason being they live in poor areas who get less funding for schools. We can’t just say we’ll some whites don’t graduate either and be fine.

Also I’m just providing an example of subject I’ve seen talked about on tv and stuff i dont know the actual stats for graduation of differennt races

I feel like it's because education is not valued in some African-American communities. And sometimes corruption within the educational system.

If an African-American person had the same educational opportunities as a white person, and had the same upbringing, both would achieve just about equally. I've seen it with my own eyes.

Based on my own experience as a mid-40s virgin, the answer is complicated. When I was growing up, I was always behind everyone else socially. I did not understand many of the facets of dating that is normal to others in high school, so I did not date. I was looked down upon and bullied by my peers, so I really did not want to spend time with others. Being forced by my parents to go to school dances were the worst, pure hell for me. The few acts of kindness shown me by the girls in my classes were only done to get me to do something for them (their homework for example). However, they looked down upon me and played their games behind my back. Trust me, I overheard things that they never thought I would find out about. After a few of those events, I saw through the game that was being played and started to avoid situations like that.

Moving on to college, I was working hard at my studies and that definitely did not fit into me being a member of the partying crowd. Alcohol and drugs were not conducive to my success, so I had no need for them. I concentrated on earning my degrees and then my career. I have had a few ladies interested in me over the years, but I am a lost cause due to my own shortcomings, not theirs. Dating was/is something impossible for me, as I just do not have the social skills to make it work. After a certain point in time, I reached a point that I realized that it was not meant to be. Maybe I could have learned them when I was younger, but it was not in the cards. My situation is likely not the answer you are seeking to the question you asked, it is the one that I have experienced.

We're mostly all seen as lost causes because people are disinterested in learning more or less anything we know because of how we learned it.

Blood, sweat & tears doesn't count for much when people compulsively try to ignore the motivations behind it.

For me, it was lack of ability and no opportunity. I mean, girls weren't interested in me until I was 12 or 13 ... puberty, y'know ...

Crippling shyness from believing nobody could be interested in us and that anybody who would miraculously be into us would only be so due to not actually knowing us. Also if somebody legitimately was into us we'd never notice unless they literally pounced on us and demanded sex.

If you want this guy then give him lots of attention, make sure you're not giving anyone else that same attention, and gradually ramp up the intensity of your flirting. Sooner or later he's bound to get the message and then you'll know for sure if he's an asexual or just shy.

You would notice. The problem is wishful thinking. We are blind to unwanted interest and see interest where is none. And then complain that nobody wants us.