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Kitty4670
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01 Jan 2019, 5:00 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Yep. He's a jerk. Did he give you an explanation?

I'm sorry, Kitty.

But there's other guys. I wish you could meet one in your town, rather than on a dating Internet site.


He wanted sex, he said we could be friends , I fell for it, he was having cyber sex with me. I was stupid! I’m talking to a much better guy, he’s 36, he really want a serious relationship, we been talking as friends, no cyber sex, no picture of his thing between his legs. We been talking for 11 days now :D He want to take things slow, he don’t want to rush into a relationship :D :D But I do need to find out if we have things in common.



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01 Jan 2019, 5:42 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Yep. He's a jerk. Did he give you an explanation?

I'm sorry, Kitty.

But there's other guys. I wish you could meet one in your town, rather than on a dating Internet site.


He wanted sex, he said we could be friends , I fell for it, he was having cyber sex with me. I was stupid! I’m talking to a much better guy, he’s 36, he really want a serious relationship, we been talking as friends, no cyber sex, no picture of his thing between his legs. We been talking for 11 days now :D He want to take things slow, he don’t want to rush into a relationship :D :D But I do need to find out if we have things in common.


I’ve been tricked into thst repeatedly sadly.



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01 Jan 2019, 4:17 pm

Kitty,

Seriously, stop doing cybersex with strangers.



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01 Jan 2019, 6:13 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Kitty,

Seriously, stop doing cybersex with strangers.

It’s hard.
I have the same issue. I think maybe kitty is similarly naive as me.
Plus atleast for me it’s enjoyable at the time and I get sucked in. Then I regret it later.
I hate my sex drive, which is apparently because I was abused as a kid and thus might be how I seek value in myself



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01 Jan 2019, 7:51 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Yep. He's a jerk. Did he give you an explanation?

I'm sorry, Kitty.

But there's other guys. I wish you could meet one in your town, rather than on a dating Internet site.


He wanted sex, he said we could be friends , I fell for it, he was having cyber sex with me. I was stupid! I’m talking to a much better guy, he’s 36, he really want a serious relationship, we been talking as friends, no cyber sex, no picture of his thing between his legs. We been talking for 11 days now :D He want to take things slow, he don’t want to rush into a relationship :D :D But I do need to find out if we have things in common.


Kitty, for your good if that happens again please block the guy right away.


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02 Jan 2019, 7:50 am

Guys who have "cyber-sex" is probably living in their parents basement rolling dice and making up stats and gaining XP for the "characters" involved :P

Focus on real men who have the guts to ask for a real date.


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02 Jan 2019, 2:46 pm

Ichinin wrote:
Guys who have "cyber-sex" is probably living in their parents basement rolling dice and making up stats and gaining XP for the "characters" involved :P

Focus on real men who have the guts to ask for a real date.

That’s a mean thing to say about me and other men in my situation



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02 Jan 2019, 7:48 pm

sly279 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Kitty,

Seriously, stop doing cybersex with strangers.

It’s hard.
I have the same issue. I think maybe kitty is similarly naive as me.
Plus atleast for me it’s enjoyable at the time and I get sucked in. Then I regret it later.
I hate my sex drive, which is apparently because I was abused as a kid and thus might be how I seek value in myself


He did more cyber sex than me, I tried to stopped him, he was a sweet talker or smooth talker.


I’m sorry you were abused sly :cry:



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03 Jan 2019, 5:46 am

It sounds like you’re quite vulnerable when it comes to men and a bit naive about what they want, how old are you?

I’d be careful. Don’t take tinder seriously. You haven’t really found someone unless you’ve met them in person and they’ve asked you to be their girlfriend.

Also don’t feel bad about having multiple conversations. I have about 80 going on tinder, it’s normal to talk to lots of people on there. Dating is talking to as many people as it takes until you find one you hit it off with.

Just look after yourself and don’t expect too much of these people.