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The Grand Inquisitor
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30 Jan 2019, 9:10 am

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Have some patience. Don't worry about it. Just live your life and it will happen.
That's some blue pilled mainstream bullsht. If you actually wanna give someone dating advice, don't give them bullsht advice.
Actually, the advice given actually works, provided the man is reasonably attractive to begin with. Women tend to be driven off by unattractive men who seem desperate.

Get your act together. Show up. Relax. Let them check you out. If they like what they see, you're  hired  the one!
But then, if the man is reasonably attractive to begin with so much so that he doesn't need to actively do anything towards finding relationships to get them, he's likely not the kind of man who'll have been single long enough to have a problem with it, or who'll need to seek out advice on how to get a relationship on forums, so this anti-advice is kinda moot, and pretty much anyone it would 'work for' has already implemented it.



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30 Jan 2019, 9:13 am

I've had to actively "do something" about not having a girlfriend.

I'm not exactly the Cat's Meow. When I was in my 20s, I was short, chubby, wore glasses, looked nerdy and young. I had many features which women aren't attracted to.

I had to do other things other than just "show up" to make myself attractive.



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30 Jan 2019, 9:23 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Fnord wrote:
ShadowProphet wrote:
Canadian Penguin wrote:
Have some patience. Don't worry about it. Just live your life and it will happen.
That's some blue pilled mainstream bullsht. If you actually wanna give someone dating advice, don't give them bullsht advice.
Actually, the advice given actually works, provided the man is reasonably attractive to begin with. Women tend to be driven off by unattractive men who seem desperate. Get your act together. Show up. Relax. Let them check you out. If they like what they see, you're  hired  the one!
But then, if the man is reasonably attractive to begin with so much so that he doesn't need to actively do anything towards finding relationships to get them, he's likely not the kind of man who'll have been single long enough to have a problem with it, or who'll need to seek out advice on how to get a relationship on forums, so this anti-advice is kinda moot, and pretty much anyone it would 'work for' has already implemented it.
Except for the "Get your act together" part. I've known guys in the Navy who would use up half a can of deodorant taking a "Tennessee No-Bath" instead of a shower, guys with no fashion sense who put on whatever was on top of their seabag, guys who could have stood a little closer to the razor while shaving, guys who were so over-weight that they displayed a "plumber's crack" while standing, and guys whose only topics of conversation involved guns, pornography and mixed martial-arts.

These same guys would get miffed off because the B-girls along the Strip would ignore them in favor of those of us who at least tried to present a civilized appearance. Telling those guys to "class up" was about as effective as telling the "I can't get a girlfriend" crowd here at WP the same thing. They either believed that they were already "classy" enough, or that the B-girls were obligated to service their sexual desires no matter how unattractive the guys were, so they did not put forth any effort to be attractive.



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30 Jan 2019, 3:11 pm

What’s a B-girl?



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30 Jan 2019, 3:14 pm

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What’s a B-girl?
Maybe a B!tch Girl or a girl who is close to perfect but not quite :lol:


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30 Jan 2019, 3:19 pm

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What’s a B-girl?
Maybe a B!tch Girl or a girl who is close to perfect but not quite :lol:


According to google it means a bar girl.

Or A Bomb girl?

Or A Bootycall girl?

Or A Blue girl? A Smurfette?

Btw, what is the smurfette’s job? She doesn’t seem to have a craft like other smurfs, she’s just...a smurfette?



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30 Jan 2019, 3:20 pm

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What’s a B-girl?
"Business Girl" -- one of those girls that you can pay to sit next to you in a bar or club while you drink. B-girls are often portrayed in movies as under-aged, underdressed, and overly enamored of whoever is paying for their services. For enough money (the "Bar Fine"), the girl will take you upstairs and have sex with you.

Then she's on to the next guy...



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30 Jan 2019, 3:24 pm

Fnord wrote:
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What’s a B-girl?
"Business Girl" -- one of those girls that you can pay to sit next to you in a bar or club while you drink. B-girls are often portrayed in movies as under-aged, underdressed, and overly enamored of whoever is paying for their services. For enough money (the "Bar Fine"), the girl will take you upstairs and have sex with you.

Then she's on to the next guy...



So she’s a Hepatitis B Girl.



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30 Jan 2019, 3:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Fnord wrote:
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What’s a B-girl?
"Business Girl" -- one of those girls that you can pay to sit next to you in a bar or club while you drink. B-girls are often portrayed in movies as under-aged, underdressed, and overly enamored of whoever is paying for their services. For enough money (the "Bar Fine"), the girl will take you upstairs and have sex with you. Then she's on to the next guy...
So she’s a Hepatitis B Girl.
... or whatever sends you to the urologist.



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30 Jan 2019, 3:35 pm

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I know that this may be offensive to some, but when was the last time you saw a wealthy man with a slob on his arm, or a bikini model with a homeless guy on hers?


Well I live in a large-ish college/hippie town with a very weird reputation so I probably see this too regularly to take notice.


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30 Jan 2019, 3:38 pm

John Kerry’s wife isn’t a supermodel.
But she’s super rich.



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30 Jan 2019, 9:30 pm

Fnord wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Fnord wrote:
ShadowProphet wrote:
Canadian Penguin wrote:
Have some patience. Don't worry about it. Just live your life and it will happen.
That's some blue pilled mainstream bullsht. If you actually wanna give someone dating advice, don't give them bullsht advice.
Actually, the advice given actually works, provided the man is reasonably attractive to begin with. Women tend to be driven off by unattractive men who seem desperate. Get your act together. Show up. Relax. Let them check you out. If they like what they see, you're  hired  the one!
But then, if the man is reasonably attractive to begin with so much so that he doesn't need to actively do anything towards finding relationships to get them, he's likely not the kind of man who'll have been single long enough to have a problem with it, or who'll need to seek out advice on how to get a relationship on forums, so this anti-advice is kinda moot, and pretty much anyone it would 'work for' has already implemented it.
Except for the "Get your act together" part. I've known guys in the Navy who would use up half a can of deodorant taking a "Tennessee No-Bath" instead of a shower, guys with no fashion sense who put on whatever was on top of their seabag, guys who could have stood a little closer to the razor while shaving, guys who were so over-weight that they displayed a "plumber's crack" while standing, and guys whose only topics of conversation involved guns, pornography and mixed martial-arts.

These same guys would get miffed off because the B-girls along the Strip would ignore them in favor of those of us who at least tried to present a civilized appearance. Telling those guys to "class up" was about as effective as telling the "I can't get a girlfriend" crowd here at WP the same thing. They either believed that they were already "classy" enough, or that the B-girls were obligated to service their sexual desires no matter how unattractive the guys were, so they did not put forth any effort to be attractive.

Well you specifically said the advice Canadian Penguin gave could work, and there was no mention of getting one's act together in that advice, in fact it encouraged not worrying about relationships and just letting things happen as they may, which is very different from "getting your act together" and improving to attract women. As a matter of fact I'd be inclined to say it's pretty much the opposite, so you affirming that Canadian Penguin's advice does work is akin to tacitly parroting it, but then adding the relatively subjective phrase "get your act together" in the context of getting your life together and self-improving in order to attract a partner actually negates Canadian Penguin's advice rather than affirming it. Or at the very least, you add a pivotal step which fundamentally alters Canadian Penguin's advice, without which, it won't work.

If you don't agree with the approach "Don't worry about it. Just live your life and it will happen." Without the adding of the pivotal step "Get your act together" Then it's fair to say that you actually don't align with the advice given by Canadian Penguin.

It'd be like me saying "to make a ham and cheese sandwich, the only thing you need is one slice of cheese and that's all". And then you coming along and saying "Yeah, you're absolutely 100% right, and you need bread and ham, too." You see what I'm saying?



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31 Jan 2019, 11:22 am

It would make things a lot easier for me if I would just say "Yep...you'll never get a girlfriend. There's no hope for you."

But if I were to do that, I would be lying through my teeth.

Basically, if I were to believe what all this "social research" says, I would have remained a virgin at this point of my life--at age 58.

I don't have most of the "attributes" which "dateable" guys are supposed to have. Yet, I've done okay.



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31 Jan 2019, 11:31 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
... If you don't agree with the approach[/color] "Don't worry about it. Just live your life and it will happen." Without the adding of the pivotal step "Get your act together" Then it's fair to say that you actually don't align with the advice given by Canadian Penguin...
Actually, the two ideas are not at odds -- they actually complement each other, in that a person can do both at the same time and better their chances of finding someone special.

I mean, what do you think the chances are of an uneducated slob following the "Don't worry / just live your life" philosophy as compared to a person who used to be an uneducated slob because he (or she) followed the "Don't worry, just class up and live your life" philosophy in finding someone special?



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02 Feb 2019, 3:16 pm

I'm close to 35 and I've never had a real relationship before. I don't really frigging care about dating too much because I have a good friends.



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03 Feb 2019, 7:42 pm

Right place at the right time and lucky enough to meet a person that you can form a connection and can build chemistry. There are no nonsense checklists that must be obtained. There are plenty of people on welfare and poor people in relationships.