The super confusing “date”...

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Yeah , yeah , back tracking now. It's o.k. to find BOO hot. Don't be embarrassed , just accept it and give in to your lust

She’s o-

oops, I mean I am too young for her!

She wanna see me again, better to get these results, and hopefully nothing bad .

The 2nd “date” was probably the worst date in my life, if it wasn’t out of respect to her I was literally about to leave her there in the middle.

Totally opposite to the 1st date.

Earthling was right.

Anyway I can take a long break now.

You were right, the 2nd date with her yesterday was the worst date in my life, so we went had a lunch and went to the same disco afterward, there she started to gradually act cold with me, all behaviors that happened on 1st date just vanished.
90% of the time was either checking her phone OR chatting with other of her male “friends”.

On the dance floor, she was distancing herself from me too, fine...I did too.

but then one of her male “friend” touched her waist, then another “friend” rubbed his crotch against her from behind and she was shaking her butt willingly, this happened for like 4-5 minutes, she was dancing with them like how she danced with me on 1st date.

While with me, she was distancing herself.

Even one of the guys who saw this whispered me “man, go get her- don’t even accept this”.
But instead I didn’t go to “get her”, I just whisepred to her “what’s wrong with you?” and left the dance floor, at that moment she started to follow me like a dog, I sit on the couch there having my drink, pissed, not even looking at her and she was like “what’s wrong?”.
And EVERYONE there was assuming that we are already a bf/gf due to how she treated me on firt date, some of her female friends came and asked me what happened between me and my “gf”. And the rubbing dude came apologying and was like “sorry dude I didn’t know” then he whispered me “btw be careful of that one”.

Then after the disco we “talked”, she said she’s sorry because she wasn’t in a mood hence she received a pic of her ex with his new gf.
I literally replied: my issue wasn’t with your mood.
Her: There’s nothing, don’t make a big deal.
Me: Look, IR, when I accompany a woman to a club, I don’t go dance wildly and touching with other girls, and I expect the same respect in return.
She: I didn’t with you because I don’t want to get attached to me, I knew you felt jealous.
Me: Look, I am ok that you have male friends, I am ok that you talk to them sometimes, distanced dance is ok, what I am not ok with is that they rubb themselves against you and you accept it, even if I am just a date or club companion for you.
Her: but...
Me: Everyone there was assuming we are already a couple, you didn’t even respect my company there. If you are eyeing on some other guy now fine, go for him, tell me, why dragging me to here and go there together apparently like a couple?
Her: I know you like me, I don’t want you to fall for me. Sorry Sam.
Her: You know I am tired of guys, the guys you saw inside, they all asked me out beforr and they fought because of me before too.
Me: *laughing* Don’t expect me to fight for you like an ape, I never fight to win any woman, either you like me or not. It is that simple.
Her: ...
Me: If you wanna another guy, go after him.
Her: See you got jealous, that’s why I distanced myself. I still see you as friend.
Me: Then why you acted like this with me on the first date, hand-feeding me all the time, dancing on my lap? Kissing on my lips? in front of your friends? all these are just friends things? They even introduced me to their friends as IR’s bf.
Her: ....
Me: Frankly, today you didn’t even talk to me inside for 4 hours, I felt I was way less than a friend for you.
Her: That’s not true..
Me: Yes, you treated me like a total stranger trying to harrass you, it was totally embarrassing. You embarassed me.
Her: Anyway you rejected me before because of Anna, now you want me because she cheated on you?
Me: You know that I asked you out before I know Anna, but you declined.
Her: Sam, you have to choose, either to stay friends or we break up.
Me: No, I don’t even want your friendship anymore, you showed me no respect, I will leave, goodbye.
Her: I am sorry Sam

I hate to admit it, but sometimes people use a contact of the other gender to make someone else jealous or envious. It's a stupid move and it is definitely "using" the person.

You did the right thing here I think, to not even want friendship any more. I would be the same way in your situation.

Well, she’s about 11 years younger than me, the one with the largest age gap I ever dated.

Never again!

Looks like she is the type to play manipulative games.
Playing hot and cold.
No respect for you (and probably for no guy ever).
Vengeful insecurity (not your problem).
I doubt she is genuinely sorry about it, it's probably a repeating pattern for her, as is for most people who act like this.

You stood up for yourself and by your values (either you like me or you don't), pointed out her mistreatment of you and consequently cut the contact.
I'm really impressed with how you handled the situation.

You handdled it aLOT better than I would of Boo. I probably would of got into a yelling match with her & had a meltdown. I really wish I could express myself that well cuz I would of had less issues with both my exes & current girlfriend. Anyways... She may of been playing hard to get to make you or someone else want her. Or maybe she saw an ex or something the time before when you were at the club & she was trying to make him jelly. Either way it doesn't matter her reasons, you def did the rite thing to protect yourself.

One of the few things she talked to me about on that day, is when I heard her talking to a tattooist guy asking him for a tatto session, she showed me the tattoo design on her phone and added “with my ex name under it”, the same ex who supposedly cheated on her.

So yeah that was another huge red flag.

Many years ago, when I was younger and much better looking, I got exploited by women a lot because I was so obviously naive and an easy target. This took several forms, though they all used the bait of a possible relationship, which would vanish after the goal was achieved:
1. Satisfying temporary sexual frustration (which was at least mutually pleasurable).
2. Making a potential or ex-boyfriend jealous.
3. Using me at weddings, events, etc. as "arm candy" with no real interest or affection.
4. Getting financial help, introductions to influential people, acting/modeling castings, car rides, free drugs, or other favors.

After a few years, I learned to see this sort of thing coming before it happened. An NT person probably wouldn't have taken so long.

Yes, I always stand up for myself, for my pride.

Yet, I am still single....

I think I have just came into realization what this young woman was up to all along, man....what a plan.

I've just had a flashing memory from the first date of a glance on her big screen phone, she left her phone open on the table for a moment, and there I glanced a photo of us we just took (her kissing me) inside a Whatsapp conversation and I glanced a "in a relationship already" in a sentence as well, I didn't get it back then when I saw it.

It seems, on our 2nd date, when she received a pic of her ex with his new girlfriend, she has realized that her plan to make him jealous has failed and it backfired on her badly(probably she was sending these photos to him), hence her sudden change of attitude and "mood" with me.

This sounds very plausible, no???

You're obsessing. Plausible but no way to know for sure.... play some online games or take a trip to the gym. Get your mind off this.

Unless you ENJOY picking at the (figurative) scab ....

I agree with Bea.

Boo, your Ex is not worth obsessing over - she is an idiot.

Ignore her and move on.

I don't know what that was but I can tell you what it is not, it's not to be a second date (if I were you).
Followed you to the toilet? Ewwww. You're not ewww... but ...a toilet?! !! Ewww. Nothing confusing here. She's just a skank. Watch out. Some girls do crazy things and then start screaming that you raped them after they consented.

What did you expect from am aspie? :p