Having a Relationship With a NT

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Kitty, I am gonna copy paste words my ex gf told me on 3th January:





She started sleeping with the new guy on 4th January, both the roommate and the guy himself (I’ve talked to him) confirmed me this.
And on 1th January she dated someone else too, both roommates confirmed me that.

*shivers*

That was after 2 years of relationship, and my relationship was almost 50% online since we could only meet on weekend and not living together and yet....she had the energy and the time to keep talking me in that wat above yet it was all lies.

I just wanted to show you how far some people pretend and lie, it sounds so unreal but I lived it.
It’s not like she showed any cheating/lying signs, and I was seeing her almost every weekend, let alone someone who lives on another continent).
(I mean people who cheat on partner may usually show plenty of loss of love/attraction signs but this wasn’t the case with me at all, which made it ever a whole more devastatingly shocking to me.)

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Kitty, let's make an assumption that your boyfriend really is sincere, kind, safe to be with, and just exactly as he portrays himself.

If all that is true, he will understand why you want a friend, family member, or your support worker to be with you when you meet face to face for the first time.

If, however, he is not all the above, he will resist this common-sense precaution, act hurt or angry about your suggesting it, and act like he is withdrawing his interest from you. (Which might all be manipulation.)

Please discuss it with him - having a 3rd party along at your first meeting - and let us know what kind of reaction he has. REMEMBER: if he has your best interests at heart, he will understand your caution.

Possessive, Controlling, Jealousy, these are the sorts of behavior that can lead to great tragedy. Once he gains full control and cuts you off from everyone you know, that's the moment you are trapped and then you very well may find out he is not the person you thought you knew. You can ignore everyone and follow the path you are on, but know that it has the potential to be a grave mistake. Those that have made suggestions have done so for your well being Kitty. I only hope you can set aside your feelings for a moment and make a rational decision about your future. Take care of yourself Kitty.

Tread carefully,there is no way of verifying what someone has written on the net is who they say they are and what they write is true.

Most NT's have hidden agendas,especially males that will say anything to gain a raise between there legs.

The past few years,i have looked on dating sites and have met several women,all were NT's bar from one,they weren't people i could 'hang' with nor could i trust them.

I'm not made for NT's,my search is now on for someone like me,someone i can rely on and trust.

Again,tread carefully,this is just some NT guy from the net,he can tell you anything,trust more of what you see rather than by the word.

I wouldn't be surprised this guy is doing his home work on 'Aspergers' for his own hidden agenda.

My 2 cents.