Don't get it if teenager girls start to flirt with me.

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When you say "started to flirt " what did she actually do?

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Maybe like them being ND? [/quote]

Even ND teenage girls don’t want boyfriends who are in their 50’s.

Flirting implies some level of sexual attraction. Don’t flirt with underage girls (or boys). It’s creepy.

Subliminal communication doesn’t get the job done.

I disagree. Just because I flirt with a girl doesn't mean I want her for a girlfriend or that I want to have sex with her. If that was true, I would find flirting unacceptable when I was in a relationship, but I don't. Flirting simply is a fun game with no expectations.

There is no job to get done. It's all for fun.

Some guys see being friendly/being funny from a girl as being flirty, are you sure it wasn't just that?

Don't pursue teenage girls, even if they are into you.

It's unclear if she said anything, I'm suspecting that if there had been any conversation we would have been told about it. Some people, like to elicit a response, want to be noticed or expect to be admired which doesn't count as flirting.

If there’s no sexual attraction involved, do you flirt with teenage boys, too? If not, why?

No, I don't, and not with older women or children either. So, yes, I must find a girl potentially interesting for a romantic relationship to want to flirt with her, but that still doesn't mean there is some goal like having her as a girlfriend or having sex with her. It's a fun and interesting exchange with no strings attached. Not much different from when NTs go to social events. I will decide how far to take it based on if I already have a partner and things like that. I mean, NTs will do the same at social gatherings when they talk to the opposite gender, and this is not expected to lead to sex or gf status.

Finding an underage girl “potentially interesting for a romantic relationship” sounds inappropriate to me.

Wouldn’t it be much better to flirt with an adult? Fathers can get cranky when an older guy flirts with their daughters.

How would I know? I kind of cannot ask a girl how old she is before I attempt to flirt with her.



It was evolution that decided that guys, of all ages, should find girls around 18-20 years most attractive. Some people think they stand above that, but they are fooling themselves. I mean, I've tested this too, and it is valid for all men of all ages regardless of neurotype.



Nobody except the girl would know.

Your worries are kind of strange. First of all a relationship to her wouldn't be illegal at all but may be no not very well accepted by families and other people. I'm looking a bit younger then average people of my age. Not all people do age at the same speed. It's not a rare case that even teenager girls get unexpectedly in touch with me. The girl was after me because of behaviour and not after money. I was wearing old jeans with cut off legs, an old faded shirt, my hair cut is old fashioned and I was using the bus. Many women who like me stay just near to me or get in touch with hips or breasts while passing me. But she came near to me just for flirting and that wasn't a typical thing. But she was really pretty and so I liked her. But what's your problem with this?

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You'd know she was a woman if she was closer to your own age.

Power dynamics in patriarchy is what has traditionally dictated girls settle for older boys. Both sexes find youth and ripeness attractive. That's why there's a rise in cougar culture and sugar mummies nowadays.

I'd like to be a cougar myself but I don't flirt with sixth form boys because I don't want to be a creep. And I certainly wouldn't (if I didn't still get kiddy menus in restaurants and IDed every time I want to do something 18+) think they were flirting with me. They do flirt with me but only because I, like a lot of aspies, look young.

Considering that - maybe that's what's going on? Do you have the usual grey hair, height and wrinkles which a typical 50 something would have? Or might you look more like a young man in his 20s?

The power dynamic would be out of whack by a lot. This should concern you, if you have empathy for her and don't just see her as a sex object. It would be less out of whack then if you were an NT, that's why it's hard to date as an aspie, but I recommend finding someone in her 30s/40s or at least 20s.

Avoid flirting with girls who look young unless you know they are of age. Where’s the harm in that?

“Nobody except the girl would know?” Avoid having secret flirtations with underage girls.

What if you and/or the girl develops feelings for each other through flirting? It’s just not worth the risk.

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What the hell don't you understand? She tried to flirt with me and there was nothing at all wrong with this. Once you dislike this than you have a problem not me or that girl who tried it. Why on earth should anybody avoid to flirt with somebody that he or she likes? Just for fitting the idiotic moral of ill minded people who aren't even involved?
"There is a moral sense and there is an immoral sense. History shows that the moral sense enables us to see morality and how to avoid it, and that the immoral sense enables us to perceive immorality and how to enjoy it." (M.Twain)

It’s a bad idea to flirt with teenage girls for a variety of reasons which have already been listed. If they flirt with you, that’s one thing, but you should probably avoid flirting back. It isn’t worth the risk.

Finding some random Mark Twain quote hardly addresses the current topic at hand.

“Stupidity is a talent for misconception.” Edgar Allan Poe