Hobbies are part of personality

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Don't worry about what "most" women think. Worry only about what your kind of woman thinks.

As you've said, most women aren't gamers. It seems to me that if a woman is a gamer herself, then she is much less likely than a woman who is not a gamer to dislike male gamers. Reason #3 in the above article ("She doesn’t share your feelings of excitement or sense of achievement") obviously does not apply to a fellow gamer. Neither does Reason #2 ("It makes her feel neglected") if your interaction with her includes (but is not limited to) camaraderie around one or more specific games that you both love.

Anyhow, as the article also says: "If you want your girlfriend (fiance or wife) to accept the fact that you love gaming, what you need to do is show her that you’re achieving things in this world and you are also paying attention to her." In other words, you need to be making an effort to improve your real life, not just be into gaming -- and that would be true even for a woman who is a fellow gamer.


One of the articles I linked to in my previous reply to you specifically says that 48% of console gamers are now women. Please read all the linked articles carefully.

I only have 1 female friend IRL and she's my 1 and only friend - my GF

There are avid gamers here who are women.

I don’t play video games at all. The last time I played avidly, most video games were in arcades.

The woman who dumped that guy was unhappy that he seemed more interested in video games than herself. She wouldn’t have minded if the guy was into gaming—as long as he was into HER, too.

PUBG and Fortnite are popular games among girls; and it's all blood and killing.

This gaming stuff loses me and my ex said that was proof I wasn't a tomboy growing up (no, just not everyone was given a console in the 90s, some of us had to play outside instead).

Idk what the difference between a computer game and a video game is tbh.

I did play computer games at my granddad's though. I think everyone who grew up in 90s or beyond has played and enjoyed some kind of video game.

My cousins looked down on me cos the computer games I liked were all the educational ones. One about a castle, one about inventions, one about the human body and one which was an encyclopedia before Wikipedia.

(I don't think those last two were actually meant to be games though...)

Well I’m permanently disabled and will be on social security rest my life with a max combined income of $1200 a month, so I’ll never achieve anything in life. Gaming is an escape from hell that is my life.

Well, some of us love chopped liver

with some fava beans and a nice chianti

And you claimed you are not a food snob

I'll share with you, Sly and Bender ... but that's where I draw the line.

Mrs Ferris says I'm T -total and don't encourage me - bad girl

I have some Bordeaux - here's to Lady Isabella and Sly

(I know you don't drink, Sly, but here's to your health and happiness )

(The ferret and I will take care of that liver now)

How about some great tasting currant tea, for you and Mlle Ferret?

What does it say about your personality when you have too many hobbies to keep track but are avidly interested in each one? ... Heh.

I concur with that one poster though. I don't think your hobbies really make the person. But they are important. I can't imagine enjoying being around someone that shares 0 hobbies. Especially when they take over your free time, as they can be prone to.

My interests have always been things that I've done by myself. My main interest is spending time on forums & that's how I met both my exes & current girlfriend. However my current girlfriend quit going on them shortly after we got together. I like listening to music a lot but I mostly just listen to it when I'm on computer. I do like playing video-games sometime but most games are one player. I also like watching TV a lot at times but I don't usually go out of my way anymore to watch specific shows. My current girlfriend likes reading, writing, playing video-games, watching TV, & listening to music. We spend a lot of time together but we're not always doing the same thing. For example I'll hang out with her on the sofa while she plays video-games or watches TV. I'm sometimes doing things on my phone while she's doing that. She spends time on her tablet or reads a physical book while siting next to me while I'm watching TV or playing video-games. We do watch some of the same shows together at times thou. I sometimes hang out with her while she's reading, writing, or doing something else on her tablet while she's in her room. Most of the time when she listens to music she is using her earbuds & is listening while doing something on her tablet or when she goes out to places like taking bus rides. We spend time together while doing things like chores too.

Is there no kind of career or skilled job you could conceivably be good at if it were possible for you to work in a sufficiently autistic-friendly environment?