Have you ever been attracted to unattractive individuals?

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I've been sexually turned on to supposedly "unattractive"-looking people.

I'm very much a "demisexual."

I'm attracted to the mind of particular women.

I've been attracted to people that I found attractive. There's not a valid way to measure attractiveness, so I can't accurately answer. However, I have been attracted to people for their personalities and not simply how they look. I've never had a "type" either.

Yep... Happens to me quite often actually... I am very much a person who starts finding people attractive because their personality and how they treat me over how "hot" they are... I really don't like choosing people on looks I think it's odd imo

I can look past certain "unattractive" physical traits if the person has the right personality and a high level of intelligence.

Yeah, quite often.
Maybe I have been prejudiced in the past and assumed that so called "hot" people would be up themselves. Compatibility would be my top priority, I'm often attracted to people whose faces are very expressive.

Meh....not to worried about being single, wouldn't mind having more friendship and laughter in my life.

yes.

Totally agree. Someone can be sexually attractive to you without being what the mainstream considers "conventionally attractive". In fact if that were not so, I'd probably have been single forever. The chemistry between two people makes sense only to those two individuals, and sometimes not even to them!

The girl who broke my heart in 2011 was not "my type" at all, but that didn't stop me trying to kill myself when things didn't work out (I am in a slightly better place now, I hasten to add).

There was a 1930s music-hall song, "Everyone's got sex appeal for someone, or many of us wouldn't be here."

As usual Boo is keeping things real!

@OP
The moment you refer to "unattractive" you are actually meaning "sexually unnattractive".
I think its possible for young girls to be attractive to confidence/charisma/kindness and we know biologically these are traits that increase the chance of your progeny surviving so naturally you are drawn to people with these characteristics.
They trade off sexual attraction for other things.

Young NT women often are drawn to unnattactive men who are confident/charismatic and socially powerful

A good personality could potentially turn me onto someone who I wouldn't otherwise notice, or wouldn't find particularly attractive, but not someone who I find to be ugly or unattractive.

I think if you're on the fence about someone, like you don't find yourself drawn to them, but you're also not repulsed at the thought of being with them, a good personality can sometimes help get them over the like to where you are interested in them. But then, it also depends on what other options you have available. If you're in the top 1% attractiveness, you'll probably never need to settle for someone that you're not immensely attracted to.

I suppose it depends, I imagine some people would not find my boyfriend attractive, but he is to me so I don't have an objective opinion.

If you are attracted to someone, then that person is by definition "attractive".

Depends if you are attracted to them as friends or sex partners

I don't know that most people use the term "attracted to" in a platonic context. I've never heard it used that way. Being "attracted to" someone generally implies romantic or sexual interest.

Hmm. Well, I've certainly had moments where I've wondered why on Earth I ever had a crush on someone. Usually due to their personality, but sometimes because of their appearance since I no longer find them attractive. Almost as if I've broken out of a trance I was once in.

I must admit that I am usually drawn to certain traits. As for how long it takes for me to develop a crush, it can vary. Either it takes a while for those feelings to develop, or I've felt irrationally nervous yet a desire to be close to someone despite not knowing them all that well.

I've even had shallow feelings for strangers before. A strange seemingly contradictory impulse for physical contact with them despite the fact that I'm usually uncomfortable with such things.

Whilst I might find them unattractive after the crush has faded, I find them attractive whilst I still have that crush.

That's the point Boo and I have been trying to make to the OP....she seems to think you can be attracted to somebody platonically