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12 Oct 2019, 7:52 am

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but how do you spot a fruitcake, exactly?


Fruitcakes have currents? No idea.
I've almost always heard fruitcake being used as a way to insult gay men so I'll say you spot a fruitcake the same way you'd spot a gay man

Never heart the term being used in this way before. Only heard it as in describing someone who is a little off their heads... A little nuts.


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12 Oct 2019, 7:54 am

Raphael F wrote:
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“nutty as a fruitcake.”
Yup. That's the definition I had in mind, right there. Ooops.

Off topic but I was once reprimanded, in my teaching days, for using the phrase, "sitting there like a lemon." Apparently at some point since I learned to speak English "lemon" had begun sometimes to denote "lesbian", not just a motionless item in a fruit bowl, which was all it meant when I was growing up....

I think this world has gone mad. How can one sit there like a lesbian? I have no idea what that means! Haha. Is rather meaningless. A lesbian sits down just like anyone else sits down.


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12 Oct 2019, 7:56 am

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A fruitcake is not necessarily a gay man. It can be a “nutter” in general. As in the expression “nutty as a fruitcake.”

A “fruit” was a term for a gay man in about the 70s.


Is news to me. It could be just in america this term was used.


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12 Oct 2019, 8:12 am

Raphael F wrote:
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I've almost always heard fruitcake being used as a way to insult gay men so I'll say you spot a fruitcake the same way you'd spot a gay man.
Oh no! I've found a whole new way of offending people, and while I'm sober too! Apologies: no disrespect was meant to gay men. That was not a definition I was aware of, until now.
Don't worry about it. I knew what you meant just fine from the context. My reply was kinda in a joking way but there is some truth in that. Like you said being used for gay is probably more of an American thing.


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12 Oct 2019, 8:18 am

Lemon does not mean “lesbian” in the US.

It is slang for a car which malfunctions even when new. Or other mechanical devices.

As for online dating sites: I am fortunate that I’ve never had to use them.



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12 Oct 2019, 8:25 am

We may perhaps have wandered slightly from the actual topic here, but apparently "lemon" in the lesbian sense was originally an Australian usage.

No doubt this will greatly assist Kitty4670 with her original query...


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12 Oct 2019, 9:22 am

Oh yes. I've forgotton what the thread was about... :oops: Sorry Kitty.


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13 Oct 2019, 9:07 pm

I was lost with all the fruitcake talk.



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13 Oct 2019, 9:42 pm

[quote="Juliette]If a man is genuine, and truly cares about you, he will give you the time you need, and will wait for as long as you need, until you're good and ready to meet him. Trust your instincts. I've had some experience of this, and can only say, do what YOU feel you need to do, in order to feel comfortable... A good man will wait until you're ready ... that is, if he's genuine.[/quote]


Thanks, that is very good advice. I need to wait or things will become very awkward. I met a guy before, it was very uncomfortable, there were alot of awkward moments.