Gabriel5455 wrote:
DanielFromEngland I know that flirt is very complicated for ASD/Asperger peoples because we don't know about social interations. I always try to socialize with my classmates, new peoples and my own family but it's not always like that and so I get confused, anxious or sad. I realize that the world is going too fast for me and I try to be more independent and responsible. I bought the party ticket not on the advice of my psychologist but on my own, I kind of "made myself" go to the party because I wanted to socialize more and maybe try to flirt with some nice girl instead of staying home doing nothing. I'll be in college in a little while, and I need to have more self-confidence in myself, as much as Asperger gets in my way, I can't let him "swallow" me, I need to control and deal with him. When I am ready, I will travel to Canada looking for a better place to work due to the socio-economic problems of my country (Brazil). For that I will need a lot of dedication and for that I will need to deal with myself and try to forget about Asperger for a moment.
Okay, here’s my advice for you:
1. Don’t ever forget about your autism. You can achieve anything that a neurotypical person can achieve, but only if you understand and remember your limitations as an autistic person
2. In social situations, always focus on staying calm. Avoid anything which makes this difficult, such as big parties - and energy drinks (and when you’re old enough to drink, also alcohol)
3. Introducing yourself to members of the opposite sex at parties or in the corridor at school is too high-pressure. Girls need to feel comfortable with guys, and you will not be able to make anyone else feel comfortable if you are feeling stressed out
4. Instead, aim to make friends with members of both sexes through mutual interests. When you get to college, join clubs or societies for people who enjoy the sorts of things that you enjoy
5. When you get to know a girl who you think you might be compatible with, ask her if she’d like to go for a coffee with you sometime - that’s much less pressure than asking her to spend the whole day with you
And also: look after yourself!
27 Oct 2019, 1:31 pm
