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03 Dec 2019, 11:00 am

He's quoting a Supremes song.....

Most of the time, I don't believe you can "hurry" love. Love, many times, has to percolate in the souls of both partners.



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03 Dec 2019, 3:19 pm

I honestly hate love songs. They don’t reflect my life at all.

I wonder if I should just give up completely now. I still don’t want to live even if I do give up.



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09 Dec 2019, 7:45 pm

My aunt told me God is still “writing my love story.” I just can’t buy into that. If God could do even do that, why isn’t anything happening in my life to indicate that such a thing is happening?



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10 Dec 2019, 1:48 pm

I hate to depress you but if you talk to ASD people, it is very common to hear "Love life?! What love life?! I haven't had a woman in 10 years!"

It is very sad. But such is life with ASD. It involves a lot of sexual frustration.



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10 Dec 2019, 1:51 pm

DorkyNerd wrote:
I hate to depress you but if you talk to ASD people, it is very common to hear "Love life?! What love life?! I haven't had a woman in 10 years!"

It is very sad. But such is life with ASD. It involves a lot of sexual frustration.


There are also a lot of people with ASD in relationships, so it’s by no means impossible.



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10 Dec 2019, 2:02 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
DorkyNerd wrote:
I hate to depress you but if you talk to ASD people, it is very common to hear "Love life?! What love life?! I haven't had a woman in 10 years!"

It is very sad. But such is life with ASD. It involves a lot of sexual frustration.


There are also a lot of people with ASD in relationships, so it’s by no means impossible.


It feels impossible when you live in an area that’s superficially religious and you don’t fit the mold. Even if I had confidence, the fact I am non-religious would be an automatic dealbreaker.



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10 Dec 2019, 2:12 pm

I live in a very religious area, and it’s by no means impossible here...



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10 Dec 2019, 2:17 pm

I just don’t know how non-religious people meet up in my area. Whenever I look into social groups, they are always for Christians even though there is a church on almost every corner. Even the college has a Baptist social group.

I wish others understood how bleak my life looks and how hopeless I feel.



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10 Dec 2019, 3:21 pm

This theory isn't necessarily true. I live in NYC, which is very secular.

Having a love life as an Aspie is impossible here, too. I have spoken to disabled atheist people here. They nearly all say "I haven't had a partner in 7 years!" Or "I am 30 and still a virgin!"

And when they do attract someone, it isn't even a relationship. It is this weird, desperate, pathetic thing that quickly ends.



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10 Dec 2019, 3:40 pm

The Meet Up group I used to be part of was meant to appeal to secularists but it was infiltrated by superficial religious people. One of them kicked up a fuss about being a Christian while at the same time also calling herself a “slut” but she would only have sex with Christian men. Last I heard of her, she got banned from the group when she was caught by the only person I keep up with that group giving a guy oral sex in his home.



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10 Dec 2019, 3:44 pm

That is sad but also kind of funny.

How did it happen that she got caught?!

Was the Meetup member the fellow's roommate?

Oh man, that must have been so awkward for the three of them! Imagine walking in on that!



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10 Dec 2019, 3:57 pm

He told me the group was having a karaoke party and he needed to go to his room to get something. He opened the door and said the guy (he didn’t know him) was “standing there like Superman” while Grace (the “slut”) was “sucking his dick” while another woman watched. He said he yelled out “What the f**k are you doing in my room?” and the guy ran out while the women screamed. Grace was apparently so drunk she couldn’t find her underwear and she cussed out her friend who came to get her which also destroyed that friendship. The group leader, his girlfriend (her attitude is what made me stop attending that group’s events), and a few others came over to my friend’s place the next day and said Grace had been warned for doing something similar before so her punishment was to be banned for a year.



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10 Dec 2019, 9:26 pm

DorkyNerd wrote:
And when they do attract someone, it isn't even a relationship. It is this weird, desperate, pathetic thing that quickly ends.


That means they didn't attract them then - or the attracted person wasn't intelligent enough to reciprocate.



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10 Dec 2019, 9:28 pm

Marknis wrote:
He told me the group was having a karaoke party and he needed to go to his room to get something. He opened the door and said the guy (he didn’t know him) was “standing there like Superman” while Grace (the “slut”) was “sucking his dick” while another woman watched. He said he yelled out “What the f**k are you doing in my room?” and the guy ran out while the women screamed. Grace was apparently so drunk she couldn’t find her underwear and she cussed out her friend who came to get her which also destroyed that friendship. The group leader, his girlfriend (her attitude is what made me stop attending that group’s events), and a few others came over to my friend’s place the next day and said Grace had been warned for doing something similar before so her punishment was to be banned for a year.


They sound like a bright bunch. :P