Should i quit my job because of a Crush?

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Absolutely not but I think it makes sense to prioritize those feelings so that they don't take over your life.

Like I said, actively pursuing a relationship would provide a healthier outlet for whatever is driving those feelings. I don't know if the OP needs to actually be in a relationship anytime soon, but she should maybe play the game. Better than quitting a job every time this happens. For one thing, when applying for a new job, she has to lie about her reason for wanting to leave her old job.

I'm not sure if i'm okay with a relationship. But develop crushes very easily. Online dating where i live is a bit dangerous since most men are very sexist here. (i'm scared of being killed etc.) Also this has not happened at a previous job, i had other reasons to leave that place.

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Yeah, i'm surprised too!
Well this country used to be a lot better but for the last few years the economy has gone from bad to worse and the unemployment rate is awful. Even engineers and doctors don't get paid much. Also i get what you mean, i met with this coworker a few times outside work which i regret. If i kept my distance in the beginning this wouldn't happen.

Turkey is in a financial crisis (and so a lot of countries in the area, we are on the path of Argentina); so life there won't cut her some slack - poverty will not cut her some slack; quitting jobs repetitively won't help.

Most people lie during job interviews. I’ve always done so. It’s important to present one’s self in the best possible light.

Why are we assuming that this situation has happened to her before? In her opening post, she stated that she had other things she disliked about her current job besides this.

I don't consider Turkey to be part of either the Middle East or the Third World. OTOH I wouldn't know how to categorize Turkey. Turkey used to control a vast amount of territory via its empire, so those places probably once defined themselves in terms of their relationship to Turkey. "Third World" implies a great degree of backwardness and poverty. Turkey is an industrial and military country with per capita GDP higher than some European countries.

No no something like this definitely didn't happen before in my previous jobs. I quit working because i felt i wasn't qualified for the job and was having imposter syndrome. (which i still do btw)
Also if i need to have an excuse it's very easy, the office is very far away (it takes more than one hour by train)

Indeed.

Just watch the historical expansion: https://youtu.be/LZ5VncKQBQo?t=39

This is what gave the impression of a "pattern". Sorry if I misunderstood!


Have you actually done on-line dating? From quickly scanning your posting history, I gather you live in Istanbul. It is such a huge place, I should think it naïve to dismiss all unattached men in Istanbul in that way. Anyway, even if a guy has some attitudes that may seem sexist to you, it doesn't necessarily mean you couldn't have a relationship with him. Have you actually tried on-line dating? BTW there is a active member on this forum who has done scientific studies of how on-line dating works, maybe he could give you some pointers. There have been women on WP who have gotten into long-term relationships via online dating, but I have to tell you, it took years! It's never too early to get started.

I became aromantic since I got cheated.

You should try it too, it is... liberating.

To me, the cons outweigh the benefits.

How is Kars, Turkey compared to Istanbul, Turkey?

Don’t quit the job.

I think of Istanbul as being of two worlds as well as two continents.

I used to think of my country as quite modern too but for the last ten years we have only went backwards because of religious extremists. Thankfully i live in the West coast where it's still pretty much safe.

I've never been to Kars, it's on the east side with a very different culture, almost like it's another country. I would like to go but those places are not really safe for women.

I figured that the eastern part of Turkey was more Islamic than the western part.

The west coast is very nice. Beautiful climate. That’s about where Troy was.

The East is very cold and snowy in the winter.

The Ottoman Empire was brutal, but interesting when considered from a purely historical perspective. They weren’t religious extremists, interestingly. But they certainly weren’t nice to the Armenians.

Alcohol consumption is very normalized in Istanbul.

I think even the Ottoman Empire valued science and arts more than the current government..
Anyway, this guy is acting very normal with me again and it's like nothing happened? I have no idea what i should do really. I don't want to be jealous of his relationship with my friend and i see no way out of this situation without quitting. It would hurt me too much to see them together.

It was quite difficult to find a Turk who speaks english.