Have you ever been called picky?

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This often happens with smart people in university.

I’m glad you were able to leave your high school days in the dust.

Yes, you are picky.

and every user who posted above me is picky.

and every one who will post after me is picky.

Here, I ruined the thread’s title, the answer will always be yes. :p

No. I've been told I'm not choosey enough. Honestly, some one would need to be seriously disgusting or off-putting for me not to even give them a chance.

However, I hate, hate, hate the smell of smoke, especially weed. I don't think smokers realise how bad they smell, even when they aren't smoking right in front of you.

Apparently I could have avoided a lot of pain if I hadn't persued love at all.

"I feel like you try and force things when there's nothing there," I was told.

Apparently you aren't supposed to try. Love just "happens" and it just "finds you".

The whole thing is a pile of crap. You make an effort, You're doing the wrong thing. You don't make an effort, no one thinks you're interested.

You can't win. Love is the biggest pile of s**t that is part of being human. Some of us are too disgustingly much of a turn off and shouldn't be trying and I'm apparently one of those losers.

^ I am sorry you are in so much pain, you dont deserve these feelings.

Well, I am emotionally shaken and conflicted right now.

A friend of mine faked a conversation with the girl I like and convinced me it was real (there was a surprising amount of effort put into these messages, lots of back and forth conversation). Eventually they admitted that they were fake but are now offering to ask her about me for real. So many questions are running through my head right now. I'm annoyed at my friend for doing this. Yet, should I accept? Would my crush think less of me? Find it creepy? I want to curl up in a ball right now. Just...so many questions. My mind is spinning. I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing. Plus, the timing is bad. Yet if I don't say anything, she might lose interest...that is if she's even interested anymore I'm so confused.

*Screams into the void*

Why am I like this? How did I get in this situation? Why did my friend put so much effort into lying to me? Should I even trust him after this?

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhh

*Collapses onto bed*

Darn emotions.

Sounds like a lot of stupidness on your friend’s part.

If you want to ask this person out, you might as well do it.

Hey - was this girl you like in on the fake conversation? Or was it someone pretending to be her? If she was don't have anything to do with her! She is not very nice.

No, she wasn't involved in the faked conversation.

The conversation itself was solely made by my friend via cutting message bubbles from other unrelated conversations, altering the text, the icons and attempts at altering time stamps to make it look like he had talked to her. As a result, I feel somewhat hurt by this trickery. It wasn't a perfect fake, but I was fooled for a short while I'll admit. However, there were certain visual faults and continuity issues in his story that inevitably gave it away.

Would it be an over reaction to avoid this friend for a while? I'm annoyed at him for doing this. The lengths he went to...I thought if he was joking then he wouldn't go to such measures...yes, it was silly but I still feel hurt by this though. I don't appreciate my emotions being played with.

*Sigh* To make an entirely fake conversation and persistently convince me that my crush expressed interest in me, it was rather cruel of him. Can I ever trust him after this? I feel manipulated and used as a joke. This might just be my current mixed up emotions talking, but I don't think I want to be friends with this guy anymore. He went against my trust. Sure, it was joke, but...it hurts. I never realised how manipulative he can be. He made me feel foolish.

Well you have my blessing to say something to the girl you like.

And tell your friend how you feel, and then ghost him.
Sometimes people are just idiots, but sometimes they apologize and become a better friend. If he is your friend he'll reach out to you eventually and try to make things better. If not, good riddance.

Do you feel really friendly towards this guy?

I find that be did a really stupid thing. I wouldn’t want a friend to do that with me. I would feel distrustful of this person. Sounds like stupid, sophomoric hijinks.

Has he apologized at all.

No, he hasn't apologised yet.

He has said that he hopes I'm not too annoyed by his actions, but hasn't actually apologised for his behaviour. I'm considering asking for an apology, but I feel as though if he were truly sorry I wouldn't have to. This isn't the first time we've fallen out. I've given him second chances before. We've been friends for quite a long time now. Maybe we shouldn't be anymore.

Update:

He apologised. I told him about how the fake conversation made me uncomfortable and that I was hurt by his behaviour. Also, I added that if anyone is going to tell my crush how I feel...it will be me. Thankfully he is respecting this.

I’m glad you were able to be assertive.

Maybe he’ll start growing up now.