31 Mar 2020, 3:32 pm
hurtloam wrote:
rick42 wrote:
What do yall think about Adam Wonders(from Youtube)? He's also a aspie who talk about different things concerning Asperger's Sydrome,including datiing/relationships.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixgV5-OBQXg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixgV5-OBQXg
I like this guy. Why can't I meet someone like this??
My ideal is to find a guy who doesn't like football.
Thanks for the link! Interesting video so I subscribed and will watch more.
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02 Apr 2020, 6:32 am
ProfessorJohn wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
- but I'm a nonromantic asexual, I realize I'm probably happier not having any kind of romantic relationship anyway.
Consider yourself lucky then. If you have no interest in relationships, romance, or sex, life will be much easier for you then if you desire any of those things. I would have loved to be in your shoes.
Agreed. Being a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture is a Hell I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy
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02 Apr 2020, 10:06 am
SportsGamer35728 wrote:
ProfessorJohn wrote:
dragonsanddemons wrote:
- but I'm a nonromantic asexual, I realize I'm probably happier not having any kind of romantic relationship anyway.
Consider yourself lucky then. If you have no interest in relationships, romance, or sex, life will be much easier for you then if you desire any of those things. I would have loved to be in your shoes.
Agreed. Being a hopeless romantic in a hookup culture is a Hell I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy
02 Apr 2020, 11:03 am
hurtloam wrote:
My ideal is to find a guy who doesn't like football.
Does laughing insanely when my national team get knocked out of the world cup count?
02 Apr 2020, 1:24 pm
hurtloam wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Relationships are difficult so long as you expect them to be all about you.
The moment you let go of that, you'll be fine.
The moment you let go of that, you'll be fine.
Well, that's not true.
I do hate these throw away lines.
I am a very caring person and I look out for others, but doesn't matter what I do for guys. They don't magically fall for me.
I'll give an example of how I have a nice little relationship with someone. Take my brother-in-law's best friend for example. I do look out for him. Make sure he's ok. Invite him places. I don't expect anything back from him. He's just part of our lives and I make him a part of things because he's one of us. And my friend's brother too. He's a great guy. We talk about music mostly. I've invited him along to things we do. We're on good terms. We have not fallen for each other either.
I've known quite a lot of men actually, I've just treated them as humans and not expected anything. No one fell for me. We had no sparks.
Mysteriously he hasn't fallen for the girl that looks out for him
It's not a magic panacea to just be caring and someone will fall for you.
Ah, well, at least this made me write about some of the nice people I know.
How long before this thread gets locked? I give it an hour.
He’s probably not physically attracted to you, that’s why. Either that or he’s got a girlfriend.
If he found you attractive, he likely would have made a move by now.
For the vast majority of men, they want someone who they find physically attractive. If the physical attraction isn’t there, it doesn’t matter how nice you are, how much you two have in common, he won’t even consider you. Also we generally want someone in our age range. If you’re a 25 year old man, you’re probably not looking at women in their fourties, unless they’re super hot.
A good example would be an 80 year old woman. I ain’t ever going to be attracted to an 80 year old woman no matter how much she’s there for me.
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02 Apr 2020, 4:26 pm
Muse933277 wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Relationships are difficult so long as you expect them to be all about you.
The moment you let go of that, you'll be fine.
The moment you let go of that, you'll be fine.
Well, that's not true.
I do hate these throw away lines.
I am a very caring person and I look out for others, but doesn't matter what I do for guys. They don't magically fall for me.
I'll give an example of how I have a nice little relationship with someone. Take my brother-in-law's best friend for example. I do look out for him. Make sure he's ok. Invite him places. I don't expect anything back from him. He's just part of our lives and I make him a part of things because he's one of us. And my friend's brother too. He's a great guy. We talk about music mostly. I've invited him along to things we do. We're on good terms. We have not fallen for each other either.
I've known quite a lot of men actually, I've just treated them as humans and not expected anything. No one fell for me. We had no sparks.
Mysteriously he hasn't fallen for the girl that looks out for him
It's not a magic panacea to just be caring and someone will fall for you.
Ah, well, at least this made me write about some of the nice people I know.
How long before this thread gets locked? I give it an hour.
He’s probably not physically attracted to you, that’s why. Either that or he’s got a girlfriend.
If he found you attractive, he likely would have made a move by now.
For the vast majority of men, they want someone who they find physically attractive. If the physical attraction isn’t there, it doesn’t matter how nice you are, how much you two have in common, he won’t even consider you. Also we generally want someone in our age range. If you’re a 25 year old man, you’re probably not looking at women in their fourties, unless they’re super hot.
A good example would be an 80 year old woman. I ain’t ever going to be attracted to an 80 year old woman no matter how much she’s there for me.
Thank you. That's what I was saying. There's more to it than making all your actions about other people.
Though, I'm not sure why you immediately jumped to writing about a 25 year old and a woman in her 40s. Where'd that come from. That's nothing to do with my example.
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06 Apr 2020, 3:36 am
rick42 wrote:
Seem like Aspies,especially Aspie men tend to stay alone forever
Only the lucky ones.
Cherrish being single while you still can.
06 Apr 2020, 10:57 am
RetroGamer87 wrote:
rick42 wrote:
Seem like Aspies,especially Aspie men tend to stay alone forever
Only the lucky ones.
Cherrish being single while you still can.Sounds like you don't enjoy having a girlfriend. My question is why don't just you stay single and be alone if that's what you enjoy so much?No one is forcing you to have a girlfriend dude. You may feel like single men are lucky,however that's not always the case. Some of us suffer from loneliness. Some of us are involuntary single due to circumstances,but not lonely. Some of us just dislike women overall,and want nothing to do with women. In ether case however,consider yourself lucky. For many of us as Aspie men,we go through our entire lifetimes without a single woman liking us.
For myself specifically,I haven't really even talked with females outside of family within the last couple of years,let alone tried date.Not that women would even want to talk with me anyway. I don't believe I have ever met a single woman who even liked me as a friend,let alone romantically. Women see me as boring and weird. They don't see me as interesting. They seem me as socially awkward which is something I can't control due to my Aspergers.
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