Do women simply just dislike Aspie men?

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I have an idea for you single & frustrated Aspie guys You offer to share your toilet-paper hoard with a girl. TP is rarer than diamond rings rite now.

Women date up, they don't date down. You can observe this fact for yourself by observing how aspie women have an much easier time drawing in NT males. An aspie male will have to adorn his life with all manners of vanities to excuse how his brain works in order to woo a lady. Money, looks, job, etc, will all factor in excusing the aspie brain.

Some NTs can drawn in women off sheer force personality alone, and when combined with looks, you'd observe that some NT's are so profoundly strong in these two departments that they can essentially live off a lady. Its just crazy how far personality and some ok looks can take you with women. But this isn't a privilege we share, aspie males do have the bad end of the stick in that we have to focus on all the big things of life in order to make us acceptable, but life is about the little things, therefor it puts us in a bad spot. Some members who constantly gripe about their situation in this forum understand all to well that money just doesn't motivate them, but to be acceptable to the eyes of this world you need to pursue money with fanatical zeal. Our monotropism tends to also dominate our lives and money rarely is the focus of our obsession. So it becomes all the more hard to appeal to the largest dating pool, which are the NTs.

Without being able to appeal to the largest dating pool our lives just become so very hopeless in that department. But that doesn't mean that hope is lost, but that we have to pivot our attention elsewhere. This is why I often recommend aspie males to focus on hobbies instead of women. But one thing that prevents them from doing this is their abuse of pornography. Which is the elephant in the room that keeps aspie males in a perpetual state of supplication towards their romantic life. Seeking but not finding year after year after year wrecks havoc on our brains, but we'd be much happier if we didn't seek at all. This is what needs to be offered to us, but it all has to start by advising these males to stay away from pornography and abusing themselves. Which is its own battle. We seek and don't get and so we turn to pornography as an outlet, but that's not an outlet at all because it's like pouring gasoline on a fire. It just makes things worse.

I don't like the typical responses people give 'not all women are liek that', the truth of the matter is that humans are very vain creatures and considering women are a part of the human race, that means women are as vain as men are. We are animals, and like the animals there are conditions in order for us to consider a suitor. I don't know why this terrifies some people. The sooner humans accept the limits to our psychology the better we can work with it, rather than against. Yes in the end, we're just animals, that's all that we are, and if you want to say that we're something more, then you're going to have to adopt religion.

There is a reason why the Book of Ecclesiastes says often and repeatedly. ALL is vanity. We're very vain, and all IS vanity. The only way out is through religion but that's another topic.

I don't know. Do aspie men simply just dislike aspie women?

People dislike themselves and others. Look at the suicide rates, look at the homicide rates, look at child abuse rates, look at rates of domestic violence & divorce.

When examining the post histories of several men who have complained about lack of popularity with women, one under-riding theme seems to play out:

^ that is a very good point.

If I’d never let my flat mate in first year halls at uni drag me down to the student union on the first day there:
• I'd never have been press-ganged into the local metal scene by a bloke who liked my jacket and boots,
• Never been accepted as “he’s quiet and dreamy but he’s one of us” by the lads & lasses there,
• I’d never have met the first girl I took out on a date,
• Never have been invited upstairs by girl who asked me to walk her home after dark,
• Never met my first serious girlfriend...

and never had the knowledge that I could do this thing when I met the woman who’s now my wife.

I don’t have a problem with punks. That’s a culture I wish I could engage with more but I can’t because there is no punk scene in my area. The closest is Austin but I can’t go because of the damn coronavirus shutting down everything.

Having male friends won’t magically change things. Whenever I hang out with the men who work at the comic book store, women don’t think any differently of me. Women hardly ever go to the store anyway. I also find it insulting that you think I am a creep just because I struggle socially.

In a word, no, nothing is ever as simple as it appears to anybody.

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